Are you letting ‘comfortable sadness’ feel like ‘happiness’?

Another day on the couch.

A promise that I will ‘start again’ tomorrow.

A unreturned phone call or email.

A ‘stop bothering me’ attitude.

A blanked out mind.

A blurred day at work.

An empty feeling lying in bed.

Another drink.

Another slice of cake.

Another tantrum.

No visitors.

No place to visit.

No invitations.

A day goes by. A week goes by. A month goes by. Three months go by. Six Months go by. One year goes by. Five years go by. A decade goes by.

A lifetime vanishes.

Sometimes, one event happens in our lives that seem to throw us off our equilibrium.  A feeling of rejection, the loss of a job, the unruly child, the ungrateful friend, squabbling parents, the unattained dream, the loss of loved ones, the guilt of living after loss, a financial crisis… the list can go on.

Shutting the door to the world and ‘being alone’ behind closed doors, in our own bubbles, seem to even protect us. This is the furthest from truth as it could get. Human beings happiness comes from being of service, being useful and supporting life. Without this ‘contributing energy’, it is easy for us to feel purposeless.

The system seem to wear us down and a fog settles over us, like a comfortable blanket.

As my son Jelan, once said to me, “Comfortable sadness can almost feel like happiness.”

He was about 18 at the time, but has always been quite a reflective, out of the box thinker. Our conversation that morning hinged on how we ‘see’ life from our various perspectives, drawing specific reference to the vision which a giraffe has of the world is different when compared to a turtle. Our conclusion was that a person’s vision is unique to them – they can only see as far as their unique level.

The conversation expanded to our general disposition in life and how we perceive others and how others may also perceive us. He said something which left quite an impact on my mind:

“Comfortable sadness can almost feel like happiness.”

How profound. How true.

It made me realize that sometimes we hold on to sadness or any other broken emotion,  because it is comfortable and easier to live with. To step away from that feeling will require greater effort from us… and why bother?

We perhaps don’t know what it is like to be happy or may have even decided that we don’t deserve to be happy. Sometimes, we repeat our unhappy stories until we make them become ‘how’ our lives should be. Even when opportunities to be happy are begging us to join in the vibrancy of happiness, it is more comfortable to remain in our sadness. Sadness can even become a way of life and eventually defines our personalities, our lives and even the relationships which we share with others.

it is important to fight back to claim our rightful spaces on this earth because we were all born to contribute something meaningful to Mother Earth.  I admire Jelan’s optimistic nature and how he explores his life from all angles to engage in living a fun, happy and fulfilled life.

You can change this comfortable sadness to a conscious decision to be happy.

Do one small thing for someone else.

Start a conversation.

Make a phone call.

Go for that walk.

Read a good book.


Look for a ways to connect with real people.

I believe that each time the universe feels our happiness, there is a global shift in human consciousness towards greater love, compassion and kindness… and even with one single breath of happiness… the entire world beams.

I believe that sadness does the same thing… every single moment of sadness, also creates a global shift in human consciousness towards greater despair and fear.

It is  O.K. to be sad but don’t let sad moments turn into a lifetime of sadness.

It is O.K. to be happy. Multiply your happy moments over and over again.

Affirmations for the day:

I am happy.

I choose happiness as my way of life.

I embrace laughter, joy, fun… as much as I can… as I push beyond my boundaries

I am so delighted with all the wonderful people, great opportunities, amazing places and beautiful moments which this world is blessing me with every day.

Being happy is a decision.

Getting up from the couch is a decision.

Making that phone call is a decision.

Let us make some good decisions and live joyfully… it is our birthright.  Don’t let comfortable sadness deny you of a happy, fulfilled life.



Laugh… it clears away stagnant energy

“In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures. For in the dew of little things the heart finds its morning and is refreshed.” Khalil Gibran
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She told me that she found me in the big room by following the sound of my laughter. That, made me laugh and she also started to laugh. Our laughter rang through the room and we suddenly both become conscious that we were being looked at.  We quietly stifled  and  reduced our  laughter to a giggle but the glimmer in our eyes was probably louder as we found our own little quiet spot.

