We worry about what happened yesterday. We worry about today. We worry about tomorrow. Worrying is a habit which we learn and one which sucks our emotional wellbeing. We can slowly and surely replace worry with new habits like trusting that everything will be fine, even if we don’t understand how. The more we trust God, our Creator, the Universe, in meeting all of our needs, the lighter and happier we become. Trust that all of your needs will be met.
I chose the cup of tea over the chocolate chip cookies. It was a hard choice to make at 9.p.m when I felt tired and hungry but the vision for my body quickly superseded my immediate hunger.
I chose the cup of tea over the chocolate chip cookies. It was a hard choice to make at 9.p.m when I felt tired and hungry but the vision for my body quickly superseded my immediate hunger. I reminded myself of how beautiful I felt in my new dress which finally fitted after two weeks of workouts and managing my diet. Resisting the cookies may seem to be an insignificant matter to some people but it is a huge deal to me. I am an emotional, sweet tooth eater and several things like feeling tired, bored or anxious can easily set my trigger to indulge in sweets. Being able to manage my emotional eating habits require discipline and focus and it is easy to fail. However, overtime, I can see the results of my small deeds and this motivates me to keep up with the discipline not eating chocolate chip cookies in the late evenings. I feel proud that my vision is bigger and stronger than the chocolate chip cookie!
It is easy to become discouraged when our gains do not seem big enough to celebrate or we sabotage ourselves by not believing that we are deserving of something which we really want in our lives. It is important to remind ourselves that great acts are made of small deeds or small habits that eventually becomes a part of our thinking and acting. If you look carefully, you will find several opportunities to practice small deeds which can lead to your large gains.
Allow yourself to note the small acts which you perform daily. Feel gratitude for your small victories while you keep the large ones in your vision. Here are three small deeds or habits which you can celebrate each day:
Feel gratitude. There are so many things to be grateful for, even when life sucks sometimes. Think of the air that you breath, being alive, being given another chance, feeling love from someone, the technology which keeps you connected, having someone to support you in reaching your goals and the fact that you are reading this blog. The most important factor in gratitude is that you can FEEL it flowing through your body.
Set a small goal each day. It can be as simple as making your bed in the morning or as complex as saying hello to a stranger or as intimate as asking your partner for what you need from him/ her. Each time we accomplish something small, it inspires us to do more and even to be more! You can build an entire community around you by simply connecting with one stranger each day.
Write the biggest goal of your life in a place where it is visible to you. Spend a couple of minutes each day just looking at it and asking yourself “What can I do today to reach this goal?” By asking a small question daily, you are opening yourself to receiving answers. I like to imagine that we are all connected and that thoughts cross each other in waves. Asking questions to the universe, creates the opportunity for thoughts to cross in your favour… because somewhere out there, someone is holding the answers which you are looking for. Without asking the questions, how will you recognize the answers?
My wish for you in 2020 is that you will achieve your big goals while consciously practicing the discipline of engaging in small acts, moment by moment. Remember your greatness, your beauty and your uniqueness in this amazing universe.
I have fantasized about walking through a vineyard more times than I can count. My fantasy became true today and I could not be happier! One item checked off from my bucket list!
I have fantasized about walking through a vineyard more times than I can count. My fantasy became true today! One item checked off from my bucket list!
I must confess that I have felt jealous when my friends talk about their vineyard experiences. I have researched countless vineyards across Ontario and Quebec and drooled over the photos and the experiences from the visitors. Each summer (for the last 6 summers), I have had it on my list of things to do but somehow never got to it. What is it that draws me to a vineyard? I believe that it all started from reading romance novels when I was in my teens. The couples who walked through the vineyards were always in love and the vineyard seems to be a perfect place to walk and celebrate their love. Some couples even got married at vineyards. I also love wine and grapes. So if you put it all together my attraction to vineyards can be summed in three words: romance, grapes and wine!
This is another re-affirmation for me that we simply need to keep on reminding ourselves of the things which we want to experience in this lifetime. The earth is our school as much as it is our playground. Whatever we can imagine has the potential of becoming our reality. Keep your visions, dreams and ideas alive by constantly revisiting them. They may not happen right away but don’t lose hope – as long as it is in the vortex, it is only a matter of becoming aligned for the manifestaion to happen.
