“If you want to turn your life around, try thankfulness. It will change your life mightily” ~Gerald Good
Thank you for that saying Gerald Good! I thought that everyone knows how to be grateful or can feel gratitude from their hearts. Now, I know that is not the case because I experience so many situations, so often where I think that if only a person could say “thank you” it would create so much ease into their lives and leave others feeling lighter around them.
What is ingratitude?
Webster’s Dictionary defines “Ingratitude” as: “Forgetfulness of, or poor return for, kindness received.” It can also be defined as not appreciating or valuing what you have, or have been given. Unexpressed gratitude is also ingratitude!
Why don’t we say thank you often enough?
– Simple lack of awareness that it is important to appreciate those around us or the things we have or what we are given
– A feeling of entitlement
– Feeling that if we did say thank you it would give someone else power over us
– Lack of time, too busy with everyday routines or always thinking that we are eventually going to get to it…
“The struggle ends when the gratitude begins” ~Neale Donald Walsch
“Gratitude is the least of the virtues, but ingratitude is the worst of vices” ~Thomas Fuller
It is easy to say “thank you” when things are going well, when we receive gifts and others express kindness to us or when we feel that life is blessing us and all of our needs are met. I have learnt that it is also necessary to say “thank you” when things are not going well because life itself is made of light and dark. If the sun does not set in the night, there will be no sunrise in the morning.
Several years ago, I experienced a heavy period o darkness in my life. I was so upset and hurt about personal circumstances that I dwelled in feeling sorry for myself. The sorrier I felt for myself the more life seem to put me in more situations to feel sorrier for myself. However, I read somewhere to try being grateful for 5 things everyday. Surprisingly as soon as I started this as part of my regular morning and night routine, the cloud started to lift over my head. Something shifted inside of me as I started expressing gratitude for the basic things in life like food, safety, a home, kids, the earth, the air that I breathe, the job that I had etc… I also challenged myself to find new things to be grateful for so I kept an eye out for opportunities to say thank you to others for being a blessing in my life. I remember thinking back to even people who had helped me along the way in my life and one day I sent cards and e-mails to thank them for their contribution to my life. The response from them was so beautiful…the truth is that when you say thank you, both you and the receiver equally benefit from this positive energy exchange. This was all over 15 years ago and the attitude of gratitude has continued to prevail in my life. I say “thank you” to everything now… the good, the bad and the ugly because saying thank you creates more ease and helps me to find balance quicker than remaining in a state of ingratitude.
“Gratitude is an opener of locked-up blessings” ~Marianne Williamson
TuneIn to the many things you can choose to be grateful about. StepUp to express that gratitude to someone out loud or with a written note or a small gift of appreciation. Watch the positive energy that will flow into your life… if you just practice it for 7 days straight, you will bring blessings into your life and the life of someone else!