She said that my laughter brought her joy and that she seldom heard this hearty laugh anywhere. I don’t know why I laugh so spontaneously and I have found myself in trouble several times because of this laughter that rises like a drunkard from somewhere deep in my soul. Last year, a few colleagues and I were asked to stop laughing in an empty café because our laughter was too much for owner. We never went back to that café and I have often wondered why our laughter bothered the owner of the café so much.  She did not seem happy either.   Sometimes, I am very unconscious of my laughter until someone draws my attention to it.  I laugh because some things are funny but I also laugh when faced with situations that are quite serious and the only way to calm my nerves is to laugh.

But here is what I think about laughter: Each time I laugh, I feel that angels come running to my space and they dance around me as long as my laughter lasts. When I am worried, I laugh to make the angels hurry along even more. Do you know what else? I think that laughter clears stagnant energy and the angels come to sweep away all the webs of anxiety or fear that is trapped  around my energy field.

Not surprisingly, research is proving that laughter has similar benefits to exercising!  There are even laughing classes now to teach people how to laugh!

“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” E. E. Cummings






Congratulations to our photographer – Nyamulola Kambanji


20160621_170327Mags Magazine would like to congratulate our talented photographer, Nyamulola Kambanji,  for being the photographer for the WOW (Welcoming Ottawa Week) award winners! She did an incredible job with the photographs!

Mags Magazine has been the recipient of your work and your passion continues to shine! You are a great example of living your passion.

Congrats to all the award winners for reaching out to newcomers from your heart and creating a lasting impact in their lives.


Welcoming Ottawa Week (WOW) is an annual, week-long series of dialogues, cultural and celebratory events, sports activities, documentary screenings, and other fun events designed to convey the genuine welcome and hospitality of Ottawans to newcomers, while providing opportunities for quality interactions between residents, old and new. To learn more about WOW please click here.

Exhibits will remain at City Hall until July 3rd.  If you are in Ottawa, do visit the exhibits and learn more about those great individuals.






Thanks to Cast Away Tour, Saint Lucia, A Proud Supporter of Mags Magazine

From across the miles, we want to say a special thank you to Paul and Sherin Clifford, owners of CAST AWAY TOUR in Saint Lucia! They provide a range of authentic experiences for the traveller who want to experience the rich cultural and heritage aspects of Saint Lucia. We want to thank them for their contribution towards my former student, who is blind, to get her massage table to work independently as a massage therapist! Together, we will make that dream come true on May 25th when we gather in the celebration of the launch of Soulful Encounters, Mags Magazine.

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Plan on spending the entire day in this remote tropical sanctuary… you still won’t have enough time to do everything …
Snorkel/swim over the wild UN Heritage Site Marine Reserve reefs, help local fishermen pull in their nets, visit local artisans at Lio’s Pottery Studio or the Khuss-Khuss grass-crafter (+USD 10/per person),  mix up medicinal plant shampoos & herbal body scrubs on the Bush Doctor’s Walkabout to the Rainforest Mineral Springs, tour the tropical organic Zion Lion Farm and harvest a wide variety of organic fruits & vegetables for your lunch, tour the 18th century Ruins (sugar/rum/irrigation)learn how-to make gourmet charcoals, see how cassava is processed into gluten-free “farine”, relax in a hammock or on a hand-woven grass lounger under our grass-roof shelter, participate in a Carib Cuisine demonstration in our open-air “kitchen” and then enjoy St. Lucia’s only organic Farm-To-Table Carib Beach BBQ Feast & sooo much more… 

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ALSO… Reflexology Hike.
Barefoot, on the naturally mystic Gros Piton


Hike up Gros Piton…


The Pitons World Heritage Coast Cruise:  Come for a ride on The Pitons World Heritage Coast Cruise….to the wild side of The Pitons!


Make Saint Lucia one of your top travelling destinations!  We can help  you get there and have an amazing experience!

We are looking forward to seeing you on May 25th!

Meet our keynote speaker Laura Traplin!

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Risk being seen and known for all your splendor, beauty and awesomeness



Risk being seen and being known for all of your splendor, beauty , magnificence and awesomeness.” Mags

Mags Magazine is pulling emotions out of readers. Some of these emotions have been buried for years.  As readers write to me or meet me to share their different perspectives on how the articles connect to their life experiences, I know that I have done the work which I have been guided to do although it has caused me to step out of my comfort zone. After many years of working with different people, I know that the emotional body has a stronger hold over us, than most of us would care to admit. It is actually quite alarming how buried emotions keep us locked in our own prisons and deprive us of using our talent to serve life fearlessly.

