Four MISTAKES he made that turned me right off!
" ""So have you been single for a long time?""¬† I asked him. ""No."" he said. ""What was your last relationship like?""¬† I asked. And that was when MISTAKE #1 happened!¬† He started to tell me about his last¬†partner and even mentioned her name.¬†The problem¬†was that she was someone I knew very well (he had no idea!).¬†Hearing those details made me¬†cringe and it was my first time meeting him!¬†When you meet a girl for the first¬†time, ¬†NEVER talk bad about your ex and please don't mention names! I gulped and breathed in deeply. ""What do you like to do in your free time?""¬† I asked. He told me that he liked to walk and work out at the gym. I looked at him twice to make sure that my eyes¬†were not playing tricks on me.¬†His belly hung like a huge ball in front of him. He was out of breath¬† just walking¬† a few meters with me. And that was when MISTAKE #2¬†happened!¬† He told me that he¬† would SOON¬†start¬†his workout again.¬† He had not been to the gym for over three years!¬† Really - you LIKE to work out?¬† NEVER up sell¬†yourself.¬† If you like to walk and workout, it should be your lifestyle.¬† Not something you are thinking about!¬† It is like being broke and telling me that you will soon be a millionaire! ""See those shoes,"" he said.¬†¬†""I have had them for¬†8 years - I¬†paid a lot of money for them."" And we immediately jumped into MISTAKE #3.¬† He proudly told me how much he saved. He was CHEAP about spending money.¬†My stomach churned as I looked at the¬†old, worn out pair of sneakers and could not help but wonder what else was over 8 years old!¬† Oh God, please help me get to my car faster so I can get rid of this guy!¬† Never let a girl know how cheap you are!¬†¬†For goodness sake, look modern and classy, especially when you are meeting a person for the first time! It was an if the universe heard my cry to get away from him and immediately created¬†MISTAKE #4!¬†¬† He suddenly realized that he did not have the key to his car and said, ""Oh no, I think I left my keys in my car!"" ""Oh dear,"" I said. ""What are you going to do?"" ""I have to go back now,"" he said. ""I just have to go back."" ""O.K."" ¬†I said shaking my head.¬† He suddenly started hobbling in the other direction, completely disengaged with me while I stood there watching him. I burst out laughing on the side of the street!¬† It would take only a crazy person like myself to entertain him up to MISTAKE #4.¬† If you are out with a girl and¬†you lose your keys, you can't just ignore her!¬†You got to find a way to manage the situation and show some¬† problem solving skills! This is actually a true story of what happened with someone I met for the first time.¬†It sounds¬† so funny that you would almost think I¬†made it up.¬†¬†However, as I¬†often reflect¬†quite deeply about the¬†things that happen daily in my life, I must say that the universe responded to me¬†exactly as I requested.¬† I¬†ask the universe to show me the signs I need to see¬†in a person¬†right from the beginning so I can be¬†guided¬† to know about ¬†their suitability in my life.¬†Within¬†an hour, I had been given four warning signs. I wonder why many of us don't see the RED ALERT signs¬†early on in a relationship.¬†¬†Perhaps¬†we don't¬†pay¬†attention?¬† Perhaps we are too busy thinking that we could change a person to being what¬†we want him/her to be? Perhaps we simply do not know what¬†we are looking for?¬† Now I can¬†spot the good signs and the bad sign in¬†an instant.¬† This is the beauty of maturing.¬† At my age, there are a few things I¬†simply turn me off:¬†talking about your ex,¬† being¬†¬†cheap and choosing to look ""old"" instead of being vibrant;¬†¬†lack of self-awareness; lack of¬† caring for your body by eating properly and exercising; ¬†lack of problem solving skills. If you can't take care of yourself, how will you take care of me? If you are single, TuneIn¬†to the things¬†¬†that¬†bug you about the person you are dating or getting to know. ¬†It may be¬†hard to articulate it but you can feel it. If it feels wrong, chances are IT IS wrong.¬† Listen to their words and see if it actually matches their actions. StepUp to claim your feelings and don't settle for less than you truly deserve. Love, Magdalene"