The power of unleashing your creativity – I built my own bird bath

I believe that our neurons can be fired up by immersing ourselves in creativity – dancing, art, music, play, gardening, sculpting, cooking and even decorating and re-organizing. The brain loves it when we move away from the routine of thinking the same things over and over again to engaging ourselves in creating something using our imagination. As we engage in the creative process, there are many health benefits including a boost to our overall mood, rewiring the brain and relieving stress.

The last couple of months were tough for me, juggling studying and work. However, I immersed myself in a creative project to build a bird bath using mosaic and instead of adding stress, it added lightness to my packed agenda. It fueled my studies and my creativity flowed in abundance. Not only for the bird bath but several other creative projects were inspired by the bird bath!

I used at least a couple hundreds of broken pieces of glass to build this beautiful bird bath which I call ‘a windy summer day’. It shows petals and leaves flying around, with raindrops in-between. When I first started, I had absolutely no idea of a particular pattern or what the end product would look like. Each day, I spent varying lengths of time playing with the broken pieces of glass until I noticed that I was capturing patterns that looked like petals. As I went along, the theme ‘a windy summer day’ came to mind and low and behold, it took my creation to another level which got me more excited about creating the product. In between my studies, I would take fifteen minute breaks to work on my mosaic and somehow this seemed to energize me in a way which got me more alert when I got back to my books.

Bird bath
‘A windy summer day’

I am a player with thoughts and manifestations. I believe that we have this huge untapped power inside of us which is begging to be released into the universe. How do we unleash it? Certainly not by doing the same thing over and over and over again! I believe that our brain and emotional bodies long to connect with the creative life force within us. Perhaps the only way to engage with this creative force is to step outside of our comfort zone and to do things which we have never done before. When I look at my bird bath, it affirms that creation is opening up the mind to possibilities by simply being present in the act of creation. We need to give ourselves permission to do / be / create.

How are you inviting creativity in your life today? How are you using your lifeforce to create magic? For me, life is a huge canvas which I get to play with and create magic around me because I know for sure, that I am created with all that is Source. And SOURCE is infinite intelligence.

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Love,

Mags

Trust your soul – it know what it needs today.

Today is a BEAUTIFUL day.

It is BEAUTIFUL because I decided that, even before the day started.

TRUST YOUR SOUL TO KNOW WHAT IT NEEDS TODAY.

I have TODAY so I will: Grab it. Live it. Love it. Play with it. Be BOLD to ASK for what I NEED AND WANT.

Please don’t waste a moment of today on useless things and people who suck away at your beautiful energy.

If you need to sit quietly to reconnect with yourself – just do that.
If you need to dance – just do that.
If you need to tell someone off – just do that.
If you need to pray – just do that.
If you need to treat yourself to something wonderful – just do that.

If you need a glass of wine – just do that.

If you need a long nap and uninterrupted sleep – just do that.

If you need to buy yourself flowers – just do that.
If you need to cry – just do that.
If you need to walk away from a relationship – just do that.

If you need to walk away from a job – just do that.

Whatever you do, let yourself feel that that action grounded you, lifted you, amplified your goodness and seriously moved you to a more JOYFUL and BEAUTIFUL inner space.

YOU are VERY PRECIOUS. BELIEVE THAT. 

BE LIMITLESS.

BE AGELESS.

BE TIMELESS. 

Love,

Mags

Are you manifesting what you truly desire in your life?

“Wait, I have something for you.” My neighbour told me as we chatted between our two houses, on a snow covered lawn.  Wilson and I had arrived home just at the same time that she and her son Damon, drove in. Since being back home from Rwanda, we had barely seen them.  She quickly slipped into her house and came back with a poinsettia plant, in full bloom.  “I got this for you to support Damon’s club’s fundraising drive.” she said.  Damon is her 7 year old son whom we are very fond of.

I walked inside with the poinsettia bloom and the only words which popped into my head were, ‘How beautiful it is to manifest from thought!”

poinsettia

A couple of days earlier, I was at the Home Depot and wanted to buy a poinsettia plant.  I talked myself out of it because at that moment, I could not quite figure out exactly where I would place it in the house.  The plants seem to be a bit too big for my space.   I decided that I would try to find a smaller plant.

