A Million Blessings Between the Earth and the Sky…

Yesterday I wrote a small blog about how changing perspectives can change your results. While I was lying on the ground getting the photos of the sunflowers, I had an awakening moment of the limitless space and blessings between the earth and the sky. Now, I see the sky everyday and I walk and live on the surface of the earth so what jolted this wakening? In that particular moment, with a few view of the clear, blue sky with my back against the green grass, I felt a deep surge of gratitude flow through my body. I felt blessed feeling the sun on my skin and being able to experience the space between the earth and the sky. What limitless blessings we have in this space!

As I returned to my routines I found myself reflecting more about my awakening moment. We have over one million blessings between the earth and the sky – we only need to tune in to what flows to us more often. Often, I find myself rushing through my many activities during the day – so I know that there is a sky and an earth but I don’t tune in often enough to feel that huge sense of gratitude for all that exist in this limitless space. The best part is that most of those blessings are free. I am grateful that I have my senses to see and experience this beauty; friends to spend time with; a warm cup of coffee to enjoy; a book to read; a person to meet from a different culture; big and small animals to watch; planes that fly through the skies; plants that inspire me to garden; children to remind me of the beauty of youth; the dying to remind me to embrace and live life as fully as I can.

I like to think that I am on vacation here on this earth. I want to tune in and enjoy all the blessings between the earth and the sky – millions of blessing! I believe that the more we can count our blessings, the greater our blessings will be.

What blessings can you count now?

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Love,

Mags

A homeless man reminded me of a very important life lesson…

If you know me well enough, you would know that I have a very soft spot for people who are homeless regardless of how they became homeless.

Today, when I got out of a store an elderly homeless man approached me and asked for money to buy food. I told him that I had no cash. I truly did not think that I had any cash in my bag. I walked quickly past him towards my car. I noticed that he walked slowly with a limp. He seemed a bit disoriented and I felt dreadful that I could not help him.

I walked to my car and sat in it for a few minutes checking my phone. Suddenly I heard a knock on my window. There he was again asking me for money. “I am hungry. Please for some change to get some food.”

“I would give it to you if I had it.” I told him gently. “I don’t have any cash.”

He stood steadfastly looking at me and repeating his request. His stare and helplessness made me feel very uncomfortable. How could I walk away without helping? I started searching through all the pockets of my bag and jacket. Bingo! I got $4.00 worth of coins. I gave them to him. He gratefully accepted, thanked profusely and showered blessings upon me. It was only $4.00. I was almost ashamed of myself for giving only $4.00.

The lesson he reminded me of was PERSISTENCE. How often have I given up on an idea or something which mattered greatly to me because I was not persistent. I accepted NO too quickly. I was too tired to repeat my ask. I was afraid of being rejected. If I had been rejected a first time, chances are that I would never try again. Many times I have failed to follow up with a potential lead only because I did not get a positive response right away.

This homeless man did not accept my first no. With his limp and slow walk, he persisted and followed me to my car. He put the required effort and repeated his ask, not accepting my rejection. Eventually, he pushed me to go beyond my limits and to dig further to find the $4.00. If he was not persistent, he would not have gotten that money and I would not have gotten the satisfaction of helping him.

Before giving up on something your want, try asking again. A ‘no’ can eventually become a ‘yes’ with a little more persistence.

Love,

Magdalene

What is the WINNING factor?

Over the last couple of weeks, I have experienced a bunch of people, including myself – WINNING something or the other, or even WINNING someone! Two of my friends are getting married!

Christmas brings on that magical feeling that boosts our feelings of giving and receiving gifts, love and treasures all around us. There are many more opportunities to participate in social activities and most people seem to be in good spirits.

At our Christmas staff party, I won a beautiful collection of teas. Several other colleagues also won prizes from performances or by participating in a raffle draw.