Many of us cannot claim our brilliance because of our life experiences which have left us confused, hurt, broken and disillusioned. It is easier to keep ourselves in the shadow and let others claim the light. Why not you? There is a place in this magnificent world  for each of us. One lady said to me: “We are all responsible for what is happening today. When we don’t make decisions to claim our lives, others claim it and the results are disastrous. Even though I am almost 60, reading your Magazine has created a shift in me to accept responsibility for my life and has caused me to reflect on many, many things which happened to me as a child and left me traumatized.  I buried them inside of me.”

Risk being seen and being known for all your splendor, beauty and awesomeness. Too long have we buried the beautiful things inside of us for fear that someone will say ‘who does she/he think she/he is?’ Too long have we waited to get someone’s approval to let our light shine. It is so much easier for us to see the light in someone and choose not to celebrate it because of our own fears and insecurities. It is easier to kill talent, stop innovation and continue to live in the same humdrum that keeps us and those around us so comfortable.

Step out of that comfort zone… life will reward you equally. Don’t let fear run your life.

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Could this be my next new career? Thumbs up to all the great men and women in the Canadian Armed Forces

20160225_064124Every year, I set a theme for the new year. One fine day in November 2015, I decided that the theme for 2016 would be travelling.  Thirty minutes later, I received an email from a friend to invite me to a Diversity Recruitment Event, with the Canadian Armed Forces, in Gauge Town, New Brunswick.  The invitation also said that ALL your expenses would be covered! It did not take me much time to make the decision to go.

Coincidence?  If you have been following me long enough, you know that  I love it when synchronicity happens and dreams manifest right before my eyes.  I call them my miracles and for me, this was certainly a sign from the universe to say – GO GIRL!

The Diversity Recruitment Event happened from February 24th-26th, and a group of us from across Ottawa, Montreal and British Colombia had the opportunity to learn more about the Canadian Armed Forces.  It was educational, informative, life changing and inspirational. Prior to this, I never thought much about the Canadian Armed Forces – as a matter of fact, I thought that that the Canadian Armed Forces was just the military  and their work was about wars and using guns. I thought that  people joined the Canadian Armed Forces when they were desperate and had perhaps run out of choices.  I was so WRONG.

We met with some of the most amazing people who serve in the military from a wide range of professional backgrounds. Every single uniformed person was respectful, well-spoken, excited to work for the CAF and spoke very highly of the integrity of their jobs nad the CAF.  Members of the group kept on expressing amazement about the career opportunities which exist within the armed forces and best yet, the fact that education can be subsidized and that there is career progression through professional development. We met men and women who joined right out of high school, mid-career professionals who made a career change in their late thirties and people who joined in their forties.  Very importantly we met newcomers who chose to have a career with the Canadian Armed Forces.

Here are some of my inspirational moments:

Meeting with great community leaders, guidance counsellors and people in influential positions to help others make informed career decisions.




Meeting with CORPORAL NADINE WAITR.  She is the only female combat engineer in Canada and only female heavy equipment operator.  She joined the CAF at 33 and spoke highly of the interesting work which she has done as an engineer and also of her experience in assisting with the earthquake in Nepal.  The machinery below was what she used to clear the roads in Nepal after the earthquake!


We tried some elements of the physical training test and realized that it was not as hard as it sounds.  If you are a woman and you are wondering about it… worry no more.  You can do it.


THE CAF held a formal dinner for us where we heard some very inspirational stories from CAF members.  All of them reinforced that joining CAF was a decision which they have not regretted because they love the job, they feel financially stabled and the many other benefits which CAF offers, including paid education!

 Captian Verge Charlery was one of the main organizers for the event. She was a former teacher in Ottawa. She joined the armed forces a few years ago and she is currently pursuing her Master’s degree in Social Work.  I was doubly proud to know that we are from the same island – St. Lucia.

Here are some more photos to enjoy.

20160225_182251 Captain Ann Chamberlain and I.

We had an interesting discussion with two of the corporals who are trained to get inside of this robot.  The robot is used to detect explosives and it is made of a very special technology  which will protect the person who is inside of it, if there is an explosion.


 One of my most surprising moments – discovering that there are collapsible bathrooms with showers, sinks and toilets!  It takes 2 hours to mount it all up on location!  The young woman who gave us the tour is a plumber and she is so proud of her work.  There are great opportunties in the trades area for both men and women.