Damon’s mom, gave me exactly the size of the plant which was a perfect match to my space.   It could easily fit on the table or on a little stand which I have in my living room.

There is something magical and reassuring about manifesting things or experiences which I really want. It makes me feel that the universe always has my back, even in the smallest ways.  How can a poinsettia show up for me, when all I did was decide that I needed a smaller plant, instead of a big one.  I said ‘No’ to the big plant quite freely.

Well… I just said it, this is one part of the magic of manifestation – DECIDE.  What is it that you want?  To say YES to something, means that you have to say NO to something else.  To say NO to something which is not in alignment with you, creates SPACE to say YES to that which you really desire.

I have noticed some trends in my life that when I am not sure about what I want or what to do, I seem to manifest exactly that – confusion, indecision, contradiction! Being undecided is also being decisive. The  universe gives me exactly what I am thinking and feeling.

What I have learnt, is to be mindful of the messages, emotions and attitudes which I hold moment by moment. In each moment, we have the poser to choose. We can all begin with clear thinking, a deep heartfelt desire and take both small and big actions to manifest our desires.

Here are a few questions for you to think about:

  1. How do you experience life?  As a negative or positive experience?
  2. What shows up in your life?  Happiness?  Contentment?  Joylessness?  Confusion? Stress?  Lack of support? Lots of support? Helpful people?  Unhelpful people?
  3. What do you give back to life?  Support?  Love? Joy?  Happiness? Joyfulness?
  4. What do you sincerely want to manifest?  A job?  A better job? A home?  A better home?  A caring family?  More money?  More time?  More self-care?  A larger table?  An education? Travelling experiences?
  5. Try to develop a vision of what that thing you want.  What does it look like?  How does it feel? Can you write it? Draw it?  Get a photo of it?

I know for sure that I (and all of us) hold the magic of manifesting our desires by unlocking the right doors to our thoughts, emotions and actions.  Unlocking those magical doors can increase our manifestations but it requires the discipline of constantly taking note of what is showing up in our lives and making quick decisions about what we CHOOSE to KEEP and what we CHOOSE to RELEASE.

In my next post, I will look at 10 things which we can do to increase our vibrational frequency and manifest more of what we desire!

Remember to like, comment or share this post if you feel that it would add a drop of goodness in our universe.

Love,

Mags

 

 

 

What is the WINNING factor?

Over the last couple of weeks, I have experienced a bunch of people, including myself – WINNING something or the other, or even WINNING someone! Two of my friends are getting married!

Christmas brings on that magical feeling that boosts our feelings of giving and receiving gifts, love and treasures all around us. There are many more opportunities to participate in social activities and most people seem to be in good spirits.

At our Christmas staff party, I won a beautiful collection of teas. Several other colleagues also won prizes from performances or by participating in a raffle draw.

Gemma, Aranjit and I

At a recent fundraiser, two of us won prizes from our tables, after my partner had jokingly sang, “abakadabrah… abakadabrah” on our tickets!  We have decided to take him to all future fundraisers!

Chinese Community Centre win

Those wins made me think about many other times I have won prizes such as a $10,000 prize draw for furniture, a job, a box of Christmas gifts, a lunch basket, a wine glass which can hold an entire bottle of wine, etc… what made all those wins come together?

Have you won something?

During my first year at college, I participated in a Math Competition and won! During the game, my Math Professor whispered to me, “Your confidence is shaking your opponents.”  At the end of the game they too told me that I was so confident in myself, that they gave up before they even tried to win!  We all laughed but I also knew that they were much brighter at Math than I was!

Was my confidence the winning factor?

So what is the magic formula for winning?

I conclude that it is simply SHOWING UP!

You don’t stand a chance if you don’t show up for opportunities and be willing to take risks.

Showing up for our lives means being  present and also being emotionally, intellectually and socially connected to ourselves and others.