Here are some photos to enjoy. Being in nature is the best thing for the spirit.
What is on your bucket list? Do you need to create a list of the things you wish to experience in this lifetime? Start today and go after each one!
My tears flowed nonstop as I helped her with the sewing machine and observed the pensive and thoughtful look on her face. I know how much this sewing machine meant to her and I am sure that if she was right here with me, she would tell me that it was her lifeline. Back in 1947, women like my mom did not have the fair advantage to go to school. She was denied an education because she was the eldest child and had to stay home to help her mother with the house work.
She uncovered the sewing machine. The cloth over it was a heavy linen which had covered it for decades. She pulled out the small wooden draws on the side and took out a small brush to dust it. She gently pulled it out from the dark corner to the light and then started to test the peddles which seemed to be stuck and made a funny creaking sound. She found an old bottle of machine oil, safely tucked inside the drawer and applied it to the various small machine parts while she tested the peddles over and over until it rolled with ease. Her numb hands fumbled with the parts and they dropped from her hands occasionally. She bent her head and strained her eyes as much as she could but she did not stop until she felt that she had given the sewing machine the proper care and touch which it needed. It seemed to me that at the end of that experience she looked exhilarated.
My tears flowed nonstop as I helped her with the sewing machine and observed the pensive and thoughtful look on her face. I know how much this sewing machine meant to her and I am sure that if she was right here with me, she would tell me that it was her lifeline. Back in 1929, women like my mom did not have the fair advantage to go to school. She was denied an education because she was the eldest child and had to stay home to help her mother with the house work. I believe that she must have been about fifteen when she learnt how to sew with one of the top seamstresses from the neighbouring village of Laborie. To get to her sewing classes, she had to walk almost an hour to and from the class. She got married about fifteen years as well and her father, who had been physically absent from most of her life, gave her the sewing machine – I believe as a wedding gift. She smartly invested her time in mastering the art and developed her small business in sewing tailored made clothing for the people in the community. She was one of the few seamstresses in the community. Many people came to our home with bags of cloth and styles of clothes from catalogues and gave countless instructions to my mom so that she could turn their visions into wearable garments.
Looking back, I can see what a great mom and entrepreneur she was! She kept everything in balance by waking up early, getting us all ready for school, cooking meals, doing all the house chores and creating the time to live her passion for sewing as well as earning an income. She sewed all of our clothes and uniforms as well as my dad’s pants and shirts and even the undergarments. Just before his death, he showed me some of the pants which she had made for him and which we still wore up to 2012! All of my three sisters and I learnt how to sew by watching her. However, she never wanted us to sew as a means of earning an income. She believed that we could do more than that and ensured that we had the support which we needed to have a good education.
As an adult, I appreciate all what my mom did a million times more now than I did while I was growing up. She had a lot less to work with – no education, less money, less opportunity, no management training, no marriage counselling, no parenting classes, no brands, no luxuries… but she had courage, faith, vision, great time management skills and knew how to prioritize her time to get things done. She lived her passion for sewing. I can only imagine the devastation she felt when she became blind and could no longer live her passion. Yet, she courageously accepted her fate and one of her favourite lines were “It is not my will but if God wills it for my life, I accept. ”
Those photos were taken in 2007 on my first visit to Saint Lucia after migrating to Canada in 2003. She crossed over in 2011. I will always hold on to those memories and I am glad that I captured those moments with those photos.
Live your future now. Do what matters to you and don’t wait for perfect circumstances.
Welcome to 2014!
I would like to wish you a happy and successful year! May all your dreams and wishes come true and may you continue to TuneIn to this amazing person you are and StepUp to having the courage to fulfill your own dreams. It is all within YOU to develop the courage muscles to do the thing which you are called to do in this lifetime. Life opens forth the doors for you as soon as you DECIDE.
In January 2013, I started this blog as a personal soul journey to get me out of the rut of procrastination and to do something about my passion for writing. It is quite funny how one of my ambitions in life is to be a writer but I hardly devoted any time at all to writing! (A good example of the wishy-washy goals we set and don’t follow-up!) It is like saying you want to lose 10 pounds at the beginning of the year but you don’t do anything about it and get disappointed when you don’t get the result you desire.