I had some great conversations with the young men who work with the LAVS and in the infantry.  This face to face interaction with them created a huge shift in my perception of infantry soldiers.  I experienced humour, intelligence and a great spirit of calmness around them.  They take their responsibilities quite seriously.

We experienced the training room where new recruits are taught how to use the various guns and rifles.  The training is set up  like a video game. The aim is to shoot at targets on the screen.  The process has been specifically designed for this type of training.  I am very anti-gun yet I found myself quite immersed in the experience of trying to hit a target. 20160225_144039

If you are a looking for a career change or starting a new career, consider CAF.

With love,


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An awesome networking event – ConnectOtt

20160331_185003 This year I set a goal to have 10 speaking engagements where I could hopefully inspire or motivate or help others to reach their goals.  Within days of setting this goal, I started receiving opportunities to speak.  I am a strong believer that we must put out what we want to achieve to the great universe.  We must be clear about our intentions.  I know that and I try to practice it regularly.
So I got this invitation to participate at the ConnnectOtt event. I had never heard about it before.  As soon as I read more about what the intention was for the event, I said YES.  Why?  Because it matched with my personal goal. (It is important to set goals so that you can see the opportunity when it arrives!)
 I have attended many networking events in Ottawa but I must say that this one which I attended on March 31st, was pretty AMAZING. ConnectOtt deserves a great deal of praise for gathering such a powerful group of industry leaders and young professionals in the same space to have some pretty powerful conversations over dinner. The dinner part, at Chauteau Laurier – well, you can’t beat that! How else to get people to relax and connect effortlessly?  Add a bit of wine to it… everything gets easier!
 So what is ConnnectOtt?  I had never heard about it until I was invited as an industry professional.  It is quite interesting how much we don’t know about what is available in Ottawa- which is why it is important to network!

ConnectOTT is a dinner and networking event that creates strategic opportunities to meet inspiring people in the city of Ottawa.

The event bridges the gap between emerging professionals looking to progress in their careers and grow their networks and well-established community and industry leaders who have been there and done that and are looking to give back.

Throughout a three-course dinner, participants are matched with leaders in industries of their choice. Each course is spent with 2 leaders and 6 young professionals, a format which maximizes face time and allows for both mentorship and network opportunities to develop in an intimate setting.

This year’s event was attended by over 240 participants including 60 leaders in 13 different industries.

You can learn more about ConnectOtt.

I met new people and reconnected with some others whom I had not seen for a long time. What particularly struck me at that event was the enthusiasm and open-mindedness of everyone I met.  Everyone seemed open to learning, open to meeting new people and open to possibilities.  Imagine the possibilities when a room is full of such great and positive energy.
A great thank you to the ConnectOtt team.  Your work is very important in building community. Count on me for next year if you need me.
If you don’t know this yet – there is POWER in networking. Sometimes, the events are free and sometimes they cost money… either way, you got to show up for your life… and go out and meet real people who can connect with you in a real way. #ConnectOtt
It was a pleasure getting photos with the two lovely co-chairs of ConnectOtt and to listen to their personal stories with ConnectOtt and their enthusiasm.

Leigh-Ann Redmond – it was nice to meet again after so many years!

Alison Sochasky it was a pleasure to meet you in person after the Facebook interactions.

 A few things which I have learnt about networking:
– Show up with a positive attitude and show  enthusiasm
– Although you may have some expectations, try to put them aside and enjoy meeting other people  on a human level.
– If someone asks you, “How can I help you?” be prepared to say what you are looking for.
– Share the conversation.  Ask questions to get the other person to talk about themselves.  Don’t be too caught up  with yourself.
This was the group at our third table.  Michelle, HR Director at Carleton University and I were hosting the group and this group had a blast!  They were about fun and sharing their life experiences and I found out that there is such a job title called a Social Media Director!
Who knows what you will learn about at a networking event!
My final point on this blog – you never know who you will run into!  I met some great people I worked with before, including Michele Kosh, who disappeared for a couple of years!  She went off to study and is now back in the working world, in a different capacity.
So… my point today… go and network.  Meet people. Set networking goals.  Keep working at starting new conversations.  There is a whole new world waiting for you… you just got to make the right connections!
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