We show up for our lives when we:

  • speak positive messages to ourselves
  • participate fully in opportunities which are available to us
  • communicate our needs, desires, wants to others
  • allow ourselves to be vulnerable
  • have an open heart
  • be attentive to the needs of others
  • create opportunities where gaps exists
  • are confident that we are winners in every aspect of our lives
  • meditate, dress up, take care of our bodies, exercise and invite good energy into our lives!

There are also our every day wins like waking up healthy, having access to good health care, being part of a loving family, having a job, coping with loss and tragedy in our lives, having our senses intact, having good friends and access to finance, letting go of what no longer serves us.

Grab your small wins and consider yourself a winner at life!

Remember too that you cannot win the lottery without a ticket!

Love,

Mags

 

Are you letting ‘comfortable sadness’ feel like ‘happiness’?

Another day on the couch.

A promise that I will ‘start again’ tomorrow.

A unreturned phone call or email.

A ‘stop bothering me’ attitude.

A blanked out mind.

A blurred day at work.

An empty feeling lying in bed.

Another drink.

Another slice of cake.

Another tantrum.

No visitors.

No place to visit.

No invitations.

A day goes by. A week goes by. A month goes by. Three months go by. Six Months go by. One year goes by. Five years go by. A decade goes by.

A lifetime vanishes.

Sometimes, one event happens in our lives that seem to throw us off our equilibrium.  A feeling of rejection, the loss of a job, the unruly child, the ungrateful friend, squabbling parents, the unattained dream, the loss of loved ones, the guilt of living after loss, a financial crisis… the list can go on.

Shutting the door to the world and ‘being alone’ behind closed doors, in our own bubbles, seem to even protect us. This is the furthest from truth as it could get. Human beings happiness comes from being of service, being useful and supporting life. Without this ‘contributing energy’, it is easy for us to feel purposeless.

The system seem to wear us down and a fog settles over us, like a comfortable blanket.

As my son Jelan, once said to me, “Comfortable sadness can almost feel like happiness.”

He was about 18 at the time, but has always been quite a reflective, out of the box thinker. Our conversation that morning hinged on how we ‘see’ life from our various perspectives, drawing specific reference to the vision which a giraffe has of the world is different when compared to a turtle. Our conclusion was that a person’s vision is unique to them – they can only see as far as their unique level.

The conversation expanded to our general disposition in life and how we perceive others and how others may also perceive us. He said something which left quite an impact on my mind:

“Comfortable sadness can almost feel like happiness.”

How profound. How true.

It made me realize that sometimes we hold on to sadness or any other broken emotion,  because it is comfortable and easier to live with. To step away from that feeling will require greater effort from us… and why bother?

We perhaps don’t know what it is like to be happy or may have even decided that we don’t deserve to be happy. Sometimes, we repeat our unhappy stories until we make them become ‘how’ our lives should be. Even when opportunities to be happy are begging us to join in the vibrancy of happiness, it is more comfortable to remain in our sadness. Sadness can even become a way of life and eventually defines our personalities, our lives and even the relationships which we share with others.

it is important to fight back to claim our rightful spaces on this earth because we were all born to contribute something meaningful to Mother Earth.  I admire Jelan’s optimistic nature and how he explores his life from all angles to engage in living a fun, happy and fulfilled life.

You can change this comfortable sadness to a conscious decision to be happy.

Do one small thing for someone else.

Start a conversation.

Make a phone call.

Go for that walk.

Read a good book.

Smile.

Look for a ways to connect with real people.

I believe that each time the universe feels our happiness, there is a global shift in human consciousness towards greater love, compassion and kindness… and even with one single breath of happiness… the entire world beams.

I believe that sadness does the same thing… every single moment of sadness, also creates a global shift in human consciousness towards greater despair and fear.

It is  O.K. to be sad but don’t let sad moments turn into a lifetime of sadness.

It is O.K. to be happy. Multiply your happy moments over and over again.

Affirmations for the day:

I am happy.

I choose happiness as my way of life.

I embrace laughter, joy, fun… as much as I can… as I push beyond my boundaries

I am so delighted with all the wonderful people, great opportunities, amazing places and beautiful moments which this world is blessing me with every day.

Being happy is a decision.

Getting up from the couch is a decision.

