What would make the day better for you?

In November 2018, a year ago, I playfully posed a question on my FB page to ask my friends – what would make the day better for them. I provided several options for answers. I moved on and completely forgot about my playful survey. The post came up in my memories this November and I was surprised to see that there were over 57 responses to my question and that the responses were forming a pattern. I reposted the same question again on November 3rd, 2019 and it drew some more responses from over 30 cities across the globe.

On the graph below, I have showcased the top 8 responses. The top response is spending time with someone I like, followed by a hug and then a soul conversation. These three top responses show our human connection and how important it is across the globe.

I believe that our human connection is what sets us apart, what we long for and what we are also afraid of. While we superficially mask our emotions or spend more time behind screens… perhaps what would make us feel whole, connected and great contributors of our societies, is extending the warmth of friendship.

A few other responders chose red lipstick, making love, not being in the presence of a particular person, going to work, not going to work, staying home, reading all the responses to the survey and a road trip.

You can participate in the survey too! by clicking on this link.

We need to remind ourselves of the beauty of human connection and of nature and pull ourselves out of devices for a moment and appreciate what it is just to be human beings. Olivia Wilde

Support my work in helping others to tune in and step up in living their soul missions.

Love,

Mags

Ask for help

One of my earliest teachings in life was that we all had a Guardian Angel who watched over us. During our First Communion classes, we learnt the prayer:

Angel of God,
my guardian dear,
to whom God’s love commits me here,
ever this day,
be at my side
to light and guard,
to rule and guide. Amen,

The thought of each one of us having a Guardian Angel has always brought me comfort. Later in my adult life as I explored the concept of angels more thoroughly, I learnt that our angels are always present but we must ask them for help. They will not barge into our lives. They wait for us.

I find comfort in knowing that my Guardian Angel is only a thought away and that I can ask for help. And you know what? I have discovered that there are many more angels that are available to us. We just have to learn how to tune in and connect with them. In times of need, crisis or desperation, hold the thought of an angel in your mind. Even if you don’t know much about angels, I am sure that one will bring comfort to you.

I have a couple of angels in my garden. This one sits quietly amongst the flowers and never fails to bring calm to my spirit. When we purposely place objects in our environment to have a positive effect on our minds, we can move our lives from a place of feeling low to experiencing the highs of life.

For me, images of angels bring joy and calm to me.

What about you? Do you believe in angels? What other symbols do you use?

Love,

Mags

Powerful Affirmations to help you thrive in 2019

I think that I must have been about 16 years old when I was introduced to a book which changed my mindset about life – The Power of Positive Thinking, by Normal Vincent Peale. I learnt that our minds were powerful beyond measure and that anything we constantly thought about, could become our reality. After 34 years of practicing positive thinking, I am living proof that the manifestations in my life are linked to the power of positive thinking.

Our minds can think both positive and negative thoughts and both of these can become our reality. One of the things which I know now, is that it is important to monitor our thoughts because they can run our lives. Sometimes, we are not conscious that the things which show up on the outside of our lives are a direct result of the constant churning in our minds.

I have consciously used affirmations for years and I know for sure that positive affirmations have the power to help you create the reality you deeply desire Doors open when you least expect them to and amazing people and situations show up in your life.  Even when nothing tangible is evident, you feel more peaceful because your mind feels more programmed into thinking positive thoughts.

Most of us are probably using affirmations all day long without realizing it. Our self-talk, complaints, anger, sadness, happiness, feelings of power and powerlessness are all streams of affirmations which our mind absorbs. Sadly, many times, the complaints and lacks take over our mind. When sadness and lack takes over, it affects our energy fields and reduces our vibration to a very low level. Low level vibration can only attract low people and situations who vibrate at a low level. Low level vibration only leads to more stress, attracting more difficult people, complaining about more stuff and repeating our sad stories all over again.

We can consciously develop some new mind power muscles to create positive, happy affirmations. Over time, the mind will believe what you tell it to believe. Your thoughts will start to create a new belief system for you. Whatever happened before in your life, all the losses, sadness, unhappiness, will begin to fade away as those new positive affirmations take hold of your life.