My goal in 2013 was simple – to write one blog a week and get into a writing habit. I am the worst editor for my writing but I consciously did not allow that to intimidate me, knowing that I was really working on a way to express myself, first. For every blog I re-read, I can easily find typos and small grammatical errors.
I really thought the blog was just going to be about me and my silly thoughts about life. However, as I wrote more purposefully, I also started to automatically connect with things, ideas, people, events which were all so much bigger than my little isolated thoughts. Half-way through the year, I was doing real interviews with people and was actually capturing their stories! This actually brought me the greatest satisfaction and I sincerely thank all those who gave me the opportunity to showcase their stories. It fulfilled one of my fantasies to be a journalist! 🙂
By the end of 2013, I was happily exhausted as I looked at the tangible results of what I and you (readers) have achieved together.
- I published 90 posts (well over my goal of 56). Thanks for your encouragement that spurred me on!
- We have a viewership of 10,000 across 82 countries through Facebook, LinkedIn( and by you sharing on your timelines and within your own circle). I have now learnt about countries I had never heard about before!
- I developed my writing style and my thinking process expanded very quickly as I challenged my thoughts and sought ways for my writing to represent the core of who I am.
- I made peace with myself. I finally have accepted my intuitive gifts which God has blessed me with and I have stopped questioning whether I am good enough to be blessed with those gifts. Embracing myself was half of the battle won and the joy I feel now, cannot be measured.
- I gained the courage to say what I needed to say without needing approval from others. I owned my voice and trusted what I felt and it is one of the most exhilarating feelings one can have.
- I “adopted” a restaurant and with the support of 3 other amazing people (Mengis, Rosie and Eden) and my amazing network in Ottawa, we helped the restaurant owners keep their doors open by bringing in a couple of hundred people to dine at the restaurant within 3 months.
- Many people wrote personal letters to talk about their own TuneIn and StepUp journey which they want to embark on and there were many testimonials about how an article or a subject helped in some way or the other.
- I travelled to New York – not once but TWICE and met with great people who inspired me even further!
- My professional and personal network expanded hugely – I have met so many AMAZING human beings along this journey that I know there is hope to see more beautiful things in the world even though it looks so dismal sometimes.
What have I learnt through this blogging experience?
- We hold the power in OUR hands to decide the kind of life we want to live. We have the power to MAKE DESICIONS and to SET GOALS and work at them steadily. If you make the wrong decision, it is fine to change your mind if you have tried everything within your power to make something work. It is better to fail at trying than not trying at all. It is also fine to change direction.
- It is fine to take steps even when you don’t have the whole picture and it is perfectly fine to be less than perfect. As you work through your journey, clarity will come along the way to help you define it even better!
- Although my story and thoughts are important, I had greater joy connecting with others and helping to get their story out so their work could expand more into the world.
- We are all capable of stepping up and making a difference in whatever corner of the world we live. By giving to life, we receive everything a hundred-fold back into our lives.
- We don’t need to ask permission from others to do the right thing. If it feels right, most likely, it is right and the universe will provide all that you need to carry the responsibility.
- Connecting to our authenticity and DOING what it takes to live an authentic life is the key to living with purpose.
- There will be days when we just can’t get it right. We feel frustrated and tired. It is perfectly fine. Ride with the waves.
Here are some of my leading stories for 2013:
Brooklyn, New York
Meet Dawta Maloe who is a single mom and feeds hundreds of homeless people each month for eight years.
Meet Taj Weeks, an international musician and Wilson Jn. Baptiste who worked together with Jet Blue in giving children in St. Lucia brand new bicycles and toys for Christmas.
Read more: https://tuneinandstepup2013.wordpress.com/2013/12/18/a-great-partnership-effort-to-bring-smiles-to-the-faces-of-children-in-st-lucia-children-will-be-receiving-bicycles-and-toys/?relatedposts_exclude=1491
Meet the Kingdom Culture Ministries. They are creating a bridge between the ministry and the community and supporting many people who are in need all through the year!