Making that phone call is a decision.

Let us make some good decisions and live joyfully… it is our birthright.  Don’t let comfortable sadness deny you of a happy, fulfilled life.

Love,

Mags

Inspiration for newcomers from BECOMING, Michelle Obama’s Memoir

I am reading ‘BECOMING’ by former First Lady Michelle Obama, and I am enjoying every word, every sentence, every paragraph.  The book is beautifully narrated and provides many pauses for deep reflection.   I am not quite finished yet, but I was inspired to stop and write my own thoughts on her quote:  “Failure is a feeling, long before an actual result.”

She narrates her experience of going to her counsellor to express her interest in going to Princeton.  

“I’m not sure.” she said, giving me the perfunctory, patronizing smile, “that you’re Princeton material.”

Has anyone ever made you feel that you are not good enough?  

As I read through the next few paragraphs, I could not help but think of the vulnerable groups of people I have worked with over the years, and how often I have had to counsel them to believe that they are good enough, worthy and have the God given rights to pursue their gifts and talents and to make a meaningful contribution to this world.  The newcomer population is no different and many of us who work in the sector take it on as a professional and personal mandate to help newcomers keep their faith and believe in themselves. 

In one instance, I tried to work with a recruitment company in ‘selling newcomer talent’ and was bluntly told that the clients of this recruitment company were not interested in hiring newcomers.  Newcomers were actually screened OUT of competitions, simply because of being a newcomer! It had nothing to do with their qualifications, skills or experience.  I felt so infuriated that the system was failing newcomers, even before they had the chance to prove themselves. 

I have witnessed people’s confidence spiral downwards as they fail to get screened into competitions, fail at closing interviews, fail at being told that they lack soft skills, fail at not pronouncing words ‘correctly’ or lacking cultural competencies… the list goes on and on. Sometimes, it seems that the result of failure is what happens long after a system has decided that that a person, a group of people or groups of people will fail… and somehow that expectation is fulfilled… not because of fact… but because of a long established belief in the mind and eyes of those with the power to control the decisions. 

“But as I have said before, failure is a feeling long before it’s an actual result.  And for me, it felt like that’s exactly what she was planting – a suggestion of failure long before I’d even try to succeed.  She was telling me to lower my sights, which was the absolute reverse of every last thing my parents had ever told me.”

“I wasn’t going to let one person’s opinion dislodge everything I thought I knew about myself.  Instead, I switched my method, without changing my goal.  I would apply to Princeton… I sought help from someone who actually knew me… he agreed to write me a recommendation letter.”

She goes on to explain her journey in meeting people who had climbed the road to success.  “What I have learned is this:  All of them had doubters.  Some continue to have roaring, stadium sized collections of critics and naysayers who will shout I told you so at every little misstep or mistake. The noise does not go away, but the most successful people I know have figured out how to live with it, to lean on the people who believe in them and to push onward with their goals.

Thankfully, I have seen many newcomers fight back like Michelle Obama.  They have owned their brilliance, laughed at the naysayers, done the work needed to establish themselves in successful businesses and careers. I have also seen many champions for newcomer talent and met those will step out of their comfort zone to stand up for equality, justice, freedom and equal opportunity. 

I know that the journey is not easy but it is important for all of us  to move from the feeling of failure… because that feeling happens long before the actual result of failure. 

My message to each newcomer who is struggling with that feeling of ‘Am I good enough to make it?’ I want to encourage you to:

  • go back to your heart space and find that inner wisdom to remind you that you are valuable, worthy and able to live your dreams
  • find that one person who will believe in you – a mentor, a friend, a coach… sometimes even a stranger! 
  • go back to your goals and find that little ball of fire to keep you grounded and motivated
  • reflect on all of your positive experiences and remind yourself that your education, skills and experiences are important 
  • connect with services to support you to develop the skills which you need to move forward 
  • don’t give away your power to anyone. Stand rooted and believe in yourself

Above all, never feel like failure.  Focus on your goals and turn ‘failure’ into success… that is how we WIN! 

Thank you Michelle Obama for inspiring me to use my voice.   

Love,

Mags