Any Value in Planning 2016 NOW?

It took us only 30 minutes to plan our major events and activities for 2016. Each planned activity is an intention which we put out in the universe. The manifestation of all of our dreams begins with a seed of intention. Now, I feel excited about the future because roles and responsibilities are divided; there are clearer lines for accountability and we will be able to measure our success. Our plan also leaves lots of space for being spontaneous!

For the first time in a decade, I even know exactly when I will be taking my holidays! That is amazing!














‘Let our advance worrying become advance thinking and planning.’ Winston Churchill.

If  you know me well enough, you will know that in my personal life, I live in the moment, except when life seriously demands otherwise.   It works most of the time for me and I believe that it is because of a deeper and stronger alignment which I have with the universe. The universe, in some magical way, knows what I need, even before it comes out of my mouth.

However, while I love being spontaneous, I do wonder how much more successful and purpose driven I could be, if only I invested some more time in planning NOW. While there is much fun and high adrenaline in living in the NOW and being spontaneous,  it can also be  a stressful experience for others who want to support me and spend time with me.  When others don’t know what to expect, it leaves them feeling frustrated and not included. This is not my intention but I know that this is what happens.

Last year, when my partner invited me to plan our calendar of activities for the year, I felt that my body moved immediately into resistance mood.  I hate thinking so much in advance… a whole year! Thankfully he does not give up on me that easily!  This year he extended the planning invitation again and I was much more willing to go through the process.

It took us only 30 minutes to plan our major events and activities for 2016. Each planned activity is an intention which we put out in the universe. The manifestation of all of our dreams begins with a seed of intention and imagination. Now, I feel excited about the future because roles and responsibilities are divided; there are clearer lines for accountability and we will be able to measure our success. Our plan also leaves lots of space for being spontaneous!

For the first time in a decade, I even know exactly when I will be taking my holidays!  That is amazing!

Try this for yourself.  Write out all the months of the year on a piece of paper.  Ask yourself:

  1.  What would I like to achieve this year?

  2. When would I like to achieve it?

  3. Who do I need to help me?

  4. What will it feel like when I have achieved it?

Live your future Now by planning NOW… it may just save you time and energy!  In addition, it may create such a powerful intention that your soul will be singing all the way with you!

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Live your Dreams and Silence your Fears

Live your DREAMS

Pull your dreams from the boxes, baskets and drawers.
Lift them from the endless journals and thoughts that make you feel dizzy when you think of the possibilities.
Let go of the people who bury you and your dreams alive.
Stand tall and give yourself permission to capture your dreams.
Breathe.  Breathe some more.  YES! You can do it.
Leap into action.
Get ahead of the game.
Let us make 2016 the year of living our dreams and silencing our fears.
Your dreams are so worth fighting for.
Come and be inspired on December 18th for Inspiration 2016!

A Grandmother’s Legacy – Imagine becoming a medical doctor in your 60’s…back in the early 1900’s

“I want you to know that it is never too late to study or to do what you want to do.” Her grandmother told her. After raising her six children, Rima’s grandmother, Tamara, went to university in her 60’s to study medicine although she never practiced as a medical doctor. However, she created a lifelong impression in the mind of the young eleven year old Rima, her first grandchild – that it is never too late to follow your dreams or to learn something new. Rima fondly recollected this memory during a business lunch meeting with her. She spoke with great love of her four daughters, her five grandchildren, women, newcomers to Canada and youth who are very dear to her heart. “I want to leave something better for my grandchildren.” She said reflectively. Her grandmother had a profound impact on her life as she thinks of the legacy she wants to leave behind.


(Rima Aristocrat, in her office at Willis College)

“Here, I did this for you.” Rima’s grandmother handed her the Medical degree which she had just completed.

“What is this?” Rima asked.

Rima's grandmother, Tamara

“I want you to know that it is never too late to study or to do what you want to do.” Her grandmother told her.  After raising her six children, Rima’s grandmother, Tamara,  went to university in her 60’s to study medicine although she never practiced as a medical doctor.  However, she created a lifelong impression in the mind of the young eleven year old Rima, her first grandchild – that it is never too late to follow your dreams or to learn something new. Rima fondly recollected this memory during a business lunch meeting with her. She spoke with great love of her four daughters, her five grandchildren, women, newcomers to Canada and youth who are very dear to her heart. “I want to leave something better for my grandchildren.” She said reflectively. Her grandmother had a profound impact on her life as she thinks of the legacy she wants to leave behind.

So who is Rima? Rima Aristocrat is the President and CEO of Willis College in Ottawa.   I first met her at the 2015 Graduation Ceremony of Willis College of which my son Jelan was a graduate. I was drawn to her presence immediately. She radiates light and love miles from where she stands.  Jelan speaks about his teacher, Ed Mahonny and Rima in the most positive light. “Mom, the principal comes into our classroom and chats with us about everything in life.  Her door is always open and we can always go to her.  I have never felt so much love in a school.” This is only a small description of this brilliant award-honored woman who has continued the legacy of Willis College which was founded in 1896 by Stephen T. Willis.  Ownership of the College was transferred to the Aristocrat family in 1989 and she is the 4th President and CEO of the College. Willis College is the oldest Career College in Ottawa and it is notably unique as an employer led institution which has transitioned over the years from business and language training to diversifying the College offerings in Technology, and Healthcare. Willis College prides itself in preparing students to meet the needs of employers and getting students in the workforce as quickly as possible.