I use simple, powerful affirmations such as:

I am happy.

I am taking responsibility for my life.

I am attracting all that is good, pure and beautiful to my life.

I receive miracles all day long.

I give positive energy to those who come into contact with me.

I am love. I am light.

I am breathing in all that is good, beautiful and pure into my life.

My tip today is to monitor your thought patterns and the words which you use on a daily basis to communicate to your self and to others. If you are communicating positive messages – BRAVO. Keep it up. If you are not communicating positive messages, please know that you can make a conscious change.

Love,

Mags

Maybe all you need to do is to embrace your crazy self in 2019!

All week, I have been thinking of what my word for 2019 will be and I just found it!

I don’t want to do what I did in 2018.  I chose the word FRUGAL, trying to develop some better savings habit and trying to be more careful with money… but that word just did NOT work for me.  What it made me discover about myself, was that I am NOT a frugal person and my most miserable moments were trying so hard to be frugal.  I felt that life constricted around me.  I know for sure that I enjoy living from the space of ‘unlimited abundance’ and that my serving and giving to life, that I receive 100% more than what I give. This is an deeply rooted belief and somehow, trying to be frugal caused more anxiety and constriction in my energy fields.

So, what will my 2019 word be?

CRAZY.

I will embrace my crazy self to spur me on to getting out of my head and manifesting every single crazy idea I have had about living!

As soon as the word hit my head this morning, it felt right!  It brought a smile to my face and an extra lightness and  excitement to my heart!   That is what your word for the year should feel like – right in your soul!

For most of my life, someone or the other has called me crazy! And sometimes, I have detested it because it makes me feel like something is wring with me.  But you know what, I think most of them meant it in a complimentary way. I just checked the meaning of the word crazy, and here is what I found:

ADJECTIVE
mentally deranged, especially as manifested in a wild or aggressive way.
“Stella went crazy and assaulted a visitor” · [more]
synonyms:
mad · insane · out of one’s mind · deranged · demented · [more]
extremely enthusiastic.
“I’m crazy about Cindy” · [more]
synonyms:
very enthusiastic · passionate · fanatical · excited · very keen on · [more]
(of an angle) appearing absurdly out of place or in an unlikely position.
“the monument leaned at a crazy angle”

For the records, I am not mentally deranged.

So my own definition is that I will be ‘out of my mind, extremely enthusiastic…appearing out of place or in an unlikely position!  

My sentence at the end of 2019 will be, “What a crazy year this was!”  and it will mean:

“You crazy girl lived out of your mind!  You are so extremely enthusiastic about life that you appeared out of place and ended up in unlikely positions!  Your craziness created momentum around you and you had such an enjoyable year being YOU without the safeguards for approvals and permissions!  Well done – CRAZY does it!”

I reflected a little bit on my life and also realized that in my crazy moments, I seemed to have experienced quite a lot of joy.  In 2018, I did a few crazy things – left my job for an adventure in Rwanda with Wilson – one of the best life experiences which I have had.  We travelled to Cape Town, South Africa where I watched him in admiration presenting at the World Travel Market.  We explored the city and sites of Cape Town with great enthusiasm.  I even reached out to a stranger whom I met in a FB group and we met at our hotel in Cape Town and she is now a good friend on FB.

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We rode  on a motorcycle in Rwanda with an unstable helmet through the woods and red dirt earth to get to the Twin Lakes, on the border of Rwanda and Uganda. I crazily spoke my truth  through tears and allowed myself to be vulnerable to my feelings.   I walked for hours in a strange city and sat with servers at a local restaurant, who had limited English skills,  helping me to figure out how to get back home.  Looking back, those crazy moments seem to have removed something – fear for the unknown… and then brought some new confidence in walking the unknown path.

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Today, in this moment, it feels like I need to be a bit more crazy to tap into the unknown parts of my world so that I can step up more purposefully in not merely existing but THRIVING! Overthinking can significantly alter your momentum for a life wrapped with the treasures and pleasures of LIVING.

Happy 2019!  Be your best CRAZY self.

