The WOW effect.

Be proactive in making choices which add the

Some days are dull. Some days are exciting.  Some days are boring.

Whose responsibility is it to make our days matter?

Can we shift our days from being humdrum to adding the WOW effect?

I don’t believe that we can have WOW days every day but I do believe that we can be proactive  to have  WOW experiences often enough.  WOW experiences helps to boost our energy, lighten our mood and may even change our DNA.  WOW experiences live in our bodies long after the experience, and can transform us by shifting our thinking and helping us to reach for what may have been impossible before.  WOW experiences lift our vibration. As our energy rises, others are attracted to us because they can feel the WOW effect all around us.  We become playful, excited, joyful, curious and can even be entertaining as well.  We can even sell a WOW product and experience to another because it has touched us so deeply.

Four of my WOW experiences over the last few months include:

IMAG4604a) Watching that giraffe strut pass the land rover at the Nairobi National Park in Kenya.  The majestic beauty of the creature and the manner in which it claimed it’s space, WOWED me.

b) Sitting at Washington Square listening to music from various musicians.  One evening, there were drummers who were drumming African music and I could feel the music coming from their souls.  Each beat left me feeling, “WOW, they are so talented!” I was moved to the fact that they chose to bless the square with their talent by showing up at a public park to play music.  In one particular instance, an older woman moved as closely as she could to a black musician who was playing a saxophone.  His music left memory which WOWED my internal auditory system.

c) Experiencing  superb customer service  in Kenya.  I watched young people serve with a smile. They demonstrated proper etiquette and  great care for their guests.  This happened very often. I thought, “WOW! They are so well trained.  They provide excellent customer service.”

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d) Doing a photo shoot with my friend Nyamulola.  When she came through the door, she looked at my face and said, ‘WOW! You look so glamorous!”

The impact of the photo shoot was stunning and made me think, “WOW! I am looking great in those photos!”

Sometimes, we may not even have to create the WOW effect for ourselves.  It happens when you are paying attention to what is around you. Nature provides endless opportunities to feel the WOW effect – watch the splendor of a sunrise; walk along a deserted beach; stand on top of a mountain; pick berries; cut fresh flowers; listen to the quiet sounds of a sleeping baby…  I am sure that you can think of so many more examples.

You can be proactive in ensuring that you put yourself in situations where your passion, interest and likes come together – it is likely that you will find something to say: ” WOW I LOVE this!”

Live your future now… create WOW moments!

Love,

Magdalene

 

 

 

 

 

 

Small things which can inspire your team at work…

“One day, I just left the job. I felt underappreciated and undervalued.”

I have been managing people in various capacities for three decades and I feel very fortunate to have worked with amazing people everywhere I have worked.  As a younger manger, I experienced some stressful situations but thanks to wonderful mentors and great role models, I have been able to grow my management skills. Over the years, I have listened to hundreds of people who have shared their experiences about why they have left their jobs.  The most common ones which I have heard are:

“I felt underappreciated and undervalued.”

 “I felt that I was not being useful any more.”

“I do not like my manager.”

“My supervisor is not nice.”

I am still work in progress but here are a few things which I have learnt over the years and which I also practice as a manager.

  1. Take time to understand your own personality and what motivates and inspires you to succeed.

I am a big picture person.  My personality type is that of a visionary.  As a result, I know that wherever I work, I need to know what the big picture is, so that I can connect with it. If there is no vision, then I know that I will start to engage in a conversation about having a vision. Secondly, I love people.  I love to see them succeed and grow.  My personality is such that when someone joins my team, I immediately start to think of how I can support this person to be the best person he/she can be. Thirdly, I love inspiration and find ways to inspire others.

  1. Be sure to recruit the right person for the right job.

We are all unique and we all have our strengths and weaknesses.  Since I know that I am a visionary, when I recruit, I know that I need people who are analytical and who are also high producers. In this way, I work with others who can complement my skills and I can also complement their skills. A good team comprises of individuals who are multi-skilled. Over the last two years, I have used a very simple personality test to get a basic understanding of the individuals who are working with me.  The results of their personality test gives me an opportunity to understand their natural strengths and weaknesses. I use these results to support them to gain new skills, experience and knowledge.

