Naughty post – how would you build your man?

I came across one of my FB post from a few years back, which said, “Don’t shoot me guys…. but ladies…. this one is for you… just imagine if we could build our men like we can build a snowman. What would you create? There are no snowwomen… so guys I don’t think you could do the same to us!” 

Now I cannot help but wonder how come there are no snowwomen?  Gender inequality?  Maybe this winter I should build a snowwoman and dress her up. 

What is the origin of the snow man? My quick research shows that building snowmen goes back to the middle ages and it was built with great skills and thought.  It was free art supplies for a limited time, a gift from the heavens! 

I could not help but laugh as I imagined myself building a man. What would I remove?  What would I add?  How would I dress him?   What would I create to give me this perfect being who would have the perfect measurements, the perfect size, the perfect nose, the perfect smile, the perfect hands and feet, the perfect stomach, the perfect lips…

But the things I would not be able to build are the things that matter the most – the perfect attitude, temperament, sensibilities, compassion, faithfulness, empathy, honesty, credibility, generosity, a heart full of romance, intelligence, passion and of course an amazing lover… 

And so I pulled my imagination back and give a gentle reminder to myself, that truly there is no such thing as perfection.  The only perfection really lies in embracing people, men or woman, in a perfect way – which means without judgement and to give to each other, the best parts of ourselves. 

But maybe… just maybe…. we can build a perfect snowman and infuse all the amazing qualities which you are looking for, in him.  Imagine that this infusion will get transmitted right to him… wouldn’t that be amazing!  We can, perhaps after all,  create the perfect men 🙂

This morning as I open my door and looked out into the forest, the sight of the frosted branches brought joy to my heart.  The sun streamed down and as I looked up, it felt that the heavens has also opened up, just for me and for you and maybe for all the snowmen that are going to be built this winter.

Love,

Mags

Meeting with Mama Sarah Obama – Highlights of our trip to Magical Kenya

In November 2015, Wilson and I spent ten days in Magical Kenya where we attended the 40th World Congress of the Africa Tourism Association.  What we experienced was magical and because there were so many touching and inspirational moments, I  will be blogging over the next few days to give you a snapshot of moments which inspired me, especially as it relates to the theme of Mags Magazine.. ‘Live Your Future Now’.

Meeting the Mama Sarah Obama: 

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I met with Mama Sarah Obama, the only living grandparent of President Barack Obama, whose dream is to live her legacy to make sure that there is adequate educational resources to support underserved and at-risk youth in Kenya.  Although she herself is illiterate, she has spent her lifetime helping  orphans and impoverished families feed and educate their children. After years of feeding and clothing children orphaned by HIV/AIDS, Mama Sarah established her foundation with the goal of making a larger impact on their lives.

I met with six young women who attended her session at the conference, and asked them about the impact which Mama Sarah had on their lives.  Here is what they had to say:

“Our lives have changed a lot mostly because girls were denied that opportunity to attend education but through the Mama Sarah Obama Foundation, we have reached University level and we are grateful for Granny’s kindness and caring heart.”  Mercy Oyuongo

Isn’t this amazing!

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What legacy do you want to leave behind?

Think of how your talents, skills and passion can make at least one small change to the lives of those around us… or who may be in a faraway land!

Live Your Future Now…  Follow me to see the next inspirational story from Kenya!

Love,

Magdalene

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Is living within a supportive family/community structure the key to helping our young women achieve their dreams?

Yesterday, the world observed  International Women’s Day and by mere coincident I was at my son’s girlfriends(KIM) bronze medal final playoff basketball  game  at the Carleton University. She is on the team of Wilfred Laurier University Golden Hawks and they competed against Ravens from the Carleton University.  They won the game – in fact it was an amazing win after a double over time!  Now they will be competing at the National Competition in Windsor!

As I watched the game from the stands, I admired how those two teams of young women competed furiously but also noted that their coaches were males.  Of course it makes me wonder why male coaches – something I will figure out later but it is a wonderful example of how male coaches impact the lives of young women in sports!
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What was the most striking for me though was watching Kim’s 80 + grandmother dance on the stadium bench as she and her husband cheered their granddaughter on.  This lovely woman was entirely present, engaged and completely free in expressing herself.  Now, that is the spirit I want to always have in my life because it is so rare to see people live in the moment and fullness of life!  And even more touching was how her husband supported her – they seem to just mesh together!
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Kim’s entire family, from grandparents to parents to siblings and in-laws and cousins and nieces…. were all there to support her and her team.  As a matter of fact, Kim is the only one from Ottawa on the team (the Laurier University is 5 hours away in Waterloo) but it seems that half the Stadium was there to support her!  Now, imagine the strength of that kind of support in a family.  People could have chosen to be anywhere else but they chose to support Kim and in so doing also supported a community of young women.  What a blessing it is for her grandparents to be able to still enjoy this time with her.
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Kim’s parents make the effort to attend every game she plays.  It was so touching yesterday as I listened to her dad who told me that he would have loved to take the whole team out to dinner to celebrate their victory, if they were not leaving right away to go back to Waterloo.  Her sister Julie told me that she anticipated that they would win so she brought them champagne, which was in her car, so they could celebrate on the bus!  Whether they won or not, they would have still received the champagne!  How sweet!  The treats were not just for Kim – the family ensures that the entire team is supported.
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I reflect on how my son treats her – with the utmost love and respect.  By showing up at her games and ensuring that he is present in what she loves to do is affirming and supporting of her growth and dreams.  Not only does my son go along but he also pulls my daughter and myself along too! Knowing that she was coming to Ottawa, he spent Friday night preparing special BBQ chicken for her to take back with her on Saturday.  Now… what more can I say?  He wore the Laurier cap at the game – this boy is just in love!
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Spending time with my daughter and my son in supporting Kim is important for me just as the rest of all the things I do.  My daughter is beginning to learn how her brother treats his girlfriend, she is being exposed  to another  family who selflessly supports each other – she is seeing the role models all around her and I am sure it will influence her choices in life.
So what is the point of this blog?  It is simply a reflection of how we collectively shape our young women and men within a supportive family and community structure. We all play a vital role in affirming and re-affirming each other in a positive way and the more opportunities we create for such activities, the stronger we grow as a community.  That family structure is what needs to be protected more than anything else to build men and women who can face life fearlessly and contribute meaningfully to society.  Even when a complete family structure  is not present, it is important for us step outside of our comfort zones and find support to develop our skills and talents.
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TuneIn to examine your role in the lives of the women around you.  StepUp to support them to live their fullest potential that allows them to be free in their spirit.  A free spirit  is unstoppable!
Love,
Magdalene