(Below, the graduating class of 2015 with honoured guest, professors and Rima)


IMAG3310[1]Rima migrated to Canada  from Eastern Europe many years ago.  She came here as a concert pianist with a Master’s degree in education. Over the years, she has reinvented herself, used her transferrable skills and exercised leadership skills in several programs and initiatives which has all contributed towards where she is today.

For more information about Willis College, please visit

What legacy did your grandparents leave for you?  What legacy do you want to leave for your children and grandchildren?



Memories of Mom Living her Passion.

My tears flowed nonstop as I helped her with the sewing machine and observed the pensive and thoughtful look on her face. I know how much this sewing machine meant to her and I am sure that if she was right here with me, she would tell me that it was her lifeline. Back in 1947, women like my mom did not have the fair advantage to go to school. She was denied an education because she was the eldest child and had to stay home to help her mother with the house work.

IMAG3216“Come and look at the sewing machine with me.” My mom beckoned me to follow her to the dark corner where the old singer sewing machine had been stored for several years since she became blind.

She uncovered the sewing machine.  The cloth over it was a heavy linen which had covered it for decades. She pulled out the small wooden draws on the side and took out a small brush to dust it. She gently pulled it out from the dark corner to the light and then started to test the peddles which seemed to be stuck and made a funny creaking sound.  She found an old bottle of  machine oil, safely tucked inside the drawer and applied it to the various small machine parts while she tested the peddles over and over until it rolled with ease. Her numb hands fumbled with the parts and they dropped from her hands occasionally. She bent her head and strained her eyes as much as she could but she did not stop  until she felt that she had given the sewing machine the proper care and touch which it needed.  It seemed to me that at the end of that experience she looked exhilarated.


My tears flowed nonstop as I helped her with the sewing machine and observed the pensive and thoughtful look on her face.  I know how much this sewing machine meant to her and I am sure that if she was right here with me, she would tell me that it was her lifeline. Back in 1929, women like my mom did not have the fair advantage to go to school.  She was denied an education because she was the eldest child and had to stay home to help her mother with the house work.  I believe that she must have been about fifteen when she learnt how to sew with one of the top seamstresses from the neighbouring village of Laborie.  To get to her sewing classes, she had to walk almost an hour to and from the class.  She got married about fifteen years as well and her father, who had been physically absent from most of her life,  gave her  the sewing machine – I believe as a wedding gift. She smartly invested her time in mastering the art and developed her small business in sewing tailored made clothing for  the people in the community.  She was one of the few seamstresses in the community.   Many people came to our home with bags of cloth and styles of clothes from catalogues and gave countless instructions to my mom so that she could turn their visions into wearable garments.

Looking back, I can see what a great mom and entrepreneur she was!  She kept everything in balance by waking up early, getting us all ready for school, cooking meals, doing all the house chores and creating the time to live her passion for sewing as well as earning an income. She sewed all of our clothes and uniforms as well as my dad’s pants and shirts and even the undergarments. Just before his death, he showed me some of the pants which she had made for him and which we still wore up to 2012!   All of my three sisters and I learnt how to sew by watching her.  However, she never wanted us to  sew as a means of earning an income. She believed that we could do more than that and ensured that we had the support which we needed to have a good education.

As an adult, I appreciate all what my mom did a million times more now than I did while I was growing up.  She had a lot less to work with – no education, less money, less opportunity, no management training, no marriage counselling, no parenting classes, no brands, no luxuries… but she had courage, faith, vision, great time management skills and knew how to prioritize her time to get things done. She lived her passion for sewing.  I can only imagine the devastation she felt when she became blind and could no longer live her passion.  Yet, she courageously accepted her fate and one of her favourite lines were “It is not my will but if God wills it for my life, I accept. ”

Those photos were taken in 2007 on my first visit to Saint Lucia after migrating to Canada in 2003. She crossed over in 2011.  I will always hold on to those memories and I am glad that I captured those moments with those photos.

Live your future now.  Do what matters to you and don’t wait for perfect circumstances.



Why we lose sight of our dreams – and how mine came together.

I know that when God implants a dream in your soul, you were born to live it. To not live your dream, is an injustice to the freedom of your soul. Magdalene Cooman


In The Pilgrimage, by Paulo Coelho, Petrus talks about three symptoms of losing our dreams:

1. Lack of time

2. Our certainties – Because we don’t want to see life as a grand adventure, we begin to think of ourselves as wise and fair and correct about asking so little of life

3. Peace – life becomes a Sunday afternoon; we ask for nothing grand and we cease to demand anything more than we are willing to give

I can relate so well to this.  For years, boxes of material  have been stored in my room with the hope that I would publish something one day.  I became almost at peace with my excuses – I did not have time, why not just be satisfied with what I  had, why bother with all of it?  Who cares about me or my writing?

