Sometimes, unkind people need the most kindness

Kindness has become a new cool.

When and why did we stop being kind?

Is it more obvious in our society than before?

The beauty and mystery of life, is that we do not always see the intimate view of the evolution of a person’s soul.  We cannot see all the losses and the depth of losses which can impact someone’s behaviour.  We often speak about the loss of loved ones and have more sympathy towards those who are grieving. In addition, people react towards the loss of identity, jobs, status, wealth, relationships, friendships, trust, faith, hope, freedom, independence, safety, treasured objects, body image, health, innocence … and I am sure that you can name a few more losses.

How do you react to loss?

How do you react to kindness and unkindness?

For us to give the best of ourselves to others, we must pause and create a culture of kindness, first to ourselves – by being loving, forgiving and compassionate to ourselves.  If we are too hard on ourselves, we can harden our spirits and this makes us less compassionate towards others. We can choose to look at situation and release judgment and extend a loving blessing on those who are being unkind.  Being kind to an unkind person is a true act of generosity.

It is the same as loving those who least deserve our love.

Here is my FB live video which I did this morning.  By the way, I will be trying to do a FB live video at lunch time – 12:30 everyday. Join me if you can.

Love,

Mags

 

 

 

 

 

 

Naughty post – how would you build your man?

I came across one of my FB post from a few years back, which said, “Don’t shoot me guys…. but ladies…. this one is for you… just imagine if we could build our men like we can build a snowman. What would you create? There are no snowwomen… so guys I don’t think you could do the same to us!” 

Now I cannot help but wonder how come there are no snowwomen?  Gender inequality?  Maybe this winter I should build a snowwoman and dress her up. 

What is the origin of the snow man? My quick research shows that building snowmen goes back to the middle ages and it was built with great skills and thought.  It was free art supplies for a limited time, a gift from the heavens! 

I could not help but laugh as I imagined myself building a man. What would I remove?  What would I add?  How would I dress him?   What would I create to give me this perfect being who would have the perfect measurements, the perfect size, the perfect nose, the perfect smile, the perfect hands and feet, the perfect stomach, the perfect lips…

But the things I would not be able to build are the things that matter the most – the perfect attitude, temperament, sensibilities, compassion, faithfulness, empathy, honesty, credibility, generosity, a heart full of romance, intelligence, passion and of course an amazing lover… 

And so I pulled my imagination back and give a gentle reminder to myself, that truly there is no such thing as perfection.  The only perfection really lies in embracing people, men or woman, in a perfect way – which means without judgement and to give to each other, the best parts of ourselves. 

But maybe… just maybe…. we can build a perfect snowman and infuse all the amazing qualities which you are looking for, in him.  Imagine that this infusion will get transmitted right to him… wouldn’t that be amazing!  We can, perhaps after all,  create the perfect men 🙂

This morning as I open my door and looked out into the forest, the sight of the frosted branches brought joy to my heart.  The sun streamed down and as I looked up, it felt that the heavens has also opened up, just for me and for you and maybe for all the snowmen that are going to be built this winter.

Love,

Mags

I love my body because it serves my spirit…

I love my body because it serves my

This morning I listened to a video by Sonia Choquette and her words left a beautiful inspirational thought in my mind.

“I love my body because it serves my spirit.”

Isn’t that beautiful?

I love my body because it serves my spirit. 

I will repeat – I love my body because it serves my spirit.

My spirit has chosen my unique body to  serve it’s purpose on this planet, in this lifetime.

It is all the reason for me to care for this beautiful body and to hold it in the highest regard.  Whatever package I am blessed with – big, tall, skinny… is the unique gift which I have been given.  This is the body which I take to work and everywhere that I go.

How can I show my spirit that I am appreciative of this unique body?

  • I need to take care of my body and do little things to show how much I love this beautiful body of mine.
  • I need to rest sufficiently.
  • I need to relax and enjoy being in my body.
  • I need to be aware of what is causing stress in my body.
  • I need to drink water and eat nourishing foods which will give me the energy I need to function well.
  • I need to surround my body with beautiful people and places so that my spirit feels welcomed and supported.
  • I need to speak my truth to my body so that my spirit can feel at peace within me.
  • I need to remind my body how awesome it is!

When I love and respect my body, my spirit feels welcomed.  My spirit can then help me to achieve the work which I am destined to do in this world.

When I resent my body and wish I had a different body, my spirit feels trapped and I cannot live my purpose completely.

How can you welcome your spirit today?

How can you take care of the beautiful body which houses your spirit?

Love,

Magdalene

Transformation through life’s most difficult challenges – how Marie Claudine, a survivor of the Rwandan genocide is using her tragic experience to help orphans in Rwanda

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Yesterday, I had the pleasure and privilege to meet with multiple award winner, Marie Claudine Mukamambana who lost her parents, sister, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, loved ones, friends, classmates, and fellow countrymen during the Rwandan Genocide, when she was only a teenager. What touched me the most was that she has used this tragedy to find meaning in life and to give back to the orphans of Rwanda through her non-for profit organization  Whydoiexisit.org.

Her Catholic faith inspired her to seek the answer to the question of KUKI NDIHO? (Why do I exist?-Pourquoi J’existe?). This question now serves as the name of her organization, which has an extensive fundraising program in New York, as well as a presence in Belgium and South Africa. The thousands of dollars raised thus far continue to support hundreds of orphans in Rwanda.  You can read more of Marie Claudine’s work on her website and also download her book – the Power of Social Media. She is also working on her second book, ‘Forgiveness:  A Transformation Power from Pain to a Joyful Lifestyle.’  Please do look up her website to read more of her work.