Supporting two entrepreneurs to keep their restaurant going!
Meet Sigar, the man who rescues parrots!
Bringing together 10,000 – 15,000 people together from the Caribbean in Ottawa!
The International Black Summit – the conversation that is so powerful, that your life can be transformed to live your vision!
Meet St. Lucians in the National Capital Region, celebrating a National Festival!
Best wishes to you for 2014! If you are reading this blog for the first time, you can FOLLOW THE BLOG – see the side bar, or LIKE the TuneIn and StepUp FB page.
Look out for more information about our TuneIn and StepUp Challenges for 2014.
I was inspired this weekend at 23rd Annual Event of the International Black Summit which was held at the National Suites Hotel in Ottawa. Hundreds of people of African descent flooded in from all over the world! It was delightful to see people of African descendants across four generations – grandparents, parents, great-grand children and children all together in one room, celebrating their ancestry, giving thanks to the founders of the International Black Summit and best of all, feeling that spirit of unity and honor for all as they joined in a continuation of the Conversation that started 23 years ago. It felt like a family reunion and you could feel the incredible warmth with which everyone welcomed everyone.
The International Black Summit is a 100% volunteer led organization committed to empowering and transforming the lives of people of Black African descents all over the world. I heard repeatedly how individuals had been transformed through those Conversations – Conversations which are rooted in the Declaration of the International Black Summit (please see Declarations at the bottom of this post). I was curious to find out how individual lives had been transformed in their day-to-day reality and the more people I interviewed, the greater my appreciation grew for the many people of African descendants, who created such an amazing opportunity for people of Africa descendants to realize their vision for the Black community and the world.
Most of the folks I interviewed would tell me:
“This is my family”;
“I feel belonged here”;
“I can be myself”;
“There is nothing for me to hide or defend here”;
“I can just be”;
“This is a space where I feel fully embraced”;
“I come to the Summit to be vulnerable”;
“It is a space where I can share love and receive so much love”;
“It is a space where I can be with like-minded people”.
“I have created myself into a world citizen and have now travelled to 5 continents! This has all happened because of the International Black Summit. It has been a breakthrough in my life and I live the passion of the Summit”. These were the words of Chekesha Showers, a retired teacher from California, who is also a facilitator body at the International Black Summit.
( Chekesha is at the center, white-haired woman below – sorry for the quality of this photo – camera failure 🙂 )
“I ended 25 years of marriage gracefully, entered into a new marriage courageously after meeting someone new in four weeks (now happily married for 5 years) and opened a new store! This would never have been possible without the support of the International Black Summit to crystallize my vision into reality and watch it manifest in my life” Niamo M-Davis. (Below is a picture of Niamo and her husband Jonathan, who share an amazing love connection and story)
“The Summit has offered me a body of Distinctions and Tools, which I apply to my life. I can live my life now ‘in the bother of it’… I can live in the uncertainty of things and know that uncertainty is not a place of fear and it is o.k to take time to figure things out in that space of uncertainly” Orin Saunders, a business man from New York City.
So what does the International Black Summit do to give such a boost to people of African descent that transforms their lives? I interviewed some individuals who have attended every single summit since the inception in 1991.
One of those individuals was Orin Sanders who beamed with light as he chatted with me during one of his breaks as a facilitator. He recalls the first invitation letter he got to attend the first Conversation, and as a young black man, living in New York, he found it intriguing there could be such a Conversation happening for black people. He recalls that the first Conversation was the most incredible and powerful Conversation in his life as those who attended explored all what it meant to be a black person. At the end of that Conversation, they were all inspired to do something and used all the ideas and thoughts to create the Declaration and had a vision to create something in the form of a Summit. They called in The _____ (blank) Summit, until the Conversation became clearer to be called the International Black Summit. Since then, Orin has attended every Summit and has continued on his transformative journey. It must be noted that the Summit happens once a year but Conversations are happening throughout the year. He gives thanks to the Summit for the transformative power it has had in his life in developing his own vision and being able to manage his own business from Conversations of the Summit and incorporating the Declaration of the Summit and the Distinctions of the Summit in his own life. Although an Architect by profession, Orin has listened to what life is saying to him and has followed his passion into the hair industry.