Even when we made decision to publish Mags Magazine, I was filled with self doubt but each time those doubts came over me,  the universe would send a sign to remind me to fight for my dream.   The team which  pulled Mags Magazine together was created overnight.  On the  evening we decided to publish, it was exactly 4 weeks to the date. I sent an e-mail to Mila, the graphic designer, to ask for a meeting and met with her the very next day.  I presented the project and with no hesitation she gave me her full support, with no idea of how either of use would get paid.

Here are some more  distinct signs which demonstrated to me that the universe was in full support of me:

a) My partner was coming in from New York and we felt we needed a place to be away from the day-to-day distractions to focus on the Magazine.  We had exactly a month to get the entire thing done.  One evening I started searching for houses to house-sit – I thought that would perhaps make it more affordable.  I did not find anything that evening but the next day, I met my girlfriend Viviane who excitedly told me that she was going to Brazil for a month and would need someone to stay at her house. Of course I volunteered and it was perfect timing!

b)  I had a meeting with Lisa Anna Palmer to discuss some work stuff in general and to thank her for the work which she had done for us at the office.  Somewhere in the middle of that meeting, I started talking to Lisa about the Magazine.  At that time, I did not quite know her – we had only been having  work related meetings.  I could feel Lisa’s energy rise during the conversation and I pulled out my computer to show her some of the writings.  We spent three hours that afternoon speaking about the content and my experiences. Lisa listened attentively and pledged her  full support to helping me get it done.  Two days later, she connected me to Lynn, who was one of the editors for the project. A few days afterwards, I also met with Shamsia who also agreed to edit.  This was from a very informal conversation.

c) About a week before the launch, in a moment of overwhelm,  I was just about to send an e-mail to my partner to ask him to forget about Mags Magazine – I felt that it was becoming too much! At that precise moment, someone came to see me at my office. He said to me, “I saw that  on FB that you are going to publish a Magazine…. I  am so proud of you… I came to tell you that you are not doing it for yourself, you are doing it for all of us. ”  As I listened to him, I resigned by initial thought about forgetting about the project.

d)  On another occasion, just shortly after the one above, I became filled with anxiety again. Once again, I wanted to call it off.  My partner called me in that same moment and told me that should check my e-mail box.  There was the preview of the Magazine from Dr. Edmunds, a well respected writer.   You can see his review in the preview of Mags Magazine

e) A few days before the launch of the Magazine, at Lisa’s invitation, I attended “Refresh Your Passion” day long event which was put on by Kathie Donavan.  There, I sat in awe as I listened to the experiences of amazing people who fought for their dreams and pursued their passions. Kory Kealy, Laura Traplin and Michelle Valberg, in particular struck an inspirational cord within me as I listened to her experiences in pursing their passions.  Laura’s message from Sprit “I am my life purpose.” was just what I needed to hear.  I went back home that day, fully energized and knew in my heart that I was on the right track with my own dream and stepping out of my comfort box.

Kory and Michelle

f) One day,  I picked up one of Oprah’s magazines and instantaneously opened the page with her interview with Paulo Coelho where he spoke about his life and his journey to getting his first book published.  That interview spoke so loudly to me – it was as if I was in the room with Oprah, doing the interview with him.  And the words which resonated deeply were:

“The good fight is the one fought in the name of our dreams.  When we’re young and our dreams first explode inside us with all their force, we are very courageous, but we haven’t learned how to fight.  With great effort, we learn how to fight but by then we no longer have the courage to go on into combat.  So we turn against ourselves and do battle within.  We become our worst enemy.  We say that our dreams are childish, or too difficult to realize or the result of our not having known enough about life.  We kill our dreams because we are afraid to fight the good fight.”  Paulo Choelo

There are many, many other signs, miracles and manifestations which happened in the process to nudge me forward. I am grateful that this universe blessed me with the vision, provided a wonderful team to work with, my partner’s unwavering support, great sponsors and ensured that everything worked smoothly.

I know that when God implants a dream in your soul, you were born to live it.  To not live your dream, is an injustice to the freedom of your soul.



Moving from being an author on a vision board to being a REAL author!

For every single vision board which I have created, I have always included being an author. I started by being an author of my blog but now I am also authoring an e-magazine! Testimonial that vision boards do work??? YES!

I learned about vision boards when I was sixteen and have developed several vision boards since then. For some magical reason, everything which I have ever placed on a vision board has become real for me over the years.

Sorting through some old computer files, I came across this last vision board which was electronically created in June 2010. At that time, I was trying to set a new set a new vision for my life and also integrate the teaching of vision boards to an amazing group of people who were also on their soul search.

Vision Board

Until today, I had not looked at that vision board. However, I was pleasantly surprised to note that 90% of the things on that vision board are now my living reality.

  1. In June 2010 when I designed it, I drove a really old car which gave me more trouble than you can possibly imagine. On my vision board, I stuck a picture of a brand new car and wished with all my heart that I would drive a brand new car which would not break down with me. Believe it or not, I got my first brand new car in October 2010 and then I traded it in for a 2nd brand new car in October 2014. Unbelievable how magic happens in the universe!
  2. Humility: Being humble and being rooted in prayer continues to be an important part of my life and I cannot express enough how much prayer keeps me grounded in ensuring that I use my talent for the greater good of this planet.
  3. Being an author: This was the most interesting one. For every single vision board which I have created, I have always included being an author. I started by being an author of my blog but now I am also authoring an e-magazine!

