Are you manifesting what you truly desire in your life?

“Wait, I have something for you.” My neighbour told me as we chatted between our two houses, on a snow covered lawn.  Wilson and I had arrived home just at the same time that she and her son Damon, drove in. Since being back home from Rwanda, we had barely seen them.  She quickly slipped into her house and came back with a poinsettia plant, in full bloom.  “I got this for you to support Damon’s club’s fundraising drive.” she said.  Damon is her 7 year old son whom we are very fond of.

I walked inside with the poinsettia bloom and the only words which popped into my head were, ‘How beautiful it is to manifest from thought!”

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A couple of days earlier, I was at the Home Depot and wanted to buy a poinsettia plant.  I talked myself out of it because at that moment, I could not quite figure out exactly where I would place it in the house.  The plants seem to be a bit too big for my space.   I decided that I would try to find a smaller plant.

Damon’s mom, gave me exactly the size of the plant which was a perfect match to my space.   It could easily fit on the table or on a little stand which I have in my living room.

There is something magical and reassuring about manifesting things or experiences which I really want. It makes me feel that the universe always has my back, even in the smallest ways.  How can a poinsettia show up for me, when all I did was decide that I needed a smaller plant, instead of a big one.  I said ‘No’ to the big plant quite freely.

Well… I just said it, this is one part of the magic of manifestation – DECIDE.  What is it that you want?  To say YES to something, means that you have to say NO to something else.  To say NO to something which is not in alignment with you, creates SPACE to say YES to that which you really desire.

I have noticed some trends in my life that when I am not sure about what I want or what to do, I seem to manifest exactly that – confusion, indecision, contradiction! Being undecided is also being decisive. The  universe gives me exactly what I am thinking and feeling.

What I have learnt, is to be mindful of the messages, emotions and attitudes which I hold moment by moment. In each moment, we have the poser to choose. We can all begin with clear thinking, a deep heartfelt desire and take both small and big actions to manifest our desires.

Here are a few questions for you to think about:

  1. How do you experience life?  As a negative or positive experience?
  2. What shows up in your life?  Happiness?  Contentment?  Joylessness?  Confusion? Stress?  Lack of support? Lots of support? Helpful people?  Unhelpful people?
  3. What do you give back to life?  Support?  Love? Joy?  Happiness? Joyfulness?
  4. What do you sincerely want to manifest?  A job?  A better job? A home?  A better home?  A caring family?  More money?  More time?  More self-care?  A larger table?  An education? Travelling experiences?
  5. Try to develop a vision of what that thing you want.  What does it look like?  How does it feel? Can you write it? Draw it?  Get a photo of it?

I know for sure that I (and all of us) hold the magic of manifesting our desires by unlocking the right doors to our thoughts, emotions and actions.  Unlocking those magical doors can increase our manifestations but it requires the discipline of constantly taking note of what is showing up in our lives and making quick decisions about what we CHOOSE to KEEP and what we CHOOSE to RELEASE.

In my next post, I will look at 10 things which we can do to increase our vibrational frequency and manifest more of what we desire!

Remember to like, comment or share this post if you feel that it would add a drop of goodness in our universe.

Love,

Mags

 

 

 

Looking for a job? A promotion? A new direction? Starting a business? Here is one quick way to prepare yourself…

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“What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds.” — Wayne Dye

“Why do you dress up so much?” I asked Bernadette.  We were both young teachers many, many years ago and I could not understand why she was always dressed a couple of notches above everyone else.  After all we were simply teachers.

“I dress for the job I want.  Not the one I have.”  She responded curtly.  I never forgot that statement. I witnessed Bernadette thrive and move up the career ladder very quickly and I could not help but connect the dots between dressing for the job you have vs the one you want.  Within a couple of years, Bernadette was working in the highest office on the island as the Aide de Camp to the Governor General of St. Lucia.

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A few weeks ago, I sent a quick e-mail to her to see if she remembered that conversation all the way back then and surprisingly she did.

“Wow, yes I totally remember that and I ended up with a job  that I could never have imagined back then, at Government  house in the highest office in the land, thanks be to God, but proof that the theory actually worked. I still teach my students that how you present yourself, not where you are from, is  not only representative of how you value the skin you are in, but also the fact that you value others enough to take time to think about how you present yourself to them. With that, I don’t mean designer clothes or handbags, I mean clean and tidy.   Not showing your boxers or thong or bra. Yes,  I do have that conversation with university students believe it or not, being clean and well presented is important.  I am sure that I,  like you learnt that from my grandmother who was not rich but principled and had high morals and thought that life should be lived with a specific set of rules –  one being never walk around dirty or dishevelled, it says a lot about you. LOL.  Oh how I loved those days. I suppose  in a world where unfortunately appearance is everything,  how you look does matter but that is for a whole different Convo!”

