Build Your Dreams In The Fall

“Remember your dreams and fight for them. You must know what you want from life. There is just one thing that makes your dream become impossible: the fear of failure.” Paulo Coelho

Fall is the perfect time for gathering all the dreams in my dream box and setting some new goals for the following year. Just as the trees shed their leaves but remain rooted in the earth, I feel that I start letting go of what no longer serves me and start rooting to continue my current dreams or to start building new ones for the upcoming Spring. In the Spring, when the new leaves bud on the trees which has stood the test of winter, I too want to have the freshness of Spring and green gold flowing within to savour all of the dreams which I planted during fall, Nature, in its infinite wisdom provides us with the gentle guidance which we need all the time – we simply need to tune in and listen to our authentic voices. Fall is a wonderful season for rejuvenation and preparation.

This fall I placed these three little scarecrow characters at the front of my yard with the sign, ‘Build Your Dreams In The Fall.” I call them Jill, Jack and Jane – names from the books I read as a little girl. They bring a sense of playfulness to my space and bring a smile to my face when I leave home in the morning or come home in the evening. They are a great reminder to keep my dreams in the forefront of my mind and this fall, I will call them the guards of my dream this fall. It is all imaginary and playful – and this is the whole point of having fun as your play with your dreams. Jill, Jack and Jane are the little triggers which I have placed in a visible space which triggers my mind to remain focus on my dreams. What triggers can you place in your environment?

What are your dreams?

What dream do you want to build?

What do you need to inspire your dreams?

Who do you need to help you?

What fears so you need to let go of?

Our dreams are unique to our soul mission. Some dreams are huge and will have an impact on millions of people. Some dreams are small and they could have an impact that will multiply in future lifetimes to cause a ripple effect. I believe that there is Divine Timing for all things in our lives but I also believe that it is important for us to know the things which make our soul sing. Think of the things which you cannot leave undone in this world because you have been given the special mission to take action to create a small or huge impact to make the world a better place.

What do you need to take action on?

Love,

Mags

Sometimes, unkind people need the most kindness

Kindness has become a new cool.

When and why did we stop being kind?

Is it more obvious in our society than before?

The beauty and mystery of life, is that we do not always see the intimate view of the evolution of a person’s soul.  We cannot see all the losses and the depth of losses which can impact someone’s behaviour.  We often speak about the loss of loved ones and have more sympathy towards those who are grieving. In addition, people react towards the loss of identity, jobs, status, wealth, relationships, friendships, trust, faith, hope, freedom, independence, safety, treasured objects, body image, health, innocence … and I am sure that you can name a few more losses.

How do you react to loss?

How do you react to kindness and unkindness?

For us to give the best of ourselves to others, we must pause and create a culture of kindness, first to ourselves – by being loving, forgiving and compassionate to ourselves.  If we are too hard on ourselves, we can harden our spirits and this makes us less compassionate towards others. We can choose to look at situation and release judgment and extend a loving blessing on those who are being unkind.  Being kind to an unkind person is a true act of generosity.

It is the same as loving those who least deserve our love.

Here is my FB live video which I did this morning.  By the way, I will be trying to do a FB live video at lunch time – 12:30 everyday. Join me if you can.

Love,

Mags

 

 

 

 

 

 

What is the WINNING factor?

Over the last couple of weeks, I have experienced a bunch of people, including myself – WINNING something or the other, or even WINNING someone! Two of my friends are getting married!

Christmas brings on that magical feeling that boosts our feelings of giving and receiving gifts, love and treasures all around us. There are many more opportunities to participate in social activities and most people seem to be in good spirits.

At our Christmas staff party, I won a beautiful collection of teas. Several other colleagues also won prizes from performances or by participating in a raffle draw.

Gemma, Aranjit and I

At a recent fundraiser, two of us won prizes from our tables, after my partner had jokingly sang, “abakadabrah… abakadabrah” on our tickets!  We have decided to take him to all future fundraisers!

Chinese Community Centre win

Those wins made me think about many other times I have won prizes such as a $10,000 prize draw for furniture, a job, a box of Christmas gifts, a lunch basket, a wine glass which can hold an entire bottle of wine, etc… what made all those wins come together?

Have you won something?

During my first year at college, I participated in a Math Competition and won! During the game, my Math Professor whispered to me, “Your confidence is shaking your opponents.”  At the end of the game they too told me that I was so confident in myself, that they gave up before they even tried to win!  We all laughed but I also knew that they were much brighter at Math than I was!

Was my confidence the winning factor?

So what is the magic formula for winning?

I conclude that it is simply SHOWING UP!