Mags Magazine Logo

  1. I want to live an extraordinary life: I do believe that I am an ordinary person who lives an extra ordinary life with an abundance of opportunities to meet new people, explore new places, use my creativity to excel etc. I absolutely love the excitement in my life!
  2. Creative Genius: Creativity keep bursting from me all the time to solve problems and to develop new ideas. Genius – is a bit of an exaggeration perhaps but nonetheless it is all fun thinking of myself as a creative genius.:)
  3. Being a speaker: Between June 2010 to now, I have spoken at numerous events. I love to talk! I once said to my boss, “I want a job where I can just talk to people.” I do that 80% of my job. How great is that!
  4. FUN: My life is fun. Every day gives new possibilities for fun and laughter. I see comedy in most situations because I chose not to take life too seriously.
  5. Connecting with people all around the world: I do this almost every day. Through my blog and my work, my knowledge of the world have expanded.
  6. Other pictures show money, love, partnership and family. All of these are beautiful and amazing and I feel 100% blessed.
  7. I am happy.  There is a joy and happiness that I feel in my soul now.  I feel that I am arriving at this place in my life where my soul feels that it is able to greet me peacefully.

As I am about to launch my first e-magazine, “Live Your Future Now,” which is truly a product of this blog, I can’t help but reflect on the quote:

 “Great thoughts come from the heart.Luc de Clapiers

 I know for a fact, that what the mind can conceptualize can happen in reality.  I also know that if you can dream it, you have what it takes to also make it happen.  And best of all, I know that dreams manifest when you are completely in alignment with your own thoughts.

Look out the release of the e-magazine but there will also be a launch here in Ottawa on December 11th, 2014. Here is more information about the launch:

We have an amazing line up of speakers and it will be a wonderful and inspiring evening! If you have been a reader and supporter of this blog, I want to also thank you so very much for your support and encouragement.  As a global community, we can truly support each other in realizing our dreams.

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New York!!! New York!!! Friendship, Fun, Synchronicity – Don’t Be Afraid To Dream!

This is a re-blog celebrating one year anniversary of my visit to New York!

For several years my soul friend who lives in England and I have talked about meeting in New York. We have known each other since we were 14 years old and even though we don’t see or talk to each other regularly, we keep each other close within our hearts. Over the last four years, several opportunities have presented itself but none that materialized until the Labour Day Weekend in 2013.  Since I believe in synchronicity and believe that dreams do come true, I thought I would blog about the various events that happened in a whirlwind that made that dream come true.


Four years ago, the idea of the trip to New York came up.  We put it out there to the universe with the intention that we would be able to do this one day.  Margot spoke very dearly about her aunt in New York and I have always wanted to meet her.

Several weeks ago, my friend Gie told me about a bus trip to New York from Ottawa for the Labour Day weekend.  It sounded interesting but I was not sure I wanted to do it.

Several weeks ago, Margot and I explored for me to come up to England to spend summer with her but that did not materialize because of some other priorities.

However, the longing to see each other was there and she was constantly on my mind over the last few weeks.

Last Thursday, August 29th, we spoke over the phone and she suddenly asked, “What about meeting in New York for the  long weekend?”

It suddenly dawned on me that the bus trip for the Labour Day Weekend was happening on Friday (August 30th) and maybe I could get on that trip.  Within 24 hours, we had booked ourselves to arrive in New York.  I would bus for 7 hours and she would fly for 7 hours – the alignment was perfect!!!!  We were on our way to meet each other.


It was a fabulous weekend.  We explored Brooklyn, got lost and  found, had long soulful conversations; caught up on the last 25 years; got beauty treatments; met her aunts in New York;  walked over the Brooklyn Bridge to Manhattan which was  an adventure;  laughed so hard that tears streamed from our eyes; reconnected with someone I had not seen for over 20 years; enjoyed the Labour Day celebrations on Eastern Parkway and enjoyed hanging out without much of an agenda except to be together.  Being present with each other was beautiful.




This experience reminded me how important it is for us to simply have dreams and intentions.  Sometimes, having a specific timeline for things to happen is useful but if we trust that the universe will provide all things to us, then we must also trust that there is also Divine Timing.  Sometimes, it requires sitting it out and being patient; sometimes it requires taking action steps until it happens and sometimes the forces of synchronicity kick into place when that Divine Timing seems to be right. I love it when there is such beautiful synchronicity and all the pieces fall in place effortlessly.

I experience synchronicity regularly  and  each time it happens, it  further reaffirms for me that we simply need to dream and let go.  Every thought we have becomes an intention and becomes a part of our inner world.  The manifestation of those thoughts happen when the universal forces become aligned with our internal world – I trust that Divine Timing happens when all things align from a mental, emotional and spiritual inner space.  The universe cannot respond to us fully, until we are ready ourselves.