Love,

Mags

Are you manifesting what you truly desire in your life?

“Wait, I have something for you.” My neighbour told me as we chatted between our two houses, on a snow covered lawn.  Wilson and I had arrived home just at the same time that she and her son Damon, drove in. Since being back home from Rwanda, we had barely seen them.  She quickly slipped into her house and came back with a poinsettia plant, in full bloom.  “I got this for you to support Damon’s club’s fundraising drive.” she said.  Damon is her 7 year old son whom we are very fond of.

I walked inside with the poinsettia bloom and the only words which popped into my head were, ‘How beautiful it is to manifest from thought!”

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A couple of days earlier, I was at the Home Depot and wanted to buy a poinsettia plant.  I talked myself out of it because at that moment, I could not quite figure out exactly where I would place it in the house.  The plants seem to be a bit too big for my space.   I decided that I would try to find a smaller plant.

Damon’s mom, gave me exactly the size of the plant which was a perfect match to my space.   It could easily fit on the table or on a little stand which I have in my living room.

There is something magical and reassuring about manifesting things or experiences which I really want. It makes me feel that the universe always has my back, even in the smallest ways.  How can a poinsettia show up for me, when all I did was decide that I needed a smaller plant, instead of a big one.  I said ‘No’ to the big plant quite freely.

Well… I just said it, this is one part of the magic of manifestation – DECIDE.  What is it that you want?  To say YES to something, means that you have to say NO to something else.  To say NO to something which is not in alignment with you, creates SPACE to say YES to that which you really desire.

I have noticed some trends in my life that when I am not sure about what I want or what to do, I seem to manifest exactly that – confusion, indecision, contradiction! Being undecided is also being decisive. The  universe gives me exactly what I am thinking and feeling.

What I have learnt, is to be mindful of the messages, emotions and attitudes which I hold moment by moment. In each moment, we have the poser to choose. We can all begin with clear thinking, a deep heartfelt desire and take both small and big actions to manifest our desires.

Here are a few questions for you to think about:

  1. How do you experience life?  As a negative or positive experience?
  2. What shows up in your life?  Happiness?  Contentment?  Joylessness?  Confusion? Stress?  Lack of support? Lots of support? Helpful people?  Unhelpful people?
  3. What do you give back to life?  Support?  Love? Joy?  Happiness? Joyfulness?
  4. What do you sincerely want to manifest?  A job?  A better job? A home?  A better home?  A caring family?  More money?  More time?  More self-care?  A larger table?  An education? Travelling experiences?
  5. Try to develop a vision of what that thing you want.  What does it look like?  How does it feel? Can you write it? Draw it?  Get a photo of it?

I know for sure that I (and all of us) hold the magic of manifesting our desires by unlocking the right doors to our thoughts, emotions and actions.  Unlocking those magical doors can increase our manifestations but it requires the discipline of constantly taking note of what is showing up in our lives and making quick decisions about what we CHOOSE to KEEP and what we CHOOSE to RELEASE.

In my next post, I will look at 10 things which we can do to increase our vibrational frequency and manifest more of what we desire!

Remember to like, comment or share this post if you feel that it would add a drop of goodness in our universe.

Love,

Mags

 

 

 

Transformation through life’s most difficult challenges – how Marie Claudine, a survivor of the Rwandan genocide is using her tragic experience to help orphans in Rwanda

IMAG3821(Magdalene with Marie Claudine Mukamambana, New York)

Yesterday, I had the pleasure and privilege to meet with multiple award winner, Marie Claudine Mukamambana who lost her parents, sister, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, loved ones, friends, classmates, and fellow countrymen during the Rwandan Genocide, when she was only a teenager. What touched me the most was that she has used this tragedy to find meaning in life and to give back to the orphans of Rwanda through her non-for profit organization  Whydoiexisit.org.

Her Catholic faith inspired her to seek the answer to the question of KUKI NDIHO? (Why do I exist?-Pourquoi J’existe?). This question now serves as the name of her organization, which has an extensive fundraising program in New York, as well as a presence in Belgium and South Africa. The thousands of dollars raised thus far continue to support hundreds of orphans in Rwanda.  You can read more of Marie Claudine’s work on her website and also download her book – the Power of Social Media. She is also working on her second book, ‘Forgiveness:  A Transformation Power from Pain to a Joyful Lifestyle.’  Please do look up her website to read more of her work.

