Last weekend, Thanksgiving at my house was a “beautiful chaos”. We had 15 people for dinner – some people whom we planned to have over and some who came over in a spontaneous way. Now, I love entertaining and love having people over but I must admit I did not plan for this one properly. In the middle of people arriving, the food was not all organized and neither was the table! I panicked because I also realized that the table was too small to accommodate all of us. I got even more frazzled trying to entertain as well as continue on with the cooking! After fretting with myself for a while, I decided to let it all go and go with the flow. At one point there were so many of us in the kitchen trying to get the dinner under control, that I got dizzy.
Yet, in all the “chaos” of entertaining guest, getting the food on the table, having little kids squabble and run all over the place, the house suddenly became warm and full of an “aliveness”, which was so joyful! Since there were too many of us to sit around the table, everyone organically moved into the living room, pulled up chairs and sat around in a circle. The sound of laughter, conversations and giggles filled the air. Watching the little kids play and run around, young people busy with their own conversations and older people – all mingling together was priceless.
In the middle of it all, I realized that having all the right cutlery, tableware and set up was not the essence of Thanksgiving. Hearing the joy in their voices, watching how everyone just pitched in to help with serving, cleaning up and generally making sure that others were o.k, was the real essence of celebrating thanksgiving. I could feel this genuine friendship, sense of care and happiness in everyone and that created the warmth in the room.
This experience made me reflect on several things:
– People who genuinely want to spend time with you, don’t really care about all “the other stuff”. They show up and participate in your life and their energy adds beauty to your space.
– Sometimes we try so hard in planning and organizing, that we forgot the “Who” we are really planning for. It is people who bring joy and “aliveness” to our lives. The “other stuff” are add-ons to creating a better experience.
– If we had limited ourselves to having exactly the right number of people over for dinner to fit around the table, I would have missed the opportunity to enjoy the presence of four other people who would have otherwise spent Thanksgiving on their own. They added the extra joy to our household.
– Having people who are multi-generational adds to our experience of life and keeps us connected to both the joys and challenges of various age groups.
TuneIn to some of the chaos you might be experiencing in your life. Can you filter and see some “beautiful” things coming out of it? StepUp to simply go with the flow – let it all go and watch it unfold as it should. Within all the imperfections in life, everything is perfectly fine.
What experiences have you had that seemed to be a bit chaotic but turned out fine in the end? Do share with us.
Have a beautiful day!