  • What are your dreams and intentions for your life?
  • What are your dreams and intentions for the lives of those you love?
  • Who would you like to spend some great quality time with?
  • What would you like to do on this earth before you pass on to the next life?
  • Is there a place that excites you?  Meeting a person?  Playing a sport?  Reuniting with someone?

TuneIn to those soul desires and longings. We can feel those from a deep place within us.  StepUp to put an intention out there.  You can write it in your journal, draw a picture of it, put it on a vision board… create something where you have a strong visual idea of what that desire is.

Take your desire and place it in a bubble.  Imagine that the bubble is floating away with that desire and will create and attract all the right energies to make that desire come true.  Trust in Divine Timing  and trust that the world is full of the abundance required to make that dream come true.




If you believe in yourself and in possibilities, then you will attract that from within your inner world.  Imagine what it would feel like to have that desire happen and imagine feeling this emotion constantly. This is really important because our emotions pull or push manifestations of things in our lives.  TuneIn to desires that will bring happy, pleasurable, soulful joy to you because there is nothing more important to this universe than to have people experience inner joy in their lives.



Expand yourself with inspiration… therein may lie an answer to something which you have been searching for…

Inspiration cannot be explained but it can be felt. It is this “high” that you get, this “extra beat” in your heart when you see or hear something which moves you… this feeling that sometimes leaves you light-hearted, for in a split moment, your spirit connects effortlessly and beautifully to that ‘thing’ which you simply know from deep inside of you.

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched – they must be felt with the heart.” Helen Keller
I measure the quality of my life  by the quality of moments I have with myself, my loved ones, my colleagues, total strangers or with my experience of the world around me. I know for a fact that apart from knowledge, I need inspiration to thrive – in fact, I think that we all need inspiration.   Inspiration kicks up an infusion of a sacred longing within me to expand myself and be more in tuned with what life is nudging me to do for my soul.  Inspiration is often overlooked as a critical element of what propels a person from one action to another but those who pay attention will realize that inspiration awakens the senses to new possibilities which logic does not always agree with.  I don’t go out of my way to look for inspiration but quite often, something catches my attention which resonates deeply within me and feels “true’ to my spirit.



During one of our adventures at the Museum of Civilization in Ottawa, we came across this globe.  As soon as I saw it, I immediately thought, “I want to embrace this globe.  It inspires me to keep up with my dream to travel the world.”  This picture is now etched in my memory and is a visual to remind me of this longing in my soul which I need to continue to fulfill. By simply looking at this picture, I can feel new life being breathed into me as I am even more inspired now to travel to new places.

Inspiration cannot be explained but it can be felt.  It is this ‘high’ that you get, this ‘extra beat’ in your heart when you see or hear  something which moves you… this feeling that sometimes leaves you light-hearted, for in a split moment, your spirit connects effortlessly and beautifully to that ‘thing’ which you simply know from deep inside of you.

All of my life, since I was a child,  I have always felt that I am a part of a great and wonderful universe.  I never saw myself limited to the small island where I was born. Reading expanded my mind to new places, adventures and cultures.  I was always up for the next trip, looked forward to talking to anyone at all and my curious mind wondered endlessly about how things and people evolved.  The world and life in general remains a beautiful mystery to me and there are many places and wonders which I am longing to see and experience.

What pictures do you have which inspires you to expand yourself?  What memories do you have of things you longed to do but have not been able to accomplish?  Where do you find your inspiration to move towards your inner calling?

Tune in to those little things which makes your soul sing and makes you feel alive. Step up and pay attention to what inspires you… within this inspiration may be an answer you have been searching for.





Stepping Up!

Welcome to 2014!

I would like to wish you a happy and successful year!  May all your dreams and wishes come true and may you continue to TuneIn to this amazing person you are and StepUp to having the courage to fulfill your own dreams.  It is all within YOU to develop the courage muscles to do the thing which you are called to do in this lifetime.  Life opens forth the doors for you as soon as you DECIDE.

In January 2013, I started this blog as a personal soul journey to get me out of the rut of procrastination and to do something about my passion for writing.  It is quite funny how one of my ambitions in  life is to be a writer but I hardly devoted any time at all to writing! (A good example of the wishy-washy goals we set and don’t follow-up!) It is like saying you want to lose 10 pounds at the beginning of the year but you don’t do anything about it and get  disappointed when you don’t get the result you desire.

My goal in 2013 was simple – to write one blog a week and get into a writing habit. I am the worst editor for my writing but I consciously did not allow that to intimidate me, knowing that I was really working on a way to express myself, first.  For every blog I re-read, I can easily find typos and small grammatical errors.

I really thought the blog was just going to be about me and my silly thoughts about life.  However, as I wrote more purposefully,  I also started to automatically connect  with things, ideas, people, events which were all so much bigger than my little isolated thoughts.  Half-way through the year, I was doing real interviews with people and was actually capturing their stories!  This actually brought me the greatest satisfaction and I sincerely thank all those who gave me the opportunity to showcase their stories.  It fulfilled one of my fantasies to be a journalist! 🙂

By the end of 2013, I was happily exhausted as I looked at the tangible results of what I and you (readers) have achieved together.

