Can you live your future in the NOW?
""" Do you live your future in the now?""¬† I asked Mr. Luis on the train while he took a break from¬†attending to the passengers. ""No."" he said. ""My future? I cannot even think about it.¬† I have to live in the present now, to take care of my wife and children and make sure that they have everything they need.¬† Having children is a lot of responsibility - I never imagined that it was so much work!"" He shared with¬†me¬†what his single life was like as a flight attendant in Brazil and the thrill of flying all over the world. Settling to¬†having a family, has certainly had an impact on his sense of freedom and adventure although he totally loves his family.¬† He thinks that one day, he will perhaps have his old life back.¬† He feels that his life is on pause while he is waiting for the kids to grow up. But what if there is no pause? When my kids were younger, I too thought my life was on pause while I raised them.¬† I could not¬†fully¬†enjoy¬†raising my kids because of¬†the void of not having my previous lifestyle. However, one day I realized that, ¬†""This is your life.¬† This family¬†is your future.¬† There is no pause -¬†you have to find a way to make everything you do now, matter enough so that you can ¬†connect the dots.¬†You can live your future¬†by paying attention to what you do¬† in the now."" Years later,¬†I can see that if I had continued to focus on the single lifestyle I no longer had, I would have missed out on the new opportunities that life was presenting to me to grow and invest in my role as a mother and also living in the now with them. Across from my seat on the train,¬† were three¬†young people, so I seized the opportunity to interview them as well. When I interview people, I actually live my future now, as this is all part of my bigger future and I can feel how right it feels for me. ¬†They were from Vietnam, studying in¬†Toronto and heading to Ottawa for a two-day visit during their study break. ""Do you live your future¬† in the now?""¬†I asked them.¬† At first, they looked a bit confused.¬†¬†Elise tried to¬†explain that the future was something that she was planning for as she is studying¬†Human¬†Resources at school, ¬†Loane¬†said that she plans the future step by step - she needs to have a map of the plans and so far she is on track with the plan; ¬†Will said that he lives fully in the present and enjoys his life in the now, although he has bigger plans for the future. Will shared¬† his favourite quote by Steve Jobs: ""For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked¬† myself: 'If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am¬† about to do today?' And whenever the answer has been 'No' for too many days in a¬† row, I know I need to change something."" Will had only learnt of the trip¬†to Ottawa¬†the night before but he jumped on board because it was aligned¬†with what he likes to do - travelling, exploring, meeting new people.¬†The three shared their life experiences in choosing to study in Canada and I was touched¬†by their motivation¬†to make their lives better, to make sure that their parents were proud of them; to increase their knowledge of life and the world so that they can live better lives.¬† Will's contact card. spoke about his own philosophy. ¬†The front was black and gold. He designed it himself with the crown symbol at the top and a¬†dot in the center which¬†represents three people.¬† His belief is that three people makes things better than 2 people when they come together. There is a balance to solve conflict and to create more opportunities. Interestingly enough, he was travelling in a group of three. The back of his card was black and white and said, ""Different is beautiful.""¬† I think that this says it all!¬† By just living now from that inner space, does make you live your future now - it is your mental mindset about life. The three young people left a few tips to other people to ""Live their future now.""
- Balance your health¬†daily.¬† Workout, eat right and think positive.
- Increase your socialization so that you build relationships and not live in isolation.
- Make a big enough plan as a guide but enjoy your life fully in the present. You need to have an idea of where you are going.
- Live your life before you die.
- Increase your knowledge everyday of something¬†which you are interested¬†in. Learn something new - it makes your mind feel fresh.
- Travel - it makes you see new things.
- Follow your interest and do what you love.
- Do good for others because life¬†returns it to you.