You don’t stand a chance if you don’t show up for opportunities and be willing to take risks.

Showing up for our lives means being  present and also being emotionally, intellectually and socially connected to ourselves and others.

We show up for our lives when we:

  • speak positive messages to ourselves
  • participate fully in opportunities which are available to us
  • communicate our needs, desires, wants to others
  • allow ourselves to be vulnerable
  • have an open heart
  • be attentive to the needs of others
  • create opportunities where gaps exists
  • are confident that we are winners in every aspect of our lives
  • meditate, dress up, take care of our bodies, exercise and invite good energy into our lives!

There are also our every day wins like waking up healthy, having access to good health care, being part of a loving family, having a job, coping with loss and tragedy in our lives, having our senses intact, having good friends and access to finance, letting go of what no longer serves us.

Grab your small wins and consider yourself a winner at life!

Remember too that you cannot win the lottery without a ticket!

Love,

Mags

 

Are you letting ‘comfortable sadness’ feel like ‘happiness’?

Another day on the couch.

A promise that I will ‘start again’ tomorrow.

A unreturned phone call or email.

A ‘stop bothering me’ attitude.

A blanked out mind.

A blurred day at work.

An empty feeling lying in bed.

Another drink.

Another slice of cake.

Another tantrum.

No visitors.

No place to visit.

No invitations.

A day goes by. A week goes by. A month goes by. Three months go by. Six Months go by. One year goes by. Five years go by. A decade goes by.

A lifetime vanishes.

Sometimes, one event happens in our lives that seem to throw us off our equilibrium.  A feeling of rejection, the loss of a job, the unruly child, the ungrateful friend, squabbling parents, the unattained dream, the loss of loved ones, the guilt of living after loss, a financial crisis… the list can go on.

Shutting the door to the world and ‘being alone’ behind closed doors, in our own bubbles, seem to even protect us. This is the furthest from truth as it could get. Human beings happiness comes from being of service, being useful and supporting life. Without this ‘contributing energy’, it is easy for us to feel purposeless.

The system seem to wear us down and a fog settles over us, like a comfortable blanket.

As my son Jelan, once said to me, “Comfortable sadness can almost feel like happiness.”

He was about 18 at the time, but has always been quite a reflective, out of the box thinker. Our conversation that morning hinged on how we ‘see’ life from our various perspectives, drawing specific reference to the vision which a giraffe has of the world is different when compared to a turtle. Our conclusion was that a person’s vision is unique to them – they can only see as far as their unique level.

The conversation expanded to our general disposition in life and how we perceive others and how others may also perceive us. He said something which left quite an impact on my mind:

“Comfortable sadness can almost feel like happiness.”

How profound. How true.

It made me realize that sometimes we hold on to sadness or any other broken emotion,  because it is comfortable and easier to live with. To step away from that feeling will require greater effort from us… and why bother?

We perhaps don’t know what it is like to be happy or may have even decided that we don’t deserve to be happy. Sometimes, we repeat our unhappy stories until we make them become ‘how’ our lives should be. Even when opportunities to be happy are begging us to join in the vibrancy of happiness, it is more comfortable to remain in our sadness. Sadness can even become a way of life and eventually defines our personalities, our lives and even the relationships which we share with others.

it is important to fight back to claim our rightful spaces on this earth because we were all born to contribute something meaningful to Mother Earth.  I admire Jelan’s optimistic nature and how he explores his life from all angles to engage in living a fun, happy and fulfilled life.

You can change this comfortable sadness to a conscious decision to be happy.

Do one small thing for someone else.

Start a conversation.

Make a phone call.

Go for that walk.

Read a good book.

Smile.

Look for a ways to connect with real people.

I believe that each time the universe feels our happiness, there is a global shift in human consciousness towards greater love, compassion and kindness… and even with one single breath of happiness… the entire world beams.

I believe that sadness does the same thing… every single moment of sadness, also creates a global shift in human consciousness towards greater despair and fear.

It is  O.K. to be sad but don’t let sad moments turn into a lifetime of sadness.

It is O.K. to be happy. Multiply your happy moments over and over again.

Affirmations for the day:

I am happy.

I choose happiness as my way of life.

I embrace laughter, joy, fun… as much as I can… as I push beyond my boundaries

I am so delighted with all the wonderful people, great opportunities, amazing places and beautiful moments which this world is blessing me with every day.

Being happy is a decision.

Getting up from the couch is a decision.

Making that phone call is a decision.

Let us make some good decisions and live joyfully… it is our birthright.  Don’t let comfortable sadness deny you of a happy, fulfilled life.