  • I published 90 posts (well over my goal of 56).  Thanks for your encouragement that spurred me on!
  • We have a viewership of 10,000 across 82 countries  through Facebook, LinkedIn( and by you sharing on your timelines and within your own circle).  I have now learnt about countries I had never heard about before!
  • I developed my writing style and my thinking process expanded very quickly as I challenged my thoughts and sought ways for my writing to represent the core of who I am.
  • I made peace with myself.  I finally have accepted my intuitive gifts which God has blessed me with and I have stopped questioning whether I am good enough to be blessed with those gifts.  Embracing myself was half of the battle won and the joy I  feel now, cannot be measured.
  • I gained the courage to say what I needed to say without needing approval from others. I owned my voice and trusted what I felt and it is one of the most exhilarating feelings one can have.
  • I “adopted” a restaurant and with the support of 3 other amazing people (Mengis, Rosie and Eden) and my amazing network in Ottawa, we helped the restaurant owners keep their doors open by bringing in a couple of hundred people  to dine at the restaurant within 3 months.
  • Many people wrote  personal letters to talk about their own TuneIn and StepUp journey which they want to embark on and there were many testimonials about how an article or a subject helped in some way or the other.
  • I travelled to New York – not once but TWICE and met with great people who inspired me even further!
  • My professional and personal network expanded hugely – I have met so many AMAZING human beings along this journey that I know there is hope to see more beautiful things in the world even though it looks so dismal sometimes.

What have I learnt through this blogging experience?

  • We hold the power in OUR hands to decide the kind of life we want to live.  We have the power to  MAKE DESICIONS and to SET GOALS and work at them steadily.  If you make the wrong decision, it is fine to change your mind if you have tried everything within your power to make something work. It is better to fail at trying than not trying at all.  It is also fine to change direction.
  • It is fine to take steps even when you don’t have the whole picture and it is perfectly fine to be less than perfect.  As you work through your journey, clarity will come along the way to help you define it even better!
  • Although my story and thoughts are important, I had greater joy connecting with others and helping to get their story out so their work could expand more into the world.
  • We are all capable of stepping up and making a difference in whatever corner of the world we live.  By giving to life, we receive everything a hundred-fold back into our lives.
  • We don’t need to ask permission from others to do the right thing.  If it feels right, most likely, it is right and the universe will provide all that you need to carry the responsibility.
  • Connecting to our authenticity and DOING what it takes to live an authentic life is the key to living with purpose.
  • There will be days when we just can’t get it right.  We feel frustrated and tired.  It is perfectly fine.  Ride with the waves.

Here are some of my leading stories for 2013:

Brooklyn, New York

Meet Dawta Maloe who is a single mom and feeds hundreds of homeless people each month for eight years.

Carla and Magdalene - on the streets

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Meet Taj Weeks, an international musician and Wilson Jn. Baptiste who worked together with Jet Blue in giving children in St. Lucia brand new bicycles and toys for Christmas.


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Ottawa, Canada

Meet the Kingdom Culture Ministries. They are creating a bridge between the ministry and the community and supporting many people who are in need all through the year!


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Supporting two entrepreneurs to keep their restaurant going!


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Meet Sigar, the man who rescues parrots!


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Bringing together 10,000 – 15,000 people together from the Caribbean in Ottawa!


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The International Black Summit – the conversation that is so powerful, that your life can be transformed to live your vision!


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Meet St. Lucians in the National Capital Region, celebrating a National Festival!


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Look out for more information about our TuneIn and StepUp Challenges for 2014.



Can a Conversation be So Powerful that your life can be transformed to live your Vision?

I was inspired this weekend at 23rd Annual Event of the International Black Summit which was held at the National Suites Hotel in Ottawa. Hundreds of people of African descent flooded in from all over the world!  It was delightful to see people of African descendants across four generations – grandparents, parents, great-grand children and children all together in one room, celebrating their ancestry, giving thanks to the founders of the International Black Summit and best of all, feeling that spirit of unity and honor for all as they joined in a continuation of the Conversation that started 23 years ago. It felt like a family reunion and you could feel the incredible warmth with which everyone welcomed everyone.

The International Black Summit is a 100% volunteer led organization committed to empowering and transforming the lives of people of Black African descents all over the world.  I heard repeatedly how individuals had been transformed through those Conversations – Conversations which are rooted in the Declaration of the International Black Summit (please see Declarations at the bottom of this post). I was curious to find out how individual lives had been transformed in their day-to-day reality and the more people I interviewed, the greater my appreciation grew for the many people of African descendants,  who created such an amazing opportunity for people of Africa descendants to realize their vision for the Black community and the world.

Most of the folks I interviewed would tell me:

“This is my family”;

“I feel belonged here”;

“I can be myself”;

“There is nothing for me to hide or defend here”;

“I can just be”;

“This is a space where I feel fully embraced”;

“I come to the Summit to be vulnerable”;

“It is a space where I can share love and receive so much love”;

“It is a space where I can be with like-minded people”.

“I have created myself into a world citizen and have now travelled to 5 continents! This has all happened because of the International Black Summit. It has been a breakthrough in my life and I live the passion of the Summit”.  These were the words of Chekesha Showers, a retired teacher from California, who is also a facilitator body at the International Black Summit.