Gemma, Aranjit and I

At a recent fundraiser, two of us won prizes from our tables, after my partner had jokingly sang, “abakadabrah… abakadabrah” on our tickets!  We have decided to take him to all future fundraisers!

Chinese Community Centre win

Those wins made me think about many other times I have won prizes such as a $10,000 prize draw for furniture, a job, a box of Christmas gifts, a lunch basket, a wine glass which can hold an entire bottle of wine, etc… what made all those wins come together?

Have you won something?

During my first year at college, I participated in a Math Competition and won! During the game, my Math Professor whispered to me, “Your confidence is shaking your opponents.”  At the end of the game they too told me that I was so confident in myself, that they gave up before they even tried to win!  We all laughed but I also knew that they were much brighter at Math than I was!

Was my confidence the winning factor?

So what is the magic formula for winning?

I conclude that it is simply SHOWING UP!

You don’t stand a chance if you don’t show up for opportunities and be willing to take risks.

Showing up for our lives means being  present and also being emotionally, intellectually and socially connected to ourselves and others.

We show up for our lives when we:

  • speak positive messages to ourselves
  • participate fully in opportunities which are available to us
  • communicate our needs, desires, wants to others
  • allow ourselves to be vulnerable
  • have an open heart
  • be attentive to the needs of others
  • create opportunities where gaps exists
  • are confident that we are winners in every aspect of our lives
  • meditate, dress up, take care of our bodies, exercise and invite good energy into our lives!

There are also our every day wins like waking up healthy, having access to good health care, being part of a loving family, having a job, coping with loss and tragedy in our lives, having our senses intact, having good friends and access to finance, letting go of what no longer serves us.

Grab your small wins and consider yourself a winner at life!

Remember too that you cannot win the lottery without a ticket!

Love,

Mags

 

Can ‘not smiling’ interfere with securing a job?

I woke up this morning thinking about a young man whom I met this week and whose smile left a smile in my heart. I was taken aback because three years ago when I first met him, his face was always so serious that I found it very difficult to relax around him. He was a very qualified individual who secured many interviews but had difficulties in securing a job.

In a nutshell, three years ago he was struggling in adapting to his new environment and also with learning English as a second language. Automatically, it created a high level of stress as he tried to focus on interpreting what was being said to him. This deep focus caused him to lose his smile during his first interactions with anyone at all. His interviewers found him to be ‘too serious’ and ‘lacked interpersonal skills’. As difficult as this may sound, first impressions are very important during interviews and unfortunately employers don’t have the time to analyze why you may have lost your smile.

Three years later, it is so much easier for him to smile freely because the language flows much easier and he is now more comfortable with his environment. He has also been able to secure permanent employment and is now creating a plan for career growth. His interpersonal skills are much more visible now and he creates a great first impression.

Your facial expression, dress and body language are all interconnected.

So, what is it about smiling that connects us with others? Here are two quotes to think about:

“A warm smile is the universal language of kindness.” William Arthur Ward

“A smile is the universal welcome.” Max Eastman

Personally, I love being around people who smile, laugh and bring a positive aura into my space. Research proves that smiling and laughing create physiological changes in our bodies, even when we are not aware of it.

There are several huge benefits to smiling and laughing:

  1. The muscles in our faces relax and makes us look more approachable. It invites others into our presence. Employers and coworkers find that people who smile create a happier work environment. Even at home and with friends, our smiles and laughter enhances our communication.
  2. Endorphins are released into our bodies. Endorphins are happy hormones which has several benefits of lowering our blood pressure and reducing production of cortisol which is a stress hormone.
  3. When smiles break into laughter, it expands our lungs which brings more oxygen into our bodies. This gives the same feeling as though you have exercised!

My tip for this post: Practice smiling. If it does not come naturally to you, fake it until it happens automatically. Find things to smile about and hang around people who inspire smiles and laughter.

Love,

Magdalene

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Your sweat is the bond which you have with yourself to follow your heart.