Bernadette is now a Senior Lecturer at Leeds Metropolitan University and is doing fabulous work in the U.K.  Apart from lecturing, she is also a lead singer with a band.

I too have used that advice in my life.  I remember when I first came to Canada, I wanted a job that would get me out of professional clothes to do something different where I could be in jeans and  a more relaxed mood most of the time.  As soon as I formed that mental image, that is exactly what happened.  I got a job where I could do most of the work from home.  A year later, I had a vision for a different type of work which required more professional dressing.  As soon as I shifted the image in my mind and started acting the part,  the new job popped on the horizon.

As an employment coach, I give that piece of advice to hundreds of people.  When you are job searching or trying to find another job, mentally prepare yourself by dressing for the job you want.  Not the one you have.  Your mind is a powerful tool…if you are clear about an image…it will make that image become a part of your reality. Make that image your every day reality.  By dressing up for the role everyday, you are conditioning your mind.

“Our subconscious minds have no sense of humor, play no jokes and cannot tell the difference between reality and an imagined thought or image. What we continually think about eventually will manifest in our lives.”Sidney Madwed

TuneIn to the way which you present yourself to the world.  Is it doing justice to your vision?  Are you presenting yourself in the way which is of highest integrity to yourself and those around you?  StepUp and take charge by creating a mental image of how you want to look.

Do you have as story to share?  We would love to hear from you.

http://tuneinandstepup.com/tell-your-soul-story/

Love,

Magdalene

An easy way to lose professional credibility!

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I arrived half an hour late at my chiropractic appointment. I started to apologize and she said, “Oh, don’t worry Magdalene! You are here exactly at the time you are meant to be here. By being late, you could have just missed a big accident. Everything happens exactly as it should!”

Wow! I thought. What a different approach to business. I am not exactly a punctual person and being late for things have created huge losses and issues for me. Not being on time is regarded as disrespectful. Over the last year, I have consistently worked on improving this habit. Now when I get to places on time – no one is ready for me because I have conditioned them to thinking I will be late! I can tell you, it is hard to turn this around! I think of all those real life stories of people who missed opportunity because they are late but there are also those who have missed accidents and fatal situations because they were running late. Was it their fate? Sometimes it doesn’t always add up!

As the chiropractor and I chatted, she said something very profound to me. “Keep in mind that this moment, day, week or year, is a small part of your entire lifetime and an even smaller part of the several lifetimes you may have lived, if you believe in past lives.” She spoke my own general philosophy about life but which does not always work in a practical world where most people do not believe in past lives! People are logical and time management is a HUGE part of managing work and life balance. Now, mind you, I have never been late to my chiropractic appointment again – I look forward to each session and I can’t wait to get there. Why? Because her approach in working with me makes me feel better. I am intrinsically motivated.

So, this brings me back to the issue of being late. Why do we run late? Looking back at my own patterns, the main reason I run late is because I always have too many things going on at the same time. In my eagerness to please many people – I commit more than I should and get myself into trouble. I never thought much about it until someone got really upset after I left him waiting for me for two hours. He said “This is not about time. This is about YOU not honouring your word.” This put a whole new spin on it for me.

As Oprah Winfrey said “You can have it all. Just not all at once.”

This year, I started DOING LESS but also started being more mindful about my words and making time commitments. Guess what? Lateness has been significantly reduced. I am less stressed and more focused. I am learning to say NO to things which are not a priority. I am learning it is better to do a FEW THINGS BUT DO THEM WELL!!! and to mean what I say to someone. I am learning how to plan and manage my time better.

But there are other factors which play a part in running late. Think of these things:

– Am I late for things which I don’t want to go to? (I have often seen this with my kids when they do not want to go to a class)
– Am I late because I don’t like the people I am going to be with? (This creates a psychological trauma which will make you push back as much as possible)
– Am I late because no one holds me accountable which makes me feel that time does not matter? (This happened to me – no one held me accountable and it eventually developed in a bad habit! It takes a lot of effort to re-build that credibility)

If you are a punctual person – kudos to you!

If you are not – TuneIN to what is stopping you from being punctual and StepUP to respect other people’s time. It will also make you feel and act much, much more professional and help you gain credibility which can go a long way towards growing your career. When you run late occasionally, everyone will understand. But above all, find balance.

Oh – by the way, there is also a sign on my chiropractor’s desk that says “There will be a $45.00 charge for missed appointments!” Be on time today! 🙂

Love,
Magdalene