  1. Praise and reward staff when they contribute to the team or simply when they fulfill their tasks.

Words like, ‘I am proud of you.’; ‘Well done!’; ‘Great job,’ are great mood boosters.  Human beings love to feel appreciated and valued.  When others feel that you hold them in high esteem, they work with love and joy.  Happy people create a healthy work environment.

4. Hold regular team meetings and let staff take turns to chair meetings and add their own special flair to the meeting. My current team always surprises me.  Each of us take a turn at chairing our team meetings.  I am always so delighted when they introduce new props or bring snacks or create a special theme or icebreaker.

5. Empower them with the skills, knowledge and insights to help them succeed at their jobs and even to be well equipped at other great opportunities. Let them take full responsibility for the tasks which they have been assigned to.  Allow them to make mistakes.  Provide learning opportunities.  Don’t expect them to do it the way that you do it.  Provide opportunities to talk about the end result but give them time to work out their own processes. Different personalities work things out differently.

6. Involve your entire team in the planning process.By nature, we like to know what is coming up.  That is why we look forward to birthdays and celebrations! Most human beings like to have a sense of what to expect in the short to medium term

7. Inform them of changes as soon as you know that there are changes coming up. Generally, human beings don’t like change.  If your team is going through a change, be sure to get everyone around the table to talk about it, listen to their views, provide rational explanations for the changes and engage in processes that helps everyone to take ownership of the change process.  If team members are part of the change process, it is likely that they will support you and embrace the changes.

Here are some things that  can demotivate staff and slow productivity:

  1. Don’t ever talk down to your staff.
  2. Don’t ever make another human being feel smaller than you, regardless of your position.
  3. Don’t ever shout and scream at your staff.  If you do these things, the damage is irreparable.
  4. Don’t hold a bad intention for anyone on your team.  Bad intentions can manifest some really awful things.
  5. Don’t criticize your staff at their backs or in front of them. This makes people very defensive and then they withdraw.

Live your future now… pay attention to how you treat your staff or your coworkers.

Love,

Magdalene

The Weeping Soul

The laughter has died

Angels cannot find their way home

Where has the magic gone?

Only showers of tears

Will bring the summer waves to your shores

The Weeping Soul

The dance stopped in mid air

The sunlight burns

Where has the music gone?

Regrets

Remorse

Cannot replace the moments gone by

Pictures captured in shades of grey

Where has the blissful world gone to?

Sadness

Sorrow

The laughter has died

Angels cannot find their way home

Where has the magic gone?

Only showers of tears

Will bring the summer waves to your shores

Mags,

 

 

Travel within your soul

The world is a beautiful place.

It is not always about taking a plane or travelling somewhere far.  Right in your own back yard, there are beautiful things to discover.

Let us embrace all of nature; let the wind play in your hair; let the sunshine warm your skin; let the cool rains pour on your head; feel the soft grass under your feet or see the beauty of the plains of virgin white snow; hold someone dear for just a moment longer.

Travel within your own soul to find the things which inspire you to reach for more and sleep peacefully,  knowing that you opened your eyes to see beauty, right in front of you, as often as possible.

Love,

Magdalene

One New Year’s Resolution which I banned…

“I developed a habit to write each morning for about an hour and by the time I was done, I felt more grounded. I felt that I had touched a part of my soul that was longing to be nurtured. I paid more attention to what I ate, drank more water and added more fiber to my diet. That same year, I started blogging.What I have learnt from this experience is that my soul needs creative expression. Actually, consistency matters when we are trying to change something in our lives.”

