I Choose Love

As hard as it may seem… choosing love over hate, frees your soul.

The thought that God loves me unconditionally gives me permission to the same for others. A wonderful friend of mine called a few days ago to ask me how I am able to always find good in people, without judging them and meeting them wherever they are in their lives. My personal philosophy is that we are all people in-progress…. moving towards the light. Our paths are different. A person’s bad behaviours doesn’t not define the whole person. The worst person you can find has good in them. I am so far from being perfect… but God’s love does not judge me based on my perfections. God’s love also embraces my imperfections. This love is so pure and is not dependent on anything I do or don’t do. That love sustains me and is constant in my life.
When I think of judging another harshly, I look inwards myself. Because what I see in myself, I see in others.
Our lives and journeys go beyond what we see in the physical world. In the spiritual world, only love exists. Hate carries too heavy a price for me to bear. I choose to send love back to everyone because I know for sure that in the grand scheme of life, all what I give to the universe comes back to me a hundred fold. I live love – it is that simple.

Free yourself from holding grudges against others.
It is not worth the precious time we have to enjoy this beautiful planet. Take ownership for your life. Make it a beautiful one.



Memories of Mom Living her Passion.

My tears flowed nonstop as I helped her with the sewing machine and observed the pensive and thoughtful look on her face. I know how much this sewing machine meant to her and I am sure that if she was right here with me, she would tell me that it was her lifeline. Back in 1947, women like my mom did not have the fair advantage to go to school. She was denied an education because she was the eldest child and had to stay home to help her mother with the house work.

IMAG3216“Come and look at the sewing machine with me.” My mom beckoned me to follow her to the dark corner where the old singer sewing machine had been stored for several years since she became blind.

She uncovered the sewing machine.  The cloth over it was a heavy linen which had covered it for decades. She pulled out the small wooden draws on the side and took out a small brush to dust it. She gently pulled it out from the dark corner to the light and then started to test the peddles which seemed to be stuck and made a funny creaking sound.  She found an old bottle of  machine oil, safely tucked inside the drawer and applied it to the various small machine parts while she tested the peddles over and over until it rolled with ease. Her numb hands fumbled with the parts and they dropped from her hands occasionally. She bent her head and strained her eyes as much as she could but she did not stop  until she felt that she had given the sewing machine the proper care and touch which it needed.  It seemed to me that at the end of that experience she looked exhilarated.


My tears flowed nonstop as I helped her with the sewing machine and observed the pensive and thoughtful look on her face.  I know how much this sewing machine meant to her and I am sure that if she was right here with me, she would tell me that it was her lifeline. Back in 1929, women like my mom did not have the fair advantage to go to school.  She was denied an education because she was the eldest child and had to stay home to help her mother with the house work.  I believe that she must have been about fifteen when she learnt how to sew with one of the top seamstresses from the neighbouring village of Laborie.  To get to her sewing classes, she had to walk almost an hour to and from the class.  She got married about fifteen years as well and her father, who had been physically absent from most of her life,  gave her  the sewing machine – I believe as a wedding gift. She smartly invested her time in mastering the art and developed her small business in sewing tailored made clothing for  the people in the community.  She was one of the few seamstresses in the community.   Many people came to our home with bags of cloth and styles of clothes from catalogues and gave countless instructions to my mom so that she could turn their visions into wearable garments.

Looking back, I can see what a great mom and entrepreneur she was!  She kept everything in balance by waking up early, getting us all ready for school, cooking meals, doing all the house chores and creating the time to live her passion for sewing as well as earning an income. She sewed all of our clothes and uniforms as well as my dad’s pants and shirts and even the undergarments. Just before his death, he showed me some of the pants which she had made for him and which we still wore up to 2012!   All of my three sisters and I learnt how to sew by watching her.  However, she never wanted us to  sew as a means of earning an income. She believed that we could do more than that and ensured that we had the support which we needed to have a good education.

As an adult, I appreciate all what my mom did a million times more now than I did while I was growing up.  She had a lot less to work with – no education, less money, less opportunity, no management training, no marriage counselling, no parenting classes, no brands, no luxuries… but she had courage, faith, vision, great time management skills and knew how to prioritize her time to get things done. She lived her passion for sewing.  I can only imagine the devastation she felt when she became blind and could no longer live her passion.  Yet, she courageously accepted her fate and one of her favourite lines were “It is not my will but if God wills it for my life, I accept. ”

Those photos were taken in 2007 on my first visit to Saint Lucia after migrating to Canada in 2003. She crossed over in 2011.  I will always hold on to those memories and I am glad that I captured those moments with those photos.

Live your future now.  Do what matters to you and don’t wait for perfect circumstances.



What filters are you using to protect yourself from the thousand bits of information which hits you daily?


What do you do with the information and feelings that you receive all day long?

The manager who ‘deals’ with you; the FB messages you read; the body language  of those you can’t stand but words are not exchanged; the terrible news of child trafficking;  the news of death and beheadings in countries you don’t know about;  the dishonesty of people we trust wholeheartedly;  a glimpse of what you could have become if only you made a different choice;  the life lessons from someone else’s book; the advice from those close to you; the rivalry between siblings; the sudden death of a family member; the things you heard about someone else but never experienced yourself; the rejection from someone you held dearly to your heart; the job opportunity which you did not get  – it is a hell of a lot of stuff to tune in to!