( Chekesha is at the center,  white-haired woman below – sorry for the quality of this photo – camera failure 🙂 )

“I ended 25 years of marriage gracefully, entered into a new marriage courageously after meeting someone new in four weeks (now happily married for 5 years) and opened a new store! This would never have been possible without the support of the International Black Summit to crystallize my vision into reality and watch it  manifest in my life” Niamo M-Davis. (Below is a picture of Niamo and her husband Jonathan, who share an amazing love connection and story)

“The Summit has offered me a body of Distinctions and Tools, which I apply to my life. I can live my life now  ‘in the bother of it’… I can live in the uncertainty of things and know that uncertainty is not a place of fear and it is o.k to take time to figure things out in that space of uncertainly”  Orin Saunders, a business man from New York City.

So what does the International Black Summit do to give such a boost to people of African descent that transforms their lives? I interviewed some individuals who have attended every single summit since the inception in 1991.

One of those individuals was Orin Sanders who beamed with light as he chatted with me during one of his breaks as a facilitator. He recalls the first invitation letter he got to attend the first Conversation, and as a young black man, living in New York, he found it intriguing there could be such a Conversation happening for black people. He recalls that the first Conversation was the most incredible and powerful Conversation in his life as those who attended explored all what it meant to be a black person. At the end of that Conversation, they were all inspired to do something and used all the ideas and thoughts to create the Declaration and had a vision to create something in the form of a Summit.  They called in The _____ (blank) Summit, until the Conversation became clearer to be called the International Black Summit.  Since then, Orin has attended every Summit and has  continued  on his transformative journey. It must be noted that the Summit happens once a year but Conversations are happening throughout the year. He gives thanks to the Summit for the transformative power it has had in his life in developing his own vision and being able to manage his own business from Conversations of the Summit and incorporating the Declaration of the Summit and the Distinctions of the Summit in his own life.  Although an Architect by profession, Orin has listened to what life is saying to him and has followed his passion into the hair industry.

“You come here with your own essence… you get the opportunity to explore that unique essence you bring to the world… and the Summit creates that safe space for you to explore questions and issues, it is a space for you to clear yourself and hear what life is telling you… it is a space that allows you to be yourself. You will discover things about yourself that not even your family knows about you but you will feel safe in sharing with your Summit family.”

Orin’s vision allows him to live his life from key fundamentals, no matter where he is or what he is doing. “My vision is a world that nurtures the human spirit, my spirit; An environment of abundant well-being.” He is a business man/ entrepreneur in New York City who owns 2 beauty salons, specialized in African hair styles and products. Orin also trains individuals to become entrepreneurs world wide in the hair industry and therefore honours the declaration of the International Black Summit to “Build economies to fund our community”. Orin referred to the Distinctions of the Summit by which he had to live his own life to be a facilitator . He explained to me that the Distinctions are constantly being developed but he leads his own life and his business by following five main distinctions:

Noticing: He provided the example of the downside of the economic situation that hit his business in 2008. He noticed that with the advent of social media technology, he had less control over keeping confidential client information as everyone could share information with everyone else, including his staff.  This reduced the number of clients coming to the salon. By noticing the change in trends, he knew that he had to adjust certain key things in how he operated his business but also started noting his own triggers.

Trigger:  He examined his triggers of discomfort,  frustration, anger, the knot in his stomach… He kept on asking himself: “What is this pointing to?” and he got to the conclusion that he can’t do things they way they were any more. Something needed to change.

Declaration: His declaration was to decide on the future of his Salon. He knew that if things remained in the state they were, he could do it no more. This led him to re-look at the structure within which he was operating and to ensure that all structures were complete.

Completion:  He worked on ensuring that he had proper structures in place to support his team to work effectively by putting in simple things such as schedules, having meetings regularly, clarifying,  etc. With little business coming in, he knew that perhaps he needed to let people go but his philosophy did not believe in firing anyone. His technique was to have a conversation about completion with members of his team. Some  members opted to leave because their work in the salon was complete within themselves.

Vision: As this work became completed and his vision became stronger, he also shifted his business within the global phenomenon. “The shift had to occur in me first, before it could occur outside of me.”   This is what this whole transformative process is all about! “I was no longer stressed. I got flat clear about where I wanted to go and as some people left, new people joined the business and this had to happen to bring in new energy.” Today, he is still in the vision.

I also chatted with a young man named Zachary Morris who was attending the Summit. Zachary shared with me that he is here to live on his Grandmother’s legacy and to make an investment in himself to be able to hold himself accountable to himself and be mentally strong to implement his vision for himself. His grandmother, Mama Koumba, was known as the Mother of the Summit, and he now has a better idea of what she stood for and can see the impact of following the Declaration and the Distinctions in his life. Zachary is a barber instructor in a prison in Chicago (a former student of Orin) and after this weekend’s Summit, he is now clear about how to implement his vision. In his classroom with inmates, he knows how  he can teach them to progress so that they can have a job after they have served their time. He knows that he will teach them what it takes to be entrepreneurs – and very importantly, they can practice while they are in prison. As an athlete, he can see now that he can work with his volleyball team to create possibilities by using the techniques he has learnt at the Summit.