Magdalene 1st blogFor many years, until 2012,  one of my favourite resolutions was to lose weight.  I thought I would look so much sexier and feel so much better about myself, if only I was ten pounds less.  I never succeeded to maintain that goal throughout the year.  I have started more yoga, exercise and diet routines than I would care to mention here.   I have paid for gym memberships and not worked out at all in the gym.  I have felt like a total failure for not being faithful to my own resolutions.

In 2012,  I replaced weight loss with, “Exercise regularly and eat healthy meals”. Since then, I don’t bother weigh myself anymore – in fact I don’t even have a scale! I know when I have put on some extra pounds and I know exactly what to do to take it off. I no longer burry myself in shame for not being leaner, sexier, more glamorous or more beautiful.  I am all those things every single day and I truly believe that I am.   I no longer wish for any magic pill to take away the pounds. I know that it takes discipline to keep yourself fit and I know that I need to put in effort to get results.

In 2013 I wrote  a blog called – Lose 10 lbs. by writing. Truly, I had lost 10 lbs. which I attributed towards writing.

“I developed a habit to write each morning for about an hour and by the time I was done, I felt more grounded.  I felt that I had touched a part of my soul that was longing to be nurtured. I paid more attention to what I ate, drank more water and added more fiber to my diet. That same year, I started blogging.What I have learnt from this experience is that my soul needs creative expression. Actually, consistency matters when we are trying to change something in our lives.”

Here is how my subconscious mind works (and maybe yours too!). When we say, “I want to lose weight”, our subconscious minds understands that there is something wrong with us. It understands that we are lacking something to feel complete. Chances are that you will keep on feeling frustrated with not getting to your  weight loss goal and go right back to poor eating habits or not exercising regularly.   Do you seriously value your beautiful body beyond the looking good part?

When I say, “I exercise regularly and eat healthily’, my subconscious gets exactly that. I don’t need to lose weight. What I need is a healthy body. I can have a healthy body if I eat healthy foods and exercise regularly. If I don’t have access to the gym, I go for a walk. If it is too cold outside, I walk in an indoor shopping mall. I can even do yoga at home!  The pressure of weight loss is no longer a burden on my emotional body.

My body feels valued and respected when I take good care of it. I can feel that all the cells are happy and rejuvenated.

How can creative expression help you to overcome obstacles and move closer to your life goals?  Sometimes, the breakthrough happens when we deal feed our souls with the right nourishment. Is it dance? Music? Reading? Writing? Painting? Sculpting?

Live your future NOW… touch your soul.

Love,

Magdalene

 

Let Nothing Disturb You – Prayer of St.Theresa of Avila

St. Theresa of Avila

Over the last few days, I have been busy decluttering my space both at the office and at home.  It brings fresh energy, makes you feel better about your work and sets a tone of preparation for exciting things to come.

I found old photographs, cards, poems, gifts and souvenirs from friends…I even found a notebook with phone numbers of friends whom I have not been in touch with for a long time! I redecorated a bulletin board in my office and stuck some thank you cards and photos of my colleagues at work, my loved ones and even colleagues who have moved to other countries or other jobs.  However, in all of this cleaning, I also came across these words from St. Theresa of Avila, which I wrote several years ago.  It is a timeless, priceless and holds true today.

Let go of your worries.  Have peace in your heart.

 

Let nothing disturb you

Let nothing frighten you

All things pass away

God never changes

Patience obtains all things

He who has God lacking for nothing

God alone suffices

Theresa of Avila

Love,

Magdalene

Any Value in Planning 2016 NOW?

It took us only 30 minutes to plan our major events and activities for 2016. Each planned activity is an intention which we put out in the universe. The manifestation of all of our dreams begins with a seed of intention. Now, I feel excited about the future because roles and responsibilities are divided; there are clearer lines for accountability and we will be able to measure our success. Our plan also leaves lots of space for being spontaneous!

For the first time in a decade, I even know exactly when I will be taking my holidays! That is amazing!

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‘Let our advance worrying become advance thinking and planning.’ Winston Churchill.

