What Is Your Essence?

Long road trips give me time to think, reflect and humor myself with so many great ideas that may take more than one lifetime to accomplish. Today, I found myself thinking of the word ‘essence’ while driving.

I am going to bed tonight wondering what Spring and Summer will be like. One of our favourite things during these two precious seasons is taking long road trips. Going through my FB memories tonight I came across this post and photo from last year. I thought I would share it because it is even more relevant to our lives right now. Regardless of what is happening in the world, the most precious gift which you can give to yourself, is to live your essence.

March 23, 2019

Long road trips give me time to think, reflect and humor myself with so many great ideas that may take more than one lifetime to accomplish. Today, I found myself thinking of the word ‘essence’ while driving.

What is the essence of my being?

What is the essence of life?

What is your essence?

And in the middle of this thought provoking question, three words jumped at me:

Limitless. Ageless. Timeless.

The words hit my cerebral space so hard that I had to pull to the side of the road for a few minutes to allow my body to connect with my mind and soul. Yes, I want to be limitless in this life…to be bold enough to be the person God made me to be. Yes, I am ageless…still this girl who embraces life and is as crazy as her 16 year old self. Yes, my essence is timeless… my soul is eternal.

This photo marks this priceless, soulful moment…and reaffirms that what we seek, seeks us. As I reflect on all what I have done in the last year, I know that I have been living my essence.

What is your essence?

How do you represent your essence in this world?



“I Am Off To Travel Across The World” – Her Dream Came True!


“I am off to travel across the world with my husband and two sons,” she told me excitedly. She explained how the last few weeks had been hectic as they tried to rent their home, arrange plane tickets and accommodation and all the logistics required for the trip across several continents.

Her story intrigued me. “What inspired this great plan?” I asked. I had just met this woman a few hours before and we connected instantly. We were having lunch together and this came up because she was explaining why she could not take part in one of our work initiatives.

“We have planned for the last two years,” she said. “It has taken a bit of savings – I worked an extra evening job – but it is happening.” She told me that they had been learning Spanish as well and learning about some of the various cultures that they would be experiencing.

Her story was a true Valentine story of love at first sight. She met her husband at a bar several years ago and he asked her what her dream wish was. She told him that she wanted to travel across the entire world. He told her right there and then that he would make it happen if she married him. She laughed at him at first because she had just met him and thought he was joking. They got married three months later and travelling has been a huge part of how they chose to live their lives.

This story affirms that we have the capacity and intuition to make important life decisions quickly if we are TunedIn to who we are and what we want. There are several myths about life that dictate responses to our situations and we must be aware of those myths that hold us back. For example, “Do not talk to strangers” – Well everyone starts off being a stranger. I met some of the greatest people in my life right off the streets as strangers. We attract similar energies to our own regardless of where we are. Another myth is “It takes time to get to know someone” -I think we already know all to know about someone within seconds of meeting them. Time only confirms more specific things about this first gut feeling which most of us ignore because we have no evidence to prove why we would be drawn or not drawn to someone.

What is your dream wish? Can you say it out loud?

How do you choose to live your life?

Is the life you are living now the one of choice or the one you think you have to live because there is no other way?

If a stranger came off the street and could make that dream wish come true for you, would you grab the opportunity and look at it as a miracle? Or would you start doubting and think that the stranger has ulterior motives – that this is too good to be true? Look back at your life and see how you have embraced the “illogical” things that have happened to you and see if you also missed a great opportunity because you did not have the courage to act quickly.

Our heartfelt dreams inspire the way we chose to live our lives. This woman had a dream to travel the world, she met a partner with the same interest; they chose to live a lifestyle of travelling and then started propelling their dream forward by acting on it.

Maybe more of our dreams can come true if we have the courage to dream and to OWN our dreams. When the dream ignites our soul, life presents the opportunities to make them come true. We too, must have the courage to TuneIn to those opportunities, StepUp to take our own risks… and live our dreams.

Revisit your dreams and dream wish – some dreams die simply because we don’t OWN them and are not willing to take a risk.


An easy way to lose professional credibility!


I arrived half an hour late at my chiropractic appointment. I started to apologize and she said, “Oh, don’t worry Magdalene! You are here exactly at the time you are meant to be here. By being late, you could have just missed a big accident. Everything happens exactly as it should!”

Wow! I thought. What a different approach to business. I am not exactly a punctual person and being late for things have created huge losses and issues for me. Not being on time is regarded as disrespectful. Over the last year, I have consistently worked on improving this habit. Now when I get to places on time – no one is ready for me because I have conditioned them to thinking I will be late! I can tell you, it is hard to turn this around! I think of all those real life stories of people who missed opportunity because they are late but there are also those who have missed accidents and fatal situations because they were running late. Was it their fate? Sometimes it doesn’t always add up!

As the chiropractor and I chatted, she said something very profound to me. “Keep in mind that this moment, day, week or year, is a small part of your entire lifetime and an even smaller part of the several lifetimes you may have lived, if you believe in past lives.” She spoke my own general philosophy about life but which does not always work in a practical world where most people do not believe in past lives! People are logical and time management is a HUGE part of managing work and life balance. Now, mind you, I have never been late to my chiropractic appointment again – I look forward to each session and I can’t wait to get there. Why? Because her approach in working with me makes me feel better. I am intrinsically motivated.

So, this brings me back to the issue of being late. Why do we run late? Looking back at my own patterns, the main reason I run late is because I always have too many things going on at the same time. In my eagerness to please many people – I commit more than I should and get myself into trouble. I never thought much about it until someone got really upset after I left him waiting for me for two hours. He said “This is not about time. This is about YOU not honouring your word.” This put a whole new spin on it for me.

As Oprah Winfrey said “You can have it all. Just not all at once.”

This year, I started DOING LESS but also started being more mindful about my words and making time commitments. Guess what? Lateness has been significantly reduced. I am less stressed and more focused. I am learning to say NO to things which are not a priority. I am learning it is better to do a FEW THINGS BUT DO THEM WELL!!! and to mean what I say to someone. I am learning how to plan and manage my time better.

But there are other factors which play a part in running late. Think of these things:

– Am I late for things which I don’t want to go to? (I have often seen this with my kids when they do not want to go to a class)
– Am I late because I don’t like the people I am going to be with? (This creates a psychological trauma which will make you push back as much as possible)
– Am I late because no one holds me accountable which makes me feel that time does not matter? (This happened to me – no one held me accountable and it eventually developed in a bad habit! It takes a lot of effort to re-build that credibility)

If you are a punctual person – kudos to you!

If you are not – TuneIN to what is stopping you from being punctual and StepUP to respect other people’s time. It will also make you feel and act much, much more professional and help you gain credibility which can go a long way towards growing your career. When you run late occasionally, everyone will understand. But above all, find balance.

Oh – by the way, there is also a sign on my chiropractor’s desk that says “There will be a $45.00 charge for missed appointments!” Be on time today! 🙂