Above is a picture of some members of the host team in Ottawa.  On the far left is Melissa Rowe, also a dear friend of mine, who has attended the Summit for several years. This has resulted in her seeing herself from a different perspective.  Melissa, constantly uses the Distinctions from the Summit in everyday conversations to help others clarify or to get a Clearing for herself.  She used to tell herself that she cannot write but today she is a published writer!  “The Summit is like my extended family.” Those of us to know Melissa, also know who much voluntary work she puts into the community of Ottawa in lifting others and supporting individuals to move forward through life coaching and her work within the Social Services field as a registered social worker.

Adrienne “Afua’ Coddette  (far right)  is another inspiring leader in the Black community in Ottawa and so is Jacqueline Lawerence (in black). Adrienne  is well-known for her involvement in empowering  black youth and taking them under her wings to nurture and care for them –  she has adopted many youth!  Adrienne has strong roots within the community of Ottawa. “I am a child of this community… this community created me.”  She shared with me her history of being part of Impact Heritage, a group which a group of mothers, including her own mother, formed over 40  years ago and which provided  a safe space for black kids to learn about their history, their culture and to be with other black kids.  This group died perhaps due to lack of grooming of others to take responsibility for sustainability.  However, Adrienne knows that impact that the teachings from that group had on her own life, her sense of identify and purpose.  In 2002, Adrienne attended her first Summit  which enabled her to become clear of her own vision, as by then she had already created several initiatives in Ottawa to empower black youth.  Right there at the Summit in 2002, she made a commitment to herself to take at least one youth to each Summit with her.  11 years later, she is proud to have lived up to that commitment and in some cases she has taken more than one. Now, some of them fund their own way and help others along as well.  She actually went off with 27 youth from Ottawa to help in the rebuilding process of New Orleans after hurricane Katrina.  After the Summit in 2010 in Baltimore,  where she also took a group of youth, a new vision was born out of the youth so that they could stay connected and supported.  It is the Be More Academy in Ottawa, under the umbrella of the 3 Dreads and a Baldhead – an organization which four black women formed several years ago.   The Be More Academy is a positive space for black youth to gather and to realize their visions of themselves and the Black Community.

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“When I sat in the Summit in 2002, I realized that the Summit had a ripple effect, like throwing a rock in the river.  I thought, if I could expand the possibility, create a CommUnity… if everyone had the tools, they would create an opportunity for this city to BE MORE and contribute in a meaningful way.”

The International Black Summit has been held in several countries across the world and those transformative conversations are continuing on to Belize next year. The countries they have travelled to are North American cities such as Atlanta, Georgia, Oakland, California, Birmingham, Alabama, Toronto and now Ottawa; Caribbean and South American regions such as Montego Bay, Jamaica, Bahia Brazil and Rendovouz Bay Anguilla; African cities such as Nairobi, Kenya, Johannesburg, South Africa and Elmina Ghana and the European cosmopolitan hub of London, England.

More information about the International Black Summit can be found at:

The Declaration of the International Black Summit:

The purpose of this group is to provide an opportunity for participants to bring into being their vision for the Black community and the world and it is guided by the Declaration of the International Black Summit which states:

We declare ourselves, our community and all communities whole and complete. There is nothing to do except be.

We assert that we are responsible for generating community as possibility and distinction. We listen for and grant being to the possibility and creation of unpredictable results. Our conversation of, about, and for those of African descent is one of power, self-generation, abundance, responsibility, unity and integrity, with the possibility of being.

We stand for the expression of our spirituality, ending the murders of our men, women and children; building economies responsible for funding our community, maintaining wellness of being in our bodies, providing human services; establishing nurturing relationships; altering the conversation of who we are in the media; empowering our youth.

We declare that our community manifest itself in the world as contribution in the transformation of the universe. Atlanta, Georgia, 1991.

Since the inception 23 years ago, two other groups have emerged from it – the International Black Youth Summit, for ages 8 – 17; and the International Black Young Adult Summit, for youth ages 18 – 35 years.

To quote one of the interviewees “We can create anytime, anywhere.  We don’t have to wait!  We may not be in the physical space here but there is no separation.”

The tools and processes used in the Conversation allows each person’s vision to manifest in different unique ways.  For Jonathan Davis, a political activist, a lawyer in training and now a Safety Consultant, he enjoys “being with what is”.  His vision is for there to be “No more blacks. No more whites. It is all going to be about people having access to all that they need to feel fulfilled from education to health care to recreation and the space to self-actualize.”  He is concerned about the youth and concerned about the educational gaps that are getting wider and wider but he also believes that ” We have the power from within ourselves to free our selves.” He works tirelessly in having conversations and empowering folks through his work but in all walks of his life, especially in empowering people of African descent.

TuneIn to  hear what life is saying to you.  What is your vision of yourself?  How do you serve life and serve your community?  StepUp and engage in a Conversation… it may just be the beginning of a transformative process for you!  The tools and processes used by the International Black Summit are applicable for everyone.