My friend Sharon stopped by my office a few weeks ago and I could not help but admire her clear flawless complexion and her youthful energy. She is a great role model of a woman who is aging gracefully. (I won’t tell you her age!) I met her eleven years ago and was instantly drawn to her lovely, long silver hair and her very positive energy. She exudes a beautiful, zen presence and makes others feel completely welcomed in her space, wherever that space is. Coincidentally, I met her around the same time when I was in a dilemma about whether I should dye my hair as a few strands were turning grey. Looking at her hair made me decide not to dye mine – why not just keep in natural? Eleven years later, I am glad that I kept all my greys because I am enjoying them completely. It makes me feel wiser – maybe one day my hair will look like Sharon’s hair.
Women and men become more mindful of aging after the age of 40. For me, my 40’s are amazing years in my life. I had several conversations with women from different parts of the world who use different strategies to age gracefully. Here are some of their secrets for aging gracefully:
– Make decisions based on your values and your visions for your life. You will never please everyone but make sure that you are happy or can genuinely live with whatever decisions you make in life.
– Forgive quickly. Don’t hold on to anger and resentment. It kills your spirit slowly. Find a way to let go of things and people which has caused you grief.
– Do something positive for yourself and someone else or for the environment every day. Doing good and positive things make you feel good about yourself. When you feel good, it naturally boost your immune system, reduces stress and relaxes your body. Stress causes your heart rate to go up and causes other illnesses such as digestive problems, ulcers and even cancer.
– Live simply that others may simply live. Sharon told me that she lives her life by this motto – as she grows older, there is a need to have less things in her own life. She is a great example of reaching out to others in a soft, compassionate and heartfelt way.
– Eat lots of greens, vegetables and fruit. Stay away from sugar. Sugar creates yeast in the body. Yeast causes havoc. Greens, fruits and vegetables provides nutrients which makes our skin glow, keeps our hair healthy and helps our organs to function at their optimal capacity.
– Exercise daily. Walk, swim, do crunches, cycle, run, aerobics, weights, jumping jacks, ski – physical exercise produces endorphins which makes us feel good. Find out what your ideal weight should be and try to stay within in.
– Meditate and pray. A few quiet moments each day does wonders for our souls. It reconnects us to our spirit and makes us feel the “awe” of life.
– Create moments to simply give thanks for all the good things in your life. Give thanks for all the bad things too. A heart full of gratitude brings abundance to us.
– Choose your battles. No need to fight with everyone and everything. Some things are best left alone. Karma deals with everything…. the good, the bad and the ugly.
– Smile. It is that simple. It keeps your face looking relaxed and invites others into your space.
– Be genuine with others. There is no need to hang around people whom you really do not care about. We don’t have to like everyone but we need to be genuine. Not being genuine drains our good energy.
– Enjoy the presence of others by being in the present moment. Enjoy good company. Plan moments for you to get away with others whom you really genuinely care about.
– Work at a job you love. If you don’t have a job you love, start adjusting your attitude towards it, find another job or create a job for yourself. Work stress negatively impacts our emotional and spiritual health. This causes us to age rapidly.
– Be in a happy relationship which gives you the opportunity to grow and share in an intimate and “heart connecting” way.
– Enjoy physical touch. Hug. Kiss. Make love. Massage. Touch others with love and embrace the touch of others with love.
– Try new experiences. Your brain need stimulation and has the ability to build neural connections throughout life.
– Spend time in nature. Nature takes us back to balance.
– Plan events/occasions/opportunities to look forward to.
My own special tip – stay away from people and situations which cause unnecessary anxiety and stress.
Love fully. Laugh loudly. Live with abandon.
What are your tips for aging gracefully?
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