Love,

Mags

What is built from within, will stand the test of time.

The RIO games demonstrate such excellence, passion and commitment at various levels – of the athletes, of families, communities and countries. I admire that resilience, focus and determination of our athletes, both in winning and also not being placed at the top. There is no loser.  I have tremendous admiration for each person who took up the challenge to compete.  Every single act of commitment to our passions is a blessing to the world in one form or another.

Their performances remind me that each of them built their skills and competences over a long period of time.  We can apply the same principles in our daily lives and work at molding excellence within us so that whatever we do, whatever we say, wherever we are… we can safely say that, “This is the best version of me and my efforts in creating excellence within me.” 

What is built from within, will stand the test of time.

Love,

Magdalene

Happy Easter! Sometimes, it is only our faith which keeps us anchored in sanity.

Happy Easter!

Easter is a very reflective time for me.  I reflect on the life of Christ and the  many other great sages and spiritual masters who have enlightened us but they also endured much suffering.  They held on to their faith in their darkest moments.

What I have learnt is that suffering is a part of our life journey.  We cannot live a lifetime without suffering. Bob Marley, our famous Reggae  artist said, “Truth is everybody is going to hurt you: you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.” 

Our ability to put our suffering into perspective  is the key to getting us through those dark moments.  The following words which Christ uttered during his most difficult suffering on the cross, keeps me grounded  when I go through my personal challenges.

“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do.” Gospel of Luke 23:34

“Truly, I say to you, today you will be with me in Paradise.” Gospel of Luke 23:43

“Jesus said to his mother: “Woman, this is your son.”
Then he said to the disciple: “This is your mother.”
Gospel of John 19:26-27

“My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” Matthew 27:46 and Mark 15:34

Jesus cried out in a loud voice,
“Father, into your hands I commend my spirit.”
Gospel of Luke 23:46

Sometimes, our faith is all that keeps us anchored in sanity, regardless of our religion. I seek only to be more Christ-like, more Budha-like, more God-like.  At the end of it all, our behaviour towards each other is the truest reflection of the emotions which are held deep within us.  I pray, for you and I, that this emotion will always be love, in the  most sacred and purest form.

May you have a blessed Easter Celebration.

Love,

Mags

 

Everything is just something – until you give it a VALUE

Everything is just something

In one household…

She took all the jewellery away from her daughter because she felt that her daughter did not show any interest in the beautiful collection of gems which were given to her over several years. She was upset that her daughter simply did not connect with the precious, expensive stones. She seemed to find far greater joy in designing colourful beaded bracelets. Twenty years later, she became an art and crafts teacher, a profession which brought great happiness to her.  Her mother is still perplexed about the lack of enthusiasm towards the beautiful gems.

In a big city…

She looked at the handbag in the store which was valued at $750.00. She wondered who would pay that kind of money for a handbag.  A bag is just a bag.  A $20 one is just as good as the $750.00 bag. She consciously chose to move on to the next store. Going to expensive handbag stores suddenly became a no-no for her. It was one less stop when shopping.

In another country..

He visited a small island and fell in love with it.  More than anything else in the world, he wanted to live in this space where he felt rich and free at the same time.  He went back to America, sold everything he had and made a home on the island. The tides that lapped at his feet in the early morning was priceless. He became an island man, married an island girl, had three island children and used his experience to help others understand the importance of choosing a lifestyle which speaks to you from the heart and soul.

Across the world…

The pain from her childhood casted a dark shadow over her life. She lived in fear, paralysed that she would die like her sister did. The nightmares rolled over and over in her mind until she decided to claim her life and use her sister’s death to educate others about drunkard driving. The pain lessened as she gave value to the experience. After many years, she realized that she found purpose in life, through the pain that she suffered.

In the basement…

He lived with the regret of spending much of his hard earned money drinking and partying in his younger days.   He felt that he should have been wiser and saved more money.  One day, he threw the regret out of the window and re-framed the party going days as some of the best days of his life. He got pictures of his friends and wrote a letter to all of them to reconnect and laugh about the past. The rekindling of friendship has made him a happier person. He has given new value to his past.

Everything is just something, until we give it a personal value.  Pain can be transformed. Regret can be healed. Love can be restored. Purpose can be found. Sometimes we have great treasures but we are not aware of their high value.  We can easily lock ourselves in a prison – simply because we cannot re-frame our experiences.   Sometimes, we spend days and nights and years on things which has no value to us simply because we are going along with the crowd.

Be mindful of the moments that create your future… what are you adding value to?  What is adding value to you?

Live your future now… re-define your experience so that it adds value to your life and the lives of others.

Love,

Mags