It has been proven that emotions trump logic all the time! Most of the time, we think we make logical decisions but unless we apply the filters to diffuse emotions, we cannot come to logical conclusions. We are loaded with emotions and even though they are not expressed, we carry them around us all day long.  The things that happen to us or does not happen to us are often related to our emotional vibrations.

Writing this reminds me of my experience with an absolutely gorgeous woman who told me she believes that she is an ugly person because she was told so repeatedly as a child by her parents. Even when she grew up to be beautiful, she has not been able reverse the emotional damage which was done to her and it still affects her present life, 60 years later!  Does this sound crazy to you?  Well, it is not!

Do you know that sometimes an emotional memory of something which happened many, many years ago can still control your reactions to  your current life?

How do we filter it all out and decide what to feed our mind, spirit and soul with?  Does the information and vibes we receive from others all day long remain stored in our emotional memory?  Do you notice how you feel at the end of the day?  Are you sad? Anxious?  Happy?  Fulfilled? Unfulfilled? An emotional wreck?  Do you have control about what you consciously allow into your system?

A few days ago, I saw a dear friend whom I had not seen for  about 6 years.  She always filled me with high doses of beautiful, positive energy.  As we held hands, I could feel that positive energy from her infusing my body with positive light.  When I left her, I felt that I had received an infusion of positive energy which has left a smile on my face and a warmth in my heart.  This mood has continued for several days now and made me realize how much I missed her!

Can you put your finger on exactly what leads you to your overall mood at the end of the day?  Are you living in your past?  In the present?

Everything and everyone sends an energy wave towards us and sometimes we embrace that energy without even realizing it. When we look at an inspiring sight or a painting – it gives us energy without speaking to us!  That is why we leave feeling inspired.  However, you can only feel inspired if your emotional body is open to receiving this positive energy.  The energy we receive – negative or positive – remains stored in our mental and emotional body until something triggers it.   This emotion, if not managed, can eventually turn you into something you were never meant to be.  It happens quietly overtime…. and then one day, you may find yourself asking: “What happened to my life?” “How did I end up in this situation?”  If you look back, you will realize that there are many small dots that connect…. and it is all about our emotional energy which translates into physical positive or negative vibes which further translates into physical manifestations in our bodies and generally into our lives.

TuneIn to consciously choose what you want to be present in your life. Trust?  Love?  Peace? Fulfillment? Good, healthy conversations?  Good friends? A supportive network? Kind words? Are the activities which  you are currently engaged with provide you with those outcomes?


We  have a choice about what we let in and out of our lives and sometimes we have to StepUp and let go of some of the things that drain us. Unfortunately it may include people who are in our lives, some aspects of the media, re-framing our jobs; re-thinking our career paths or even making some rebellious decisions to start a new life pattern.  We many need to say a firm NO to the things that do not support our life choices and a firm YES to the things we truly want to bring into our lives.

Whatever it is, remember that your spirit is always longing to be touched with kindness and gentleness.

Be well.  Protect yourself.  Trust your vibes.  Take control of living the life which YOU want to live.



Lose 10 pounds by writing!


Writing helped me to lose 10 lbs! How can this be so when I sit to write?

I accumulated 20 extra lbs. over the last 8 years which seemed impossible to get rid of no matter how many diets and exercise routines I kept on trying. During that time period, I felt overcommitted, overstretched and overwhelmed  most of the time. I felt that I was constantly reacting to situations instead of being in control of my life.

With my LookGood!!!FeelGood!!! blog in 2011,writing provided a strong anchor for me to express my emotions and re-program my mind to some of the LookGood and FeelGood messages that I was writing about. I developed a habit to write each morning for about an hour and by the time I was done, I felt more grounded.  I felt that I had touched a part of my soul that was longing to be nurtured. I paid more attention to what I ate, drank more water and added more fiber to my diet. I developed a consistent exercise routine of running and light weights at the gym at least 3 times a week. On days I could not go to the gym, I walked for at least half an hour a day. Over 6 months I actually lost 10 lbs. I still have 10 more to go but I am quite confident that it will go away as well. Now I am not on a rush to lose weight – I am just taking more mindful care of myself and it feels great!

One can argue that I did physical exercise to lose the lbs and it is definitely true. But I think that the most important thing that led to better self-care was being able to ground myself emotionally through writing. That led to being consistent about changing a few of my daily habits. What I have learnt from this experience is that my soul needs creative expression. Actually, consistency matters when we are trying to change something in our lives. I had to push myself to blog several days a week, go to the gym, prepare my lunch and stop comforting myself with chocolate when I am anxious, until those things became a consistent part of my daily routine. It is harder than it looks but I know that it works and I am more proactive in making choices for my life and less reactive.

What nourishes your soul and gives you a strong anchor? It doesn’t have to be something grand – sometimes it is just the simplest things you do that leaves you feeling “Wow! This felt really good!” TuneIn to that feeling and Step up to do more of it.

If you are interested in writing as a daily activity, Julia Cameron’s book, “The Artists Way” provides some really good techniques. She too lost weight from size 16 to size 10, through writing.

Write your way to an amazing life!!!