Your sweat is the bond which you have with yourself to follow your heart, believe in yourself and to do the work which is burning in your soul. Don’t be afraid to sweat even though no one else may understand what drives you. The work which your soul is destined to fulfil was not assigned to you loosely but rather, you were trusted to carry it out. This journey is unique to you and only YOU will understand the magnitude of the work of your soul – only when you work from the soul level.

You may wonder then, if it is your soul work, why isn’t it being done faster or without tribulations or trials?  You may wonder why you are being faced with barriers, rejections and lack of support. The answer is simple – the soul needs to grow and experience many emotions across its many lifetimes. This lifetime may not be the one where you will reap the amazing rewards you feel that you should reap.  However, if the dimension which has to be done in this lifetime, is not done, there isn’t a chance that you will ever reap what you are capable of, even though you may live through several lifetimes.

Make this lifetime count.  Don’t worry so much about the outcomes.  Engage in the present.  Make daily choices to support your soul work. Stand proud and tall today for every single bead of sweat which has come from your own inner efforts and whisper a word of gratitude to the Universe, your  Creator, your soul group which holds you in reverence and believes in you.

“Gold medals aren’t really made of gold. They’re made of sweat, determination, and a hard-to-find alloy called guts.” Dan Gable

“Nobody ever drowned in his own sweat.” Ann Landers

What is built from within, will stand the test of time.

The RIO games demonstrate such excellence, passion and commitment at various levels – of the athletes, of families, communities and countries. I admire that resilience, focus and determination of our athletes, both in winning and also not being placed at the top. There is no loser.  I have tremendous admiration for each person who took up the challenge to compete.  Every single act of commitment to our passions is a blessing to the world in one form or another.

Their performances remind me that each of them built their skills and competences over a long period of time.  We can apply the same principles in our daily lives and work at molding excellence within us so that whatever we do, whatever we say, wherever we are… we can safely say that, “This is the best version of me and my efforts in creating excellence within me.” 

What is built from within, will stand the test of time.

Love,

Magdalene

Does your comfortable sadness almost feel like happiness?

Jelan

Jelan and I have been driving together the last couple of days. It is really a pleasure to drive him to college and to have those extra moments to have some deep conversations about life. This morning, we talked  a little about how we ‘see’ life from our various perspectives, drawing specific reference to the vision which a giraffe has of the world is different when compared to a turtle. Our conclusion was that a person’s vision is unique to them – they can only see as far as their unique level.

The conversation expanded to our general disposition in life and how we perceive others and how others may also perceive us.  He said something which left quite an impact on my mind:

“Comfortable sadness can almost feel like happiness.”

How profound. How true.

It made me realize that sometimes we hold on to sadness because it is comfortable.  We perhaps don’t know what it is like to be happy or may have even decided that we don’t deserve to be happy.  Sometimes, we repeat our unhappy stories until we make them become ‘how’ our lives should be.  Even when opportunities to be happy are begging us to join in the vibrancy of happiness, it is more comfortable to remain in our sadness.  Sadness can even become a way of life and eventually define our personalities, our lives and even the relationships which we share with others.

On the other hand, maybe what we perceive as sadness, may not be sadness at all!

What are your thoughts?

I believe that each time the universe feels our happiness, there is a global shift in human consciousness towards greater love, compassion and kindness… and even with one single breath of happiness… the entire world beams.

I believe that sadness does the same thing… every single moment of sadness, also creates a global shift in human consciousness towards greater despair, and fear.

It is o.k to be sad but don’t let sad moments into a lifetime of sadness.

It is o.k to be happy. Multiply your happy moments over and over again.

My thoughts:  I am happy. I choose happiness as my way of life. I embrace laughter, joy, fun… as much as I can… as I push beyond my boundaries… and I am so delighted with all the wonderful people, great opportunities, amazing places and beautiful moments which this world is blessing me with every day.

Love,

Mags