Over the years I have met several survivors of the Rwandan Genocide and who have shared their heartbreaking stories with me, long before I ever thought of blogging. I remember feeling emotionally paralyzed  by the first man shared his story and told me that he had no blood family left but was so grateful to the Canadian family who had accepted him as a refuge and had treated him with the greatest kindness he could have wished for. Although I knew of the genocide, it was impersonal to me until I met a real human being who was able to share his experience with me. At that particular time in my life, I was going through my own personal challenges but after listening to his story, I had much less sympathy for myself and started being more grateful for the opportunities I had to solve my problems and not lament over them.  This man who had lost everyone in his life,  found a way to accept and to be happy.  In comparison to what he had gone through, my problems were insignificant.

Sometimes the difficulties and challenges we go through in life can leave us broken with a great feeling of despair. When we meet people like Marie, who have risen above such horrific challenges and who still has love and joy in her life, it inspires us to do the little that we can do to uplift humanity and to find a way out of our own pain.

What is your deep sorrow?

  • Feeling that no one is listening to you?
  • Losing your job?
  • No money?
  • Lack of sleep?
  • A divorce?
  • No money to buy this great brand name bag?

How are you supporting life?  What are you grateful for in your life?

From my experience, I know that by helping others in whatever capacity I can, life blesses me bountifully and provides the tools, resources, inspiration and help which I need to heal my pain.  When one person is hurt, we all hurt.  When one person is healed, we are all healed.

TuneIn to those whispers of your heart and StepUp to do something which will truly add value to your earthly home.

Ref: http://www.whydoiexist.org/

Ref: http://www.borgenmagazine.com/10-facts-rwandan-genocide/

Love,

Magdalene

Going past the affair – can your love be that strong?

Happy Valentine’s Day! Some of you may celebrate valentine’s and some may not. I celebrate everything which has the power to bring people closer to each other because I believe that love is the greatest of all.

Last night, before going to bed my daughter came to my room and brought me this present. I am yet to find out what is inside of it (I am sure that you can guess!).

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“Just in case I miss you before you leave in the  morning,” she said as she kissed me goodnight. “It is from all three of us.”

Of course I am touched by their gesture – as each one of us will be today when someone acknowledges us and reaffirms that they love us.

Over the last few weeks, I have gathered several love stories from people about their “falling in love” experiences.  I will publish a few of those but what I got to really appreciate is that love is at the core of all of us – waiting to be expressed or waiting for someone  to express it to us.  One of the most touching love experiences I heard  was this story of a wonderful old man in his 90’s who shared with me his intimate love story.

In his old age she cares for him with love, grace and compassion.  The two of them always had that special bond but there was a secret shared only by him and his wife. She was the child from an affair – a child who was not his.   Yet, his love for his wife was more powerful than the affair. She could have left him or he could have left her.  They could have chosen to spend the rest of their lives in an emotional prison but he bravely stuck to her side and never betrayed her.
“You are free to leave, if that is what you want.” he told her.  “But if you stay, I will treat this baby like my own.  No one ever needs to know.”
His love carried her through.  It carried them through.  They created their own story.  The  baby grew up with their other babies.  No one knows that secret.  In all the children, she is the most loyal, the most humble, the most loving.  It is as though their relationship was specially created for them.  He looks at her as a gift from heaven.  His devotion won the heart of his wife even more.  Their bond is unbreakable.  Their secret is divine.
If he had to do it over, he would do the same.
“Love forgives easily.” he says.  “Affairs happen, but what do you do when you truly love that one person? You accept him/her completely.  Your acceptance of the person, makes things right.  A child is a child. Love is the most powerful gift you can give someone.”
TuneIn today to see all the many ways in which love is expressed to you or around you.  StepUp to express love to someone – you will be surprised at how it can create a change in your life and someone else’s life!