If  you know me well enough, you will know that in my personal life, I live in the moment, except when life seriously demands otherwise.   It works most of the time for me and I believe that it is because of a deeper and stronger alignment which I have with the universe. The universe, in some magical way, knows what I need, even before it comes out of my mouth.

However, while I love being spontaneous, I do wonder how much more successful and purpose driven I could be, if only I invested some more time in planning NOW. While there is much fun and high adrenaline in living in the NOW and being spontaneous,  it can also be  a stressful experience for others who want to support me and spend time with me.  When others don’t know what to expect, it leaves them feeling frustrated and not included. This is not my intention but I know that this is what happens.

Last year, when my partner invited me to plan our calendar of activities for the year, I felt that my body moved immediately into resistance mood.  I hate thinking so much in advance… a whole year! Thankfully he does not give up on me that easily!  This year he extended the planning invitation again and I was much more willing to go through the process.

It took us only 30 minutes to plan our major events and activities for 2016. Each planned activity is an intention which we put out in the universe. The manifestation of all of our dreams begins with a seed of intention and imagination. Now, I feel excited about the future because roles and responsibilities are divided; there are clearer lines for accountability and we will be able to measure our success. Our plan also leaves lots of space for being spontaneous!

For the first time in a decade, I even know exactly when I will be taking my holidays!  That is amazing!

Try this for yourself.  Write out all the months of the year on a piece of paper.  Ask yourself:

  1.  What would I like to achieve this year?

  2. When would I like to achieve it?

  3. Who do I need to help me?

  4. What will it feel like when I have achieved it?

Live your future Now by planning NOW… it may just save you time and energy!  In addition, it may create such a powerful intention that your soul will be singing all the way with you!

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Love,

Magdalene

 

 

16 Quotes by George Eliot, to Move YOU forward in 2016!

 

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Happy 2016!  May this year bring you great health, peace, prosperity and much happiness.

About a year ago, George Eliot showed up as one of my spiritual mentors in 10`4.  (There is an article about how this all happened in the 2nd edition of Mags Magazine which will be released soon.)  However, since she has been whispering to me all afternoon to publish those 16 quotes… here they are.  Enjoy reading and please let me know of your plans for 2016!

About George Eliot:

Mary Ann Evans (22 November 1819 – 22 December 1880; alternatively “Mary Anne” or “Marian”), known by her pen name George Eliot, was an English novelist, journalist, translator and one of the leading writers of the Victorian era. She is the author of seven novels, including Adam Bede (1859), The Mill on the Floss (1860), Silas Marner (1861), Middlemarch (1871–72), and Daniel Deronda (1876), most of them set in provincial England and known for their realism and psychological insight.

She used a male pen name, she said, to ensure her works would be taken seriously. Female authors were published under their own names during Eliot’s life, but she wanted to escape the stereotype of women only writing lighthearted romances. (Wikepedia)

Quotes:

  1. “It is never too late to be what you might have been.”

2.      “What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?”
3.      “Blessed is the man who, having nothing to say, abstains from giving us wordy evidence of the fact.”
4.      “A friend is one to whom one may pour out the contents of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that gentle hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.”
5.      “It will never rain roses: when we want to have more roses, we must plant more roses.”

6.      “What greater thing is there for two human souls, than to feel that they are joined for life–to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting?”

7.      “It is always fatal to have music or poetry interrupted.”

8.      “It seems to me we can never give up longing and wishing while we are still alive. There are certain things we feel to be beautiful and good, and we must hunger for them.”
9.      “And, of course men know best about everything, except what women know better.”
10.  “Life seems to go on without effort when I am filled with music.”
11.  “Keep true. Never be ashamed of doing right. Decide what you think is right and stick to it.”
12.   “Adventure is not outside man; it is within.”
13.  “Hold up your head! You were not made for failure, you were made for victory. Go forward with a joyful confidence.”
14.  “Our deeds determine us, as much as we determine our deeds.”
15.  “Don’t judge a book by its cover”
16.  “Blessed is the influence of one true, loving human soul on another.”

Love,

Magdalene