“Keep me away from the wisdom which does not cry, the philosophy which does not laugh and the greatness which does not bow before children.” Kahlil Gibran
Lately, I have been thinking about how we share wisdom. Lately, it seems that the more I know, the less it matters. What stirs my heart strings, is watching, feeling and being in the presence of those who are kind, loving, supportive and willing to receive another, at whatever space and place they are in their lives. The wisest words someone shared during a very difficult time in my life, was, “This is not permanent. This too will pass.” And, it was true – it did pass.
I understand how my own wisdom grew when I was wrapped in the presence of kindness and something triggered in my soul, that I too, wanted to be kind. The feeling it left inside of me, expanded my heart. No one spoke of kindness. It’s presence spoke louder than words ever could.
I understand why I cry when my heart is too full to speak and how much it means when I can rest my head against someone who will hold no judgement of my tears. The feeling of acceptance made me wiser and taught me that letting go of judgement, releases a burden from the soul who is already being tortured.
I was about 21 years old when I had an argument with a gentleman who was 31 – ten years my senior. During the heated argument he shouted, “Why don’t you just grow up!” I remember thinking about these words for a long time. How could I not see his point of view? How could I grow up? When I hit my thirties, I remember thinking that he had an important point, which at 21, I could not relate to. I simply did not have the life experience, maturity or wisdom to know better.
One of the common frustrations of parents, is that children would not listen and take their advice and sometimes land in trouble when the parents have given information, warnings, beatings, threats and treats to help them have a wiser point of view.
Why is it so hard for children to simply follow the parents advice and point of view?
Well, children do not have the experience and maturity of adults. They can only see life based on their own life experiences and they too have their own life paths to follow – which will consist of success, failures, feelings of self-doubt, anxiety… and while we may want to save them… it is their journey – which is happening in a different time zone than ours. There are some good values which are timeless but the day to day life experiences may be different.
And of course we can share our wisdom and experiences through our conversations, stories, modelling behaviours etc… but we need to keep in mind, everyone comes into their own, in their own time.
All we need to do, is to be… present, loving, supportive… and understanding. No need to beat up on ourselves if no one is paying attention to our earned wisdom.
Cry, laugh… and immerse in the wonderful positive energies of this great universe which carries all the wisdom we need to live our soul missions.