Over the years I have met several survivors of the Rwandan Genocide and who have shared their heartbreaking stories with me, long before I ever thought of blogging. I remember feeling emotionally paralyzed  by the first man shared his story and told me that he had no blood family left but was so grateful to the Canadian family who had accepted him as a refuge and had treated him with the greatest kindness he could have wished for. Although I knew of the genocide, it was impersonal to me until I met a real human being who was able to share his experience with me. At that particular time in my life, I was going through my own personal challenges but after listening to his story, I had much less sympathy for myself and started being more grateful for the opportunities I had to solve my problems and not lament over them.  This man who had lost everyone in his life,  found a way to accept and to be happy.  In comparison to what he had gone through, my problems were insignificant.

Sometimes the difficulties and challenges we go through in life can leave us broken with a great feeling of despair. When we meet people like Marie, who have risen above such horrific challenges and who still has love and joy in her life, it inspires us to do the little that we can do to uplift humanity and to find a way out of our own pain.

What is your deep sorrow?

  • Feeling that no one is listening to you?
  • Losing your job?
  • No money?
  • Lack of sleep?
  • A divorce?
  • No money to buy this great brand name bag?

How are you supporting life?  What are you grateful for in your life?

From my experience, I know that by helping others in whatever capacity I can, life blesses me bountifully and provides the tools, resources, inspiration and help which I need to heal my pain.  When one person is hurt, we all hurt.  When one person is healed, we are all healed.

TuneIn to those whispers of your heart and StepUp to do something which will truly add value to your earthly home.

Ref: http://www.whydoiexist.org/

Ref: http://www.borgenmagazine.com/10-facts-rwandan-genocide/

Love,

Magdalene

Magnify goodness in every moment.

Magnify goodness in every moment

It is a beautiful day.  Happy Sunday and may you find a few minutes today to give thanks to God, Master of our universe, our beautiful Mother Earth and the souls, past and present, who walk our journey with us. This morning I am pondering on the question: “Have we consciously allowed the dark energies of fear, hatred, jealousy, doubt.. to control our lives and the universe at large?”
There are more good people in this world than bad people but yet it seems that the energy of darkness has more power.  Are good people not magnifying their presence enough?  Can we be bold and do more things which send our strong and positive messages to our leaders, community, families, friends?  Are we so good that it is easier to sit back and watch the darkness take over?  Every single act of kindness, love, trust, hope, forgiveness is important to preserving our countries, communities and families.  Let us magnify the good so that it can overpower the dark energies which are destroying us.

– Pray with intensity

– Love deeply

– Laugh from deep within your core

– Find small and big things to celebrate

– Have deep conversations and speak truthfully about what you feel

– Reach out to someone new, someone different from you, someone in need, someone to share something with

– Live today as though it was your last day

– Feed the hungry, shelter the homeless, give clothing to those in need

– Mentor a child, a teenager, an adult

– Contribute  your talent towards something meaningful

– Speak words which are encouraging, inspiring, loving, forgiving

– Respect all forms of life

– Be bold with kind actions

Live your future NOW and magnify the goodness….

Love,

Magdalene

Kindness and compassion makes life better and easier… always!

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I was touched today to see two young men host a birthday dinner party for their moms.  The two young men were my son Jelan and his friend Zac.  Zac and his family are also our next door neighbours.  Zac’s mom and I celebrate our birthdays a day apart and Jelan and Zac celebrate their birthdays one day apart too!  Strange coincidence!

We have watched the boys grow up over the years and it is quite remarkable to see them take on more and more responsibility for their lives but more importantly to practice kindness and compassion towards others.  The effort and love which the two of them put into creating this little dinner party for the two families touched my heart.  They planned the menu, took the afternoon off and created a joyful space for the celebration. Neither one of them cook much at home – so I was very impressed with the culinary skills and the great  BBQ.

 

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As a parent, I have held my breath many times as I raise my kids for all kinds of reasons. I have lived with the fear that they would take the wrong path; I have had doubts about my parenting skills; I have spent sleepless nights wondering if they would get home on a particular night and I have prayed millions of times for God to guide them and protect them wherever they are.  Parenting, as most of us who are parents know, does not come with a manual for our unique children.  We apply some best practices and common knowledge but the soul is each child is so uniquely different that we must also allow them the freedom to explore and have the confidence that they will turn out to be fine individuals.

I have repeatedly asked myself the question, “What evidence would I need to have, to know that my children would be fine in the world and be good, contributing citizens?” My answers have been to complete their education, have a good job, be financially responsible, have their own families, own their own home and to have great relationships with others.

Lately, I have added a few more items to the list.  I want them to be able to live harmoniously  with other people and to have compassion and kindness in their hearts towards ALL people, not simply those whom they know or are privileged to spend time with them on a regular basis. As easy as this sounds, it is not always easy to practice kindness and compassion because we have grown to be quite a cautious society with judgements about others which can cause us to be indifferent, unkind or sometimes even hostile.

After watching them in action today, it is my hope that they will continue to remain grounded in humility and find small and big ways to add beauty to the planet through the consciousness of kindness and compassion.

Love,

Magdalene