“You come here with your own essence… you get the opportunity to explore that unique essence you bring to the world… and the Summit creates that safe space for you to explore questions and issues, it is a space for you to clear yourself and hear what life is telling you… it is a space that allows you to be yourself. You will discover things about yourself that not even your family knows about you but you will feel safe in sharing with your Summit family.”
Orin’s vision allows him to live his life from key fundamentals, no matter where he is or what he is doing. “My vision is a world that nurtures the human spirit, my spirit; An environment of abundant well-being.” He is a business man/ entrepreneur in New York City who owns 2 beauty salons, specialized in African hair styles and products. Orin also trains individuals to become entrepreneurs world wide in the hair industry and therefore honours the declaration of the International Black Summit to “Build economies to fund our community”. Orin referred to the Distinctions of the Summit by which he had to live his own life to be a facilitator . He explained to me that the Distinctions are constantly being developed but he leads his own life and his business by following five main distinctions:
Noticing: He provided the example of the downside of the economic situation that hit his business in 2008. He noticed that with the advent of social media technology, he had less control over keeping confidential client information as everyone could share information with everyone else, including his staff. This reduced the number of clients coming to the salon. By noticing the change in trends, he knew that he had to adjust certain key things in how he operated his business but also started noting his own triggers.
Trigger: He examined his triggers of discomfort, frustration, anger, the knot in his stomach… He kept on asking himself: “What is this pointing to?” and he got to the conclusion that he can’t do things they way they were any more. Something needed to change.
Declaration: His declaration was to decide on the future of his Salon. He knew that if things remained in the state they were, he could do it no more. This led him to re-look at the structure within which he was operating and to ensure that all structures were complete.
Completion: He worked on ensuring that he had proper structures in place to support his team to work effectively by putting in simple things such as schedules, having meetings regularly, clarifying, etc. With little business coming in, he knew that perhaps he needed to let people go but his philosophy did not believe in firing anyone. His technique was to have a conversation about completion with members of his team. Some members opted to leave because their work in the salon was complete within themselves.
Vision: As this work became completed and his vision became stronger, he also shifted his business within the global phenomenon. “The shift had to occur in me first, before it could occur outside of me.” This is what this whole transformative process is all about! “I was no longer stressed. I got flat clear about where I wanted to go and as some people left, new people joined the business and this had to happen to bring in new energy.” Today, he is still in the vision.
I also chatted with a young man named Zachary Morris who was attending the Summit. Zachary shared with me that he is here to live on his Grandmother’s legacy and to make an investment in himself to be able to hold himself accountable to himself and be mentally strong to implement his vision for himself. His grandmother, Mama Koumba, was known as the Mother of the Summit, and he now has a better idea of what she stood for and can see the impact of following the Declaration and the Distinctions in his life. Zachary is a barber instructor in a prison in Chicago (a former student of Orin) and after this weekend’s Summit, he is now clear about how to implement his vision. In his classroom with inmates, he knows how he can teach them to progress so that they can have a job after they have served their time. He knows that he will teach them what it takes to be entrepreneurs – and very importantly, they can practice while they are in prison. As an athlete, he can see now that he can work with his volleyball team to create possibilities by using the techniques he has learnt at the Summit.
Above is a picture of some members of the host team in Ottawa. On the far left is Melissa Rowe, also a dear friend of mine, who has attended the Summit for several years. This has resulted in her seeing herself from a different perspective. Melissa, constantly uses the Distinctions from the Summit in everyday conversations to help others clarify or to get a Clearing for herself. She used to tell herself that she cannot write but today she is a published writer! “The Summit is like my extended family.” Those of us to know Melissa, also know who much voluntary work she puts into the community of Ottawa in lifting others and supporting individuals to move forward through life coaching and her work within the Social Services field as a registered social worker.
Adrienne “Afua’ Coddette (far right) is another inspiring leader in the Black community in Ottawa and so is Jacqueline Lawerence (in black). Adrienne is well-known for her involvement in empowering black youth and taking them under her wings to nurture and care for them – she has adopted many youth! Adrienne has strong roots within the community of Ottawa. “I am a child of this community… this community created me.” She shared with me her history of being part of Impact Heritage, a group which a group of mothers, including her own mother, formed over 40 years ago and which provided a safe space for black kids to learn about their history, their culture and to be with other black kids. This group died perhaps due to lack of grooming of others to take responsibility for sustainability. However, Adrienne knows that impact that the teachings from that group had on her own life, her sense of identify and purpose. In 2002, Adrienne attended her first Summit which enabled her to become clear of her own vision, as by then she had already created several initiatives in Ottawa to empower black youth. Right there at the Summit in 2002, she made a commitment to herself to take at least one youth to each Summit with her. 11 years later, she is proud to have lived up to that commitment and in some cases she has taken more than one. Now, some of them fund their own way and help others along as well. She actually went off with 27 youth from Ottawa to help in the rebuilding process of New Orleans after hurricane Katrina. After the Summit in 2010 in Baltimore, where she also took a group of youth, a new vision was born out of the youth so that they could stay connected and supported. It is the Be More Academy in Ottawa, under the umbrella of the 3 Dreads and a Baldhead – an organization which four black women formed several years ago. The Be More Academy is a positive space for black youth to gather and to realize their visions of themselves and the Black Community.
Read more about the 3Dreads &A :http://www.3dreads.com/
Be More Academy:http://www.3dreads.com/be-more-academy/
“When I sat in the Summit in 2002, I realized that the Summit had a ripple effect, like throwing a rock in the river. I thought, if I could expand the possibility, create a CommUnity… if everyone had the tools, they would create an opportunity for this city to BE MORE and contribute in a meaningful way.”
The International Black Summit has been held in several countries across the world and those transformative conversations are continuing on to Belize next year. The countries they have travelled to are North American cities such as Atlanta, Georgia, Oakland, California, Birmingham, Alabama, Toronto and now Ottawa; Caribbean and South American regions such as Montego Bay, Jamaica, Bahia Brazil and Rendovouz Bay Anguilla; African cities such as Nairobi, Kenya, Johannesburg, South Africa and Elmina Ghana and the European cosmopolitan hub of London, England.
More information about the International Black Summit can be found at: http://www.blacksummit.org/
The Declaration of the International Black Summit:
The purpose of this group is to provide an opportunity for participants to bring into being their vision for the Black community and the world and it is guided by the Declaration of the International Black Summit which states:
We declare ourselves, our community and all communities whole and complete. There is nothing to do except be.
We assert that we are responsible for generating community as possibility and distinction. We listen for and grant being to the possibility and creation of unpredictable results. Our conversation of, about, and for those of African descent is one of power, self-generation, abundance, responsibility, unity and integrity, with the possibility of being.
We stand for the expression of our spirituality, ending the murders of our men, women and children; building economies responsible for funding our community, maintaining wellness of being in our bodies, providing human services; establishing nurturing relationships; altering the conversation of who we are in the media; empowering our youth.
We declare that our community manifest itself in the world as contribution in the transformation of the universe. Atlanta, Georgia, 1991.
Since the inception 23 years ago, two other groups have emerged from it – the International Black Youth Summit, for ages 8 – 17; and the International Black Young Adult Summit, for youth ages 18 – 35 years.
To quote one of the interviewees “We can create anytime, anywhere. We don’t have to wait! We may not be in the physical space here but there is no separation.”
The tools and processes used in the Conversation allows each person’s vision to manifest in different unique ways. For Jonathan Davis, a political activist, a lawyer in training and now a Safety Consultant, he enjoys “being with what is”. His vision is for there to be “No more blacks. No more whites. It is all going to be about people having access to all that they need to feel fulfilled from education to health care to recreation and the space to self-actualize.” He is concerned about the youth and concerned about the educational gaps that are getting wider and wider but he also believes that ” We have the power from within ourselves to free our selves.” He works tirelessly in having conversations and empowering folks through his work but in all walks of his life, especially in empowering people of African descent.
TuneIn to hear what life is saying to you. What is your vision of yourself? How do you serve life and serve your community? StepUp and engage in a Conversation… it may just be the beginning of a transformative process for you! The tools and processes used by the International